Happy Tuesday, friends!
Well, today, I’m going to talk about something that I’ve never shared before. #shocking
You know how I love a good PSA. God gave me this crazy little platform and often times, I feel him nudge me to make sure I’m encouraging you ladies to take care of yourselves in some way or another. For instance…
…over the years, I have really tried to encourage you ladies to get skin checks…
…because I was THE IDIOT who baked in tanning beds for years between high school and college and unfortunately, have paid the price for it. I now have to get bi-annually skin checks and have a few gnarly scars to remind me to take care of my skin. I also realized a few years ago that I could remind and encourage women to check on their breasts as well…
…thanks to family history and an unfortunate body composition in that area, I’m about to have my SEVENTH mammogram in three years. Whether you do mammograms, other types of scans, visit your OBGYN and/or do monthly self-checks, do something to keep an eye on that part of your body too. And then, I’ve shared A TON about my myofunctional issues…
…and how getting my tonsils removed, wearing braces and three years of therapy turned my facial structure from this to…
…whew! The main thing myofunctional therapy did was help me prevent teeth loss (I already had lost one!) and eliminated SO MUCH PAIN.
So, today, I’m going to share something else that I have been doing. I’ve thought about sharing this for years now and have always talked myself out of it, but for whatever the reason, I’ve decided that today is the day. For the last four years, I have been doing hormone replacement therapy.
Now, I’m not going to get too personal. I talk about this with my friends and family all the time (it’s no secret), but it’s not something I thought I needed to share on the internet until now. I’m not going to share my specifics (because everyone is different and you don’t need to know my stuff to have your stuff checked out), but I thought I might at least encourage some of you to have the hormone talk with your doctor. Way back in the days of infertility…
…they never could quite pinpoint why I wasn’t able to get pregnant, but the topic of hormones came up quite frequently. At the age of 25, my hormones were already very much off (and probably had been for years). So, it wasn’t named the cause of my infertility but it was very much discussed. After I was finally able to get pregnant (twice!) and survived my myofunctional days, we were living in that rental house , building our house and working on our adoption when I told my doctor about some just icky symptoms/feelings I had and he suggested I have my hormones tested…
…and they were crazy off.
So, over the next TWO YEARS, I tried different methods (both homeopathic and prescription drugs) and couldn’t quite get it right (seeing multiple doctors) until a little over two years ago when I started getting hormone injections every two weeks. Between that and a fistful of pills every day (both natural supplements and prescription drugs), I finally have my hormones stable and the symptoms are no longer there. There have been three times over the last two years when I haven’t been able to keep my bi-monthly appointment for my shot (both trips to China plus another vacation) and I honest to goodness could tell the difference.
So, my name is Shay and I do hormone replacement therapy…and I’m happy about it.
Today, I feel great, have energy, my body is performing better, I’m not sluggish, my skin is more clear, and on and on and on and on.
So, my PSA for today is that you simply ask your doctor to check your hormones at your next appointment. Information is power, right? Maybe your hormones are perfectly fine…or maybe they’re not? What I’ve learned over the past four years is that there are a plethora of ways to go about correcting hormone problems. For those of you who love natural, holistic approaches, there’s that and for those of you who want to see your MD about everything, there’s that too.
So…I can’t be the only person out there who does Hormone Replacement Therapy. Raise your hand if you do it too! I would love a little reassurance from my friends 😉 . Please comment and share if this is something you’ve done, thought about, you’re interested in it…just whatever. We’re ladies and we have to stick together on our health, right?! xo
Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog says
This is a good reminder for us woman, Shay! Thank you for sharing your story, too. Information really is power. Stay beautiful! ❤️
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Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
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Leslie Hull says
It’s so so important to have hormones checked! Thank you for being public about this!
Crissy Talley says
Thank you for sharing!!!! I have had my hormones tested several times over the past ten years ( I am 45) and still struggle with getting the right combination of treatment. I would love any advice or recommendations that you might have. Also, men need to get there’s tested! Blessings on you!
Molly Cochran says
Thanks for sharing! Have you every had your thyroid levels checked? It’s amazing how awful you can feel if they are off, and sometimes being in the “normal range” doesn’t mean your levels are optimal.
Mix and Match Mama says
Yup, one of my pills is for my thyroid.
Lindsey says
I take armour thyroid and it has changed my life! I had my thyroid removed and spent too long on another brand before I made the switch to armour. I would love if you shared the daily vitamins you take! This post is awesome! I’m glad to read that you are human!
Sara says
What is armour thyroid? I have also had my thyroid removed (cancer 4 years ago) but I have only ever taken Synthroid.
April A says
It’s a natural thyroid replacement made from pigs thyroid. My daughter takes this one because Synthroid didn’t work for her. It was literally life changing for her. I tried it but it didn’t work for me and I’m on Levothyroxin
Kacey M says
Synthroid is a synthetic that only contains T4.
Armour is from dedicated pig thyroid and is T3 and T4. My body does not convert T4 to T3 when it’s needed therefore I need both T3 and T4 in my med.
Synthroid doesn’t work for me.
I felt like poop when I was on it.
A lot of drs don’t like Armour
I’ve been on it
15 years and it works beautifully for me
Hillary says
I’ve been on 3 thyroid meds or a combo…Synthroid, Armour Thyroid, and NP Armour. All effect different parts of thyroid function. Often I am the most stable on a combo. And I agree that you can be in “normal” range and still feel horrible. The trick is finding where in the “normal” range you need to be to feel your best.
Sarah Altman says
Armour Thyroid is awesome! Such a good alternative to other brands. Lots of different supplements (and diet) can help balance hormones. What type of supplements are you interested in?
Katy says
I would be interested to know about armor thyroid, too!!
Erika Slaughter says
So so glad you shared this today!! I’m sure there are women reading now who could benefit.
Connie says
Agree! It means so much that you’re willing to share this. Thanks for being so honest and informative about your journey.
Rachel says
You know, I’ve often wondered if my hormones were out of wack but never thought to ask my dr. to check! Thanks for the encouragement and being open about this!
Elspeth Mizner says
One of the reasons i love your blog is how open and honest you are. Thank you for sharing your joys and struggles! We all go through different things and it’s reassuring we aren’t going through them alone.
Darcy says
Agreed! 🙂
Paula says
I am 41 and started 1 year ago. A shot every week. ? And low dose thyroid medication as well.
Erica @ Whimsical September says
I learned something new today because I’ve never heard of this! I love that you use your platform to share this type of thing with your readers, as it gives everyone reading something to put in our toolbox of options to consider down the road if/when needed.
Melissa says
Exactly! I hadn’t heard of it until Dr. Phil’s wife shared her story on his show. I think most women go through life and think it’s OK to be off balance and then (later) experience horrible menopause symptoms. So glad you shared, Shay!
Xenia says
I agree…
Karah Stracener says
Thank you for sharing and being so transparent. I have a family member currently going through this and trying to get her hormones straightened out. It’s always nice to hear that other women go through the same thing. Happy Tuesday, I hope you have a great day.
Lyssa says
I had uterine cancer in 2014 and ever since have been on HRT. It was the only thing that stopped all the menopausal symptoms I was having, as well as insomnia [though I am still an awful sleeper, but i’m better at least than I was]. I was really young when I got cancer. I definitely feel the difference between being on my hormones and off the hormones. It’s done a lot of messed up things to my body [i gained a lot of weight, I have thyroid issues, and my breasts have grown so much that I’m considering reduction surgery this year if my insurance covers it], but at least I feel like me again mentally
Mary Elizabeth says
Thank you! I needed this. I’ve been struggling since having my second child one year ago. I know some issues are hormonal related and they started the day she was born. I thought I was the only thirty something struggling so bad so this really hit home with me for you to open up too.
Michelle says
Hormone therapy has saved me! I get bioidentical testosterone and progesterone. I thought I was broken and was headed straight for divorce! The hormones have quite literally saved my life!! Get em ladies!
Adrienne Mullins says
Thanks so much for sharing this post! I have very low estrogen levels and had to do IVF for my biological children. MDs keep recommending birth control to increase levels, but I always have ick side effects. You may purposefully not be sharing too much, but I would so love any more details you would be willing to share of what homeopathics, prescription, etc medications you’re on.
Mix and Match Mama says
I decided to keep those details to myself. What I’ve learned over the last four years is that everyone’s body is different and requires not only different supplements/drugs but different dosages too. I would say to have your levels tested by someone who knows hormones and then go from there. It took a lot of “playing around” with different combinations to find one that works for me.
Kelly Franks says
Were you tested at your OB or by a primary care doctor? Alot of your symptoms sound similar to mine but I never thought to check out my hormones. Thanks for always being so open!
Mix and Match Mama says
My OB sent me to a primary care doctor and that really got the ball rolling.
Amanda McGill says
Adrienne you just made a lightbulb go off in my head! After the birth of my second daughter my husband and I decided our family was complete. He had a vascetomy and I finally was able to go off of the pill. I started having horrible headaches so my Dr. recommended I stay on the pill with a very low does of estrogen. When I go off of it, my headaches are intolerable. I really don’t want to take it the rest of my life but no Dr. has ever suggested an alternative. Another ugly side effect, I can no longer tolerate alcohol of any kind. The headaches are just too bad!
Erin says
Talk to your doctor about bio identical hormones. There are a lot of ways you can take hormones that may be safer, long term, than birth control pills!
Robin says
Yes! It’s so important that the hormones you take are bio identical! So important.Robin
Diane says
Alcohol is a known migraine trigger as are hormone fluctuations. It’s possible you are experiencing migraines. You may want to look into that and see if other symptoms coincide with your experiences.
Sarah says
Not quite sure what your symptoms are, but check out Dr. Fowler. I have been seeing his for a year and he has been the only Dr. Willing to help me. Here is his website. Just thought I would share. http://www.fowlergyninternational.com
Denise says
Thanks for sharing. I would be interested in knowing some of your symptoms. Because I sometimes think that something is off but not quite sure. I guess that’s a sign I should have mine checked 🙂
Mix and Match Mama says
Yup 🙂
Jen says
I have been on hormones since June of this year. I am currently on a patch to replace what I lost when I had my surgery.
Allison says
I have actually been contemplating getting mine tested based on how I’ve been feeling over the last year. Thanks for the encouragement and helping me to realize this is normal and ok to admit that maybe something is off.
Narci says
I love that you are sharing this today! This is going to be so helpful to so many ladies out there today!
Susan cardy says
Wow! Thank you for sharing! I’m seeing an endocrinologist tomm(after a 7 month wait for an appt!) to do just that! Last year, after 8 years of extreme fatigue and other symptoms, I found out that I had a grape size benign growth behind my thyroid on my parathyroid gland—you wouldn’t even believe how many women have this….turns out once it’s taken out, ALL the symptoms go away!!!!! Crazy! And believe it or not, the only “flag” is a high blood calcium reading….anyway, read about “hyperparathyroidism” if you get a minute—crazy…..and my appt tomm is to talk hormone levels now that the other stuff has been fixed!!!!
Gloria says
Susan,
Did they do any other testing to find the growth on your parathyroid gland. I have every symptom of the parathyroid disease and calcium is slightly elevated in blood work but bc it’s not considered high the endo dr says I’m fine!! Thank you for sharing your info!
Terry Pitzer says
I had severe undiagnosed parathyroid disease 15 years ago. Once diagnosed, I researched and contacted Dr. Norman in Tampa. He was the only one who specialized in minimally invasive surgery then. He ordered a sestimibe scan to locate the affected parathyroid. The test was done by my local hospital. They found nothing. Dr, Norman repeated the test in Florida and found a tumor the size of a large lemon. That’s the gold,standard test but requires being injected with radiation.
Marie says
To be honest thing like this frighten me without knowing symptoms. How I would I know I should get my hormones checked? I understand keeping details private but I think I’m going to WebMD for 20 mins
Mix and Match Mama says
Just ask your doctor to do a blood test and check. They can read the results and tell you right there if your hormones are in the normal range or not. From there, you guys can formulate a plan if necessary.
Amanda Plano says
I feel like you were a little vague here. Maybe telling us your symptoms or if you don’t want to directly share that, an idea of what symptoms of hormone issues would be.
Kinda left that a mystery.
Mix and Match Mama says
I was vague on purpose. I don’t feel super comfortable sharing my own symptoms and problems which is why it’s taken four years to blog about it. But my symptoms and problems don’t mean you can’t get your own hormone levels tested at your next annual exam. I just don’t feel like people have to know my stuff in order to make sure their stuff is in line.
Cathy says
Agree.
Christina McCoy says
So glad you shared!! You are so sweet to think of your readers and want to help them out. You shared plenty and THANK YOU ?
Ashley Pate says
Shay!!! We have to get together for you to tell me more! I’ve been researching bioidenticals for the past year or so-I had my levels checked (which were way off) but I was taking a prescription to control heavy periods. I had an ablation last week and my doctor wants to re-check my levels again in a couple months. For years, my previous doctor kept telling me “you’re just getting old” ?.
Karla says
How was the ablation? Painful? Are you put to sleep? It’s something I want to look into. I’m currently experiencing long periods. Thanks so much!
Tammy says
My thyroid was completely out of wack for a few years and once I got my thyroid issue in control I saw such a huge improvement in overall health ! I still go get my hormones checked, but I’m not so great with getting my skin checked. This post is a great reminder that I NEED to go to the dermatologist ASAP ! Thank you Shay, great post !
Nicola says
I’m SO glad you’re starting the conversation on this topic! I’m 29, struggling to get pregnant & trying to balance my hormones naturally through diet (using herbs & spices). As a foodie, you should definitely check this lady out (Magdalena at herbsforbalance.com). I LOVE her Danelion & Ashwaganda Lattes as coffee replacements and have seen SUCH a difference since I’ve discovered how much my diet influences my hormones (not that this is the same for everyone but it is definitely an option). Thanks for opening up, I often look at your life and don’t see the struggles & often feel alone in my journey. This definitely obliterated that feeling ?
Sheaffer Sims says
I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again. The way you attack ALL issues head on is inspiring. You GET THINGS DONE. Now, if you could make my appointment with my ortho, that would be great. 😉
Bailey Bryant says
This is irrelevant to hormones, but are you a High School Musical fan?! I noticed your shirt. 🙂
Kelly Sites says
#metoo I had horrible trouble sleeping and felt awful all of the time, when usually I had great energy and stamina and a great attitude 🙂 I saw a specialist and my hormones were all out of whack (I am also on Thyroid meds). I feel amazing and sleep better, and it’s worth it. Thanks for sharing. I appreciate this about your blog, that you share personal things so that others can get better or know more. Hugs.
Ashley Cueto says
Hi Shay. Thanks for sharing this. Would it be possible for you to share what your symptoms were? Thanks again for being so open and honest with your readers!
Mix and Match Mama says
Symptoms run the gamut! They can be anything from night sweats to acne to heavy periods, PMS, no sexual drive, exhaustion, trouble sleeping…there are so many and affect women completely different.
Kristine G. says
Thanks for sharing! I discovered I had hypothyroidism when I couldn’t get pregnant. Those darn hormones affect everything! On a side note, I got my first skin check this year because of you. Thank you!
Angela Ellingson says
I’ve had hormonal issues my whole life (33 now). I’m currently trying some diet changes. I’ve seen one major result. Hoping for more. Thanks for sharing.
Sarah Altman says
Thats awesome you have seen a major result! My hormones used to be so out of whack as well, and changing my diet helped so much! What have you changed?
Kim says
Thanks for sharing! Was it your gyn or another doctor that did the testing? I have asked for it because I’m convinced my hormones are off but my doctor didn’t agree with me and wouldn’t do the testing. I wonder if I’m not asking the right doctor for it.
Mix and Match Mama says
It was my OBGYN that did the initial testing. Just a blood test to check my thyroid, progesterone, estrogen and testosterone.
Kelly B. says
This may be the nudge I needed. I NEVER have energy and my PMS is AWFUL! Like flip the biggest switch awful and I feel so out of control during it all and my heart breaks for my family that they have to witness it. Anyone know if hormone levels that are off can make PMS worse?
Melinda says
Yes!! I had horrific pms then read “the period repair manual”. For the last year I’ve been taking a variety of herbs and vitamins based on my specific symptoms and my pms completely disappeared 🙂 apparently, I’m estrogen dominant. My obgyn refused to test anything and just wanted to put me on birth control.
Chrystianne Santos says
Kelly B., have you spoken to your doctor about PMDD? I am a completely different human being once I am done ovulating and PMS kicks in. It is not pretty. PMDD only affects a very small portion of the female population, but that is also because it is not that widely spoken about. It is becoming a lot more common for women to speak up lately and there are many groups to help women through their symptoms. This post though has me thinking that aside from my PMDD, I should also get my hormones checked to see if there is anything else that is out of whack that may aggravate my PMDD.
Jennifer Wilcox says
I, too struggled with infertility and am now struggling with some issues that don’t need further discussion. Its a little crazy that you posted this because I was just talking to my husband about getting in touch with my doctor about these issues. You just gave me the push to give her a call to get together to talk about what’s going on. Thank you!!
Rachel says
Over a year ago I was having so many issues. I asked my OBGYN if we could test my hormone levels and her response was “there is no such thing as a test for hormones.” And completely shot down me and my concerns, basically saying my only option would be birth control. Time for a new doctor? Problem is now I don’t know what to ask for or how to specify my concerns and feel heard. So frustrating.
Mix and Match Mama says
I get a blood test every six weeks to test mine. It shows my thyroid, progesterone, estrogen and testosterone. From there, your doctor should be able to tell if you’re within the normal range of each or not.
Erin says
My OBGYN has me on estrogen and testosterone but I don’t get my blood tested iften. Wondering if I should push for it. Do you adjust your medicine based on your lab results?
Sharon says
Ask for a reference to an endocrinologist.
Sharon says
I think it was very smart and wise of you to be vague about your symptoms and regimen yet still let women know that I they are feeling ‘off’ to get it checked. As you said, every body is different. It is beyond important for women to individually speak to their health care team about this and all issues. For some, hormone replacement therapy is not the answer and messing with your hormones on your own or just following what someone else is doing is ill advised.
Mix and Match Mama says
Absolutely!
Kristin says
I used an estrogen patch for six months, and then had to have a breast biopsy for an atypical mass. I stopped the estrogen immediately because of the connection between it and breast cancer. If it’s not too personal, could you share how you are able to feel safe using hormone therapy with your family breast history? I felt better and slept SOOO much better when I used the estrogen, that I would love to be able to safely feel that way again!! I understand if it’s not something you want to talk about. Thanks!
Jennifer says
I’m curious about that as well 🙂 I know your under a physicians care, but I’d be interested in hearing why it is safe for you to take hormones with that risk.
(BTW- I just finished treatment for breast cancer at 35. I’m still suffering the effects of chemo, (and I really miss my estrogen!) but hormones are absolutely out of the question for me due to the increased risk of recurrence.)
Marie Claas says
I take thyroid medication for underactive thyroid, and it makes a huge difference to how i feel. But now you have me wondering if there are more levels to be checked. Thank you for sharing this. Last time you encouraged all of us to take care of ourselves and get to all our check-ups, i made all my appointments. I had been lazy, and my kids stuff came first always. Now i am on track for the past year! So thank you!!! And please keep encouraging us!
Vicki Leuck says
Thank you for sharing! That is all. ?
Beth says
Thank you so much for this post, Shay. I’m 24 and it wasn’t until two years ago that I realized my symptoms weren’t just PMS. I was able to get my symptoms to a manageable level with my doctor and I couldn’t be more thankful. Now I’m studying hormones and reproduction and I’m shocked at all the worrisome symptoms I had since high school and I had no idea.
Jessica Simmons says
Thanks for sharing! Do you have any tips to reduce scars from all those skin checks? I’ve got some gnarly ones myself ?
Mix and Match Mama says
Urg. I made sure and covered my scar for a year after when I went into the sun. I bought this medical tape that I would put on top of it every time I swam and such.
Jodi says
May I ask the tape? I recently had thyroid surgery and need it covered this summer on my neck… Thanks! 😉
Mix and Match Mama says
I bought it off amazon. It’s waterproof medical tape. I don’t remember the brand.
Melissa says
Thank you for sharing this! I actually have an appointment on a Monday to get my hormones tested. I have had issues for YEARS and had a variety of symptoms and I’m in my late 20s. I’ve never known anyone to go through this so now I know I’m not the only one!
SAM says
Hi Shay!
Thank you for sharing this important post. Question- did you address this issue with your general physician/ internist or gynecologist? ?
Mix and Match Mama says
The convo started with my OBGYN and then went from there.
Sara says
Shay,
I appreciate your openness and encouragement to women to take a proactive role in their health, and it sounds like hormones have made a great difference in your life. As a health care provider, I feel that I should comment and mention that just asking a medical provider to “check your hormones” is not the best option. You mentioned thyroid, which is a common lab to check when patients have specific symptoms such as temperature sensitivity, fatigue, and weight changes. However, there are so many other hormones that can be checked, with varying degrees of significance and many that are extremely expensive. Getting “hormones” checked on an annual basis is not recommended by the USPSTF, and is not considered a screening measure like an annual mammogram or skin check. If women have specific questions about symptoms they are having, they need have have a conversation about this and potential testing with their doctor. Many hormone treatments have a large side effect profile, and patients need to be aware of this as well.
Kelly says
Yes! I have asked to have mine checked (due to input from others, etc) and have been told it isn’t a good indicator of much since hormones are in constant flux. While it is insanely frustrating not to have answers as to why my body is out of wack, simply “getting your hormones checked” isn’t as easy or useful for everyone. I’m not knocking Shay! I wish it were “that simple” for everyone to get answers about health.
Mix and Match Mama says
A four year journey and four doctors isn’t exactly simple 😉 .
Julie says
That’s exactly what my doc told me. Discouraging and makes it sound like it’s almost impossible to accurately test for this. I just kind of gave up after talking with my gyn a couple times about it.
Sarah Altman says
find a different doctor that will listen to you! You can get an accurate judge or your hormones through labs (saliva and/or blood) and by charting symptoms. Some docs just don’t want to listen!
KimW says
completely agree.
Carrie says
I agree whole heartedly with this statement!
Deb says
I’ve been on bioidentical HRT for years! It’s amazing the difference it’s made in my life (and marriage). I get blood work twice a year to stay on top and of things. Thank you Shay, for sharing this important subject! Get your hormones checked ladies, it’s life changing!!
Robin says
Same. Saved my life.
Missy says
How long did it take for thyroid meds to make a difference? Would love to hear from a few of you
Mix and Match Mama says
It’s hard for me to single out one thing…but I do think the combo I’m on now is working and that includes a thyroid pill.
MARIE CLAAS says
I think it takes at least a month. When they change my dosage, they don’t even check my levels for at least one month.
Laura says
Thank you Shay for sharing! I just got a lab script from my doctor to test my hormone panels because I’ve been feeling “off”. Glad to know I’m not alone?
Melissa Titensor says
Thanks for sharing! I have been doing hormone therapy for 4 years. I am just starting over on finding the right combo after having my son and nursing. Its crazy how much hormones can affect you! I know there are so many women that think it’s just “normal”, but it’s not. Get those levels checked!
Angie says
Yep. Thought about it. Had them checked by gynecologist. He said everything was in normal range. I knew they were off. Went to HRT center and got checked. Naturally they said they were off. Had just for me hormone concoction made for me and then a couple of my friends told me they had HRT and it caused them major depression problems. It took them a long while to get that fixed. So I canceled my appointment and gave it to God. Day by day my symptoms got better and diminished. He healed me. I have now gone through menopause and the only symptom I have from time to time is an occasional hot flash. And they are not bad ones. Not saying anyone can’t benefit from HRT, I’m just saying really pray about what you should do and don’t let anyone tell you that you don’t have a problem nor let anyone talk you into something without much prayer.
Jessica says
Crazy that you posted this today. I actually have an appointment this afternoon to get my thyroid checked because of all my symptoms. Ive felt “off” for a LONG time now, and just thought that was my new normal. Then had a miscarriage in May, and now with more symptoms popping up I realized that it shouldn’t be my new normal and I shouldn’t be feeling this way. Thanks for sharing!
Andrea says
Make sure you ask if they checked your thyroid antibodies. I have Hashimotos disease which attacks the tyroid, but it went undiagnosed for years because my thyroid levels remained in the normal range, despite a whole host of symptoms, and they weren’t checking antibodies. By the time I was diagnosed, my thyroid was almost completely damaged.
Rebecca Jo says
I’ve been intrigued with this being 46 & perimenopausal – but my OB/GYN of 25 years told me its not healthy… but I hear of friends having amazing results so I dont know what to do about it.
Linda says
Second opinion!
Angie says
Hi Shay! I promise I’m not going to comment and ask about your symptoms (that’s personal stuff!) 😉 All I’m going to say is, you look SO MUCH like your mom in that mammogram photo!! (your mom is gorgeous and looks so young!) So there’s a random comment for you – ha! Thank you for sharing and I’m so glad you found a combination of treatments that work for you!
Missy B says
Hi there.. I’m raising my hand with you. I’m 43 and have been using hormones for about 8 years. It has been life changing. I had symptoms of pre-menopause that were pretty severe. Thank you for sharing!!!
Lynn Baker says
Thanks for sharing! I asked my gynecologist to check my hormones and she refused-said the levels constantly change so the test was useless?
Guess I should ask my primary doctor!
I too baked in the sun and tanning beds and have had lots of moles removed-Wish I listened to my mom and didn’t go to tanning beds! My 15 year old daughter is much wiser-she wears sunscreen and doesn’t layout in The Sun?
Gardner says
Shay, this timing is perfect as I should be receiving results from my thyroid panel today. I had a baby 6 months ago and it was a traumatic delivery that caused some major scares for her (and me), and I am just now processing all that happened and literally my body is physically responding to trauma as well as just all the emotional hormones from breastfeeding and being an exhausted mom! So this was just such an encouragement to read as I have been struggling with anxiety about her health, and now my health, and I’m just grateful for you and the ladies commenting how that just haven’t felt like themselves. I decided to be proactive because I know how important it is to take care of myself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually and am finding ways to do that through counseling, getting out in sunshine, doing some yoga, and trying to extend lots of grace to myself. 🙂
Julie Luker says
Thank you for sharing. I’m 33 and had a full hysterectomy this past August. I have been on a patch with a low dose of estrogen since, but I am about to begin the process for bioidentical hormones. A little nervous.
Thank you again for sharing what you have been through. It gives so many women so much encouragement.
Carolina says
Dear Shay, you inspire me in more ways than you can imagine, thank you for sharing and encouraging other woman to be in the best place for us and for our families, God bless your beautiful heart!!
Jennifer says
Bio Identical Hormone Testing is the best thing I have ever done….for my FAMILY! It totally was a game changer! I have friends who think it is “Not Safe.” But my doctor and I are up on all the latest and I feel so much better, more calm, not as irritable, able to sleep through the night, etc… So worth it!
Ronda Petrin says
Hi Shay,
I know you don’t want to share symptoms, and that is understandable. I hope this question does not fall under that. Earlier in the post you mentioned you have had repeated mammograms, so there is something you are monitoring. I am a 4 year Breast Cancer Survivor, and my cancer was Estrogen and Progesterone positive. I also saw you mentioned the OB/GYN was the doctor who put you on hormones. I am assuming they are not concerned with hormones affecting whatever you are monitoring with the mammograms?
I have horrible menopausal symptoms and I am seriously considering something to help. Thank you for sharing!
Mix and Match Mama says
Yes, you’re correct. My OBGYN is happy with the results of my hormone therapy and not concerned about it affecting my breast issues.
Ronda Petrin says
Thank you for answering! Love watching your adventures with those kids. You are truly a blessing to them all.
Heather says
Ronda – My mother is an 18 year breast cancer survivor and although medicine has advanced greatly in these past 18 years (thank goodness), because of the type of cancer she had (Estrogen positive) my ob/gyns – I have seen several over the years, still agree not doing HRT is my best bet. I totally understand where we aren’t all alike and what works for one doesn’t work for all. However, I must say I am surprised that not more women have posted to say HRT is not for everybody. I have done a lot of research about the HRT debate, and it is pretty evenly divided on risk/benefit. I think that is the bigger factor that needs to be considered along with family history…does the benefit of HRT outweigh the possible risk? That is such a personal choice and one that should be thoroughly discussed with medical professionals. Congrats on your 4 years!!!!
Ronda Petrin says
Thank you! I know I’m scared to venture out into that area considering I was ER/PR positive, but these hot flashes have GOT to go! Plus I’m exhausted all of the time too. Ugh
Sarah Altman says
I agree that their are pros and cons to HRT, and that it may not be for everyone. There are other ways to impact your hormones though: diet, HIT exercises, addressing thyroid issues, etc. I’ve done so many of them with great results. (I’m not against BHRT) though, just agreeing that the research is split and there are other options!
Cherie says
I’ll raise my hand and say HRT absolutely changed my life! Four years ago I was constantly exhausted, couldn’t sleep, my brain was “foggy”, my hair was thinning, my libido was low and I was gaining weight for no reason. A female doctor I knew in Coppell had left her gyno practice and opened a practice focused on helping women (and men) through bio-identical hormone replacement therapy. I literally felt like a new person within 3 months and now I tell everyone I know to try it because it has made such a tremendous difference in my life. I’m glad it helps you too, Shay!
Sam Watts says
Do you truly think the label “infertile” applies to you? You didn’t even try naturally for a year before starting this alleged treatment. Most women who struggle with getting pregnant do in fact struggle for YEARS and most doctors don’t even talk to you about pregnancy struggles until after at LEAST a solid year of trying. I think you are extremely insensitive to what the definition of true infertility is. And to say you couldn’t get pregnant and struggled with infertility and were pregnant within a year is complete bullshit. Shame on you.
Mix and Match Mama says
I tried to get pregnant naturally and it didn’t work…and then I spent a long time trying to conceive with help from the doctor and that didn’t work either. Trust me, in that moment, when I was on so many fertility drugs and giving myself injections in the stomach, I felt very much like someone with fertility problems.
April A says
I’m sorry you have to deal with such negativity when you’re only trying to help spread awareness about certain issues. While a lot of your life is public on here you have every right to keep any part of it private. This isn’t an open diary.
My daughter’s thyroid is non functioning and she’s been on thyroid medicine since her early teens. Her thyroid issues caused her to lose her first baby. It’s a serious matter that often times is overlooked because “hormonal issues” doesn’t seem likely for women in their 20’s and 30’s. It’s NEVER too soon to get checked out, especially if something just feels off. Trust your gut instincts!
Kristin says
Everyone does not have the same story, nor is it kind to tell someone how to feel. If her doctor was willing to work with her and help her, there was a reason for that. We may not even know the full story and spoiler alert – she doesn’t have to share it. Kindness goes a long way.
Bri says
Wow. To write a comment like this to someone you don’t know about a journey you were not a part of is what’s really insensitive.
I really hope negative comments like this don’t stop you from sharing with us in the future, Shay. 🙁 you are helping so many!
Kelly says
I truly find it stunning and incredibly unkind that you would say such things. Her pain and struggles may be different from yours, however that makes them no less real . Shay is incredibly gracious to share her experiences to encourage others- and while you may be hurting deeply from your own circumstances, but she doesn’t deserve your terrible unkindness. No one does.
Cori says
I don’t understand how any woman who went through any kind of infertility/problems getting pregnant would feel the need to discuss how somebody else’s issues weren’t as bad as theirs. Like there’s a specific time frame you have to deal with it before you’re allowed to feel like you went through something really hard. I, too, had problems getting pregnant/what I personally call infertility issues. I know the heartache and roller coaster emotions that are included in that when month after month after month you get a negative test, when the thoughts enter your mind that you may never have a baby…. so I canNOT imagine telling another woman who dealt with these same awful things that their journey wasn’t “hard enough” to be called infertility. Shay, I’m so sorry that anybody would make you feel like you needed to justify just how hard things were for you and whether or not infertile can “apply to you” #imsorryWHAT?! HUGS!!!!
Laura @ Fantastically Four says
Shay, I love how open you are. This is going to help a lot of women! ❤
Kelly says
Shay, one of the things that I appreciate most about you is that you use your influence to help others and you are not afraid to show that life is not “perfect”. As an older reader ( like your mom’s age “older”), I know from life experience that we are all dealing with something. If not now, then in the past or in the future, but we all have “something”. Thank you for being so open about your “somethings” in order to help others and to show that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful!;) Have the best Tuesday, Shay!
Veronica says
Shay!! I appreciate you sharing this so much. I have several issues that I have felt embarrassed to talk about, so I felt alone. That’s not a good feeling either 🙂 so thank you for sharing.
Stephanie says
Would you consider sharing (either publicly or privately)what some of your symptoms were? I have certain symptoms that I think may be related to hormone imbalance, but I’m not sure. If you’re not comfortable doing this I totally get it.
Tracey S says
I’m sure that folks say this all the time, but I know that if we were living in the same little city at the same time, we would definitely be buddies. You are easy to relate to, transparent, and funny. Your faith to act on God’s little nudges is inspiring, and I’m sure you see the fruit every time you act on that! Thank you for sharing!! =)
Kara McKinley says
I do HRT also. I will say to anyone considering it, you have to go to an MD that specializes in HRT. I go through my OB/GYN. It is seriously the best thing I have ever done!! Thank you for sharing this, Shay. Ladies we do not have to suffer from the side effects of awful hormone imbalances. Seriously, it’s amazing!
Yoga Girl says
Shay,
Thank you for sharing such a personal medical issue. I understand wanting to keep details private and I am really greatful for your openness and the sense of community you have created with your work. Knowing you are not alone and that others struggle too helps us be kinder to ourselves and others. If you feel comfortable sharing the name of the test the doctors order for your blood work, it would be appreciated but if not I understand. I hope you continue to have good health. Love your blog!
KA says
Shay – thank you for your post. While hormone replacement therapy can give relief from symptoms and make one feel better there is another side to this. Long term HRT can play a part in breast cancer. As a 10 year user of bio identical HRT due to urging by my gynecologist, I developed Triple Negative breast cancer where HRT played a role. No family history of breast cancer. My oncologist has shared with me the concern of so many gynecologists recommending HRT. I am good now, but that is not the outcome for many. This side of the HRT story needs to play a role in your post. While HRT has great benefits, it can also have serious consequences.
Tara Friedmann says
Hi Shay! I read your blog on the daily and just want to thank you for reminding me after years of hormonal imbalances I need to finally look into getting a handle on it! I have PCOS and have 1 clomid baby and IUI boy/girl twins and struggled with infertility for years. Your post today woke me up and I will for sure be calling my doctor today! Keep sharing and being as open as you want because every story can help so many along the way. ?
Deb says
Thank you Shay for sharing your struggle with this. I think you shared all that is needed to give anyone wondering if they have problems with hormones to do some checking into it.
Shannon Proctor says
Shay, thank you for sharing this information today! I was just talking to my friend about wanting to get my hormones tested. I wasn’t sure if I needed to go to a specialist or just my ob/gyn. It always seems like I read your posts on the days I need it most! Thank you for putting yourself out there!
Julie says
I understand wanting to be vague so that people don’t draw too much from your personal experience in their own decision making, but I feel like just saying “icky” symptoms is soooo vague. Is there a way you could talk about symptoms without giving a comprehensive list of everything you were experiencing? It would be helpful because I’m sure just showing up at your doctor’s office and saying “check my hormones” without knowing what said hormones could be affecting might not go well.
Mix and Match Mama says
Symptoms range from night sweats, insomnia, low sex drive, exhaustion, acne and on and on and on…if you’re feeling fine and your best self, maybe you don’t need any testing? I just think women sometimes neglect their own health/way they’re feeling when a good convo with their doctor could potentially help them.
Amber says
I’m 36, 1 week away from 37, and had a full hysterectomy 3.5 weeks ago. I go see my dr at 6 weeks post op to see how I’m naturally handling the menopausal/hormone symptoms and to discuss what steps I’d like to take next. As of now, I’m handling all the effects fine, I get slightly annoyed with them but not anything I can’t handle. I’d like to be able to handle everything without doing any sort of HRT. I’m scared of all the side effects that are associated with HRT. My plan is to find a natural vitamin balance that will keep me good. I have stomach issues so I try to avoid any oral prescriptions. I’ve done some research and I think if I do eventually have to do some HRT I’ll probably start with a patch. I just know this entire journey has been super overwhelming!! I’m glad you’ve been able to find a solution for yourself.
Keisha Dawson says
Thanks so much for sharing this! I have had a few different things pop up with my body over the past three months, and I think this may be exactly what is causing it. Thank you for sharing to make a light bulb go off in my head!
Julie says
This is something I have been interested in for a long time. I’m 47 now and first inquired about this with my gynecologist about 8 years ago. I was a bit disappointed and discouraged by her response. I consider her to be a great doctor who I wouldn’t want to leave, but she seems very cautious and somewhat skeptical about hormone therapy, though not 100% closed off to it. She wants to tackle most issues through diet changes and exercise. I expressed an interest in a clinic in town that does bio identical hormone therapy and she really shot that idea down, saying most of those offices are in it for the big money making potential and it’s not necessary to go to one of those centers. She doesn’t seem keen on the bio identical therapies. I don’t necessarily agree with her but am at a loss. She did test me and offered a couple things (nothing about injections of any kind, mainly prescription stuff) but I’ve just sat on it and not really done much with it. I do use a natural progesterone cream from a health food store (my choice) but don’t think that’s the whole answer. I wish there was a more simple, straightforward answer to all this. I’m open to info. and look forward to hearing others’ responses. I’m glad you have found good help with this issue, Shay! I guess there is hope! (Love your blog!)
Kris says
Hi! Just wanted to add a comment as well. I am on Thyroid meds and have been for several years. About 2 years ago I started not feeling well, headaches, fatigue etc. My Nurse Practitioner did hormone testing and found that I needed testosterone and progesterone. I started the BioIdentical Hormones but just really wasn’t comfortable taking them. My NP is amazing and recommended a few Young Living Essential Oil Products as an alternative. These have been amazing and have really helped all my symptoms.
Kris says
Would you mind telling what YL products you use, Kris? I just started using YL because my daughter works with them. Would love to look into those items because my story sounds a lot like yours. From another Kris!
Amanda @ That Inspired Chick says
Love that you posted about this! It is a reminder for me to ask about this at my next appointment. My hair girl raves about her pellet! That Inspired Chick
Laci says
Agree! We know our bodies better than anyone and if something isn’t right we know! I went through a journey last year on my personal health and it has tremendously paid off for me and my family that I listened to my body! Thanks for always advocating for women’s health!
Charlotte says
Thank you for sharing this. I am 28 and have been trying to get a doctor to take me seriously about checking all my hormones. I have issues with coristol but they will not check anything else. They put me on Thyroid medicine despite my thyroid being fine. Do you mind sharing what type of doctor you saw that ended up prescribing your hormone therapy?
Mix and Match Mama says
I went to several that ranged from family medicine to endocrinology.
Charlotte says
Thanks-I will try another endocrinologist. Thank you for sharing 🙂
Mary Anne Duke says
I just have to shout out about mammograms….my daughter had a routine mammo at age 37 and we were just shocked to find out she had breast cancer! It was / is horrible but, saved her life. Do not wait … there was no reason, no lump, no bump.
I am now writing this while getting my chemo treatment. I had appendix cancer? A pain… I went in and here I am. A pain saved my life.
All this to say along with Shay, PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR BODY, and ask questions of your medical team.
Barbara Parnell says
Great PSA along with the others you’ve mentioned. So many people neglect their skin and never see a dermatologist! It’s easy and so important. Glad you found the right treatment for you and glad you kept it vague..you are right, some things are personal. Take care of your mind & body ladies..because if you don’t ,you certainly cannot be at your best for yourself or your family!
Anna says
How do they “check” your hormones? Is it a process or is it simply a blood draw? Just wondering how invasive that checking is. I appreciate your honesty about all of this, gives other women courage=)
Mix and Match Mama says
A blood draw where they’re checking your different hormone levels (for things like estrogen, testosterone, etc).
Amy says
After having a baby at 27, my period never came back so I started thyroid medicine and have been on it ever since. I am now 47 and have one ovary removed with a cervical ablation, I am now in menopause. ‘Ive tried herbal over the counter meds and now my doctor suggested Relizen . I’ve been on it a few months with some success but like another reader have terrible headaches and generally just don’t feel good. Also any drinking gives me a massive headache. Wondering about real hormone replacement but was told not a good candidate because my mom had breast cancer. I find all of this very frustrating.
Kate says
Thanks for this post, Shay. I quite literally texted two of my besties two weeks ago and said, “Is it too Shannon Beador of me to ask my doctor to check my hormone levels?” I’ve been feeling like things are off recently, and after a little googling, I realized I had a lot of the symptoms. Of course, Dr. World Wide Web can’t diagnose me, so I’m going to head to my OBGYN for this, but I do feel like opening your blog to read this today was a nudge from God to make that appointment. As always, thank you for sharing! I’ve had cancerous skin/moles removed and cysts in my breasts, too, and I think it’s so important to spread the word for everyone to get checked.
DANIELLE K RIGG says
Shay, thank you for sharing. I know how hard it can be to open up but believe me every one of your Blog entries touches someone/MANY of our hearts. You give us inspiration, hope and love. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Alice H says
Thank you for bringing awareness to this even if you can’t go into details (which is understandable!).
I am not trying to be rude by asking this, but does it worry you to be getting those shots and/or taking medication so often? I do understand that it is helping you, but do you ever feel like you are taking too much? I have become a little bit of a weirdo in my older age (35) and I do not like taking medicine.
Again, thank you for bringing awareness to this. I think I am going to ask my OBGYN to run a hormone test on me because now I am curious to know my levels.
Mix and Match Mama says
It’s something I do think about, which I was I have spent a lot of time tweaking my routine. In the end, I feel great now and my levels seem more in the normal range, so it’s the right thing for me now…that could always change though.
Alice H says
thank you for being truthful and honest.
Andrea says
SO important! Thanks for sharing Shay! I am 30 and have Hashimotos Thyroiditis as well as Premature Ovarian Failure (basically VERY early menopause). Before I brought my laundry list of symptoms to my OBGYN I was a mess and NOT the wife and mom I knew I could be. Hormones make SUCH a difference in your overall mood and function. I bet by sharing this you will give so many the confidence to bring things up to their Dr. and get their hormones checked! 🙂
Eileen says
Who were your myofunctional doctors? I’m local to your area and after reading your 2014 post, I realize I have a number of those symptoms – teeth no longer touhing, gums recession, bone loss resulting in needing several dental bone grafts, and I know my tongue isn’t sitting at the top of my mouth most of the time…who should I go see?
Mix and Match Mama says
Email me!! I’ll give you all the details!
Lorie says
I just want to take a moment to tell you that your posts are always a bright spot in my morning and to thank you for sharing your life and family with all of us. I am more your Mom’s age, but many things you have shared have inspired me in my life and also given me great ideas for my kids and grandkids. I am constantly amazed that there always seems to be one or two comments that question your choices or the decisions you make in YOUR life. You are always so gracious, but I hope the negativity doesn’t discourage you. Thank you for doing what you do!
Kelli says
Does this increase your risk for breast cancer. Years ago they reported certain hormone therapies were a cause for breast cancer. Its always scared me – especially thinking about receiving hormones later in life when I go through menopause. But – now it seems everything causes cancer. :/
Carla says
Can you please give specifics on which hormones and levels (up or down) I’ve been feeling yucky lately and they tested hormones and said they’re normal. I’ve read normal results don’t always mean “normal”. Thanks for sharing!
Mix and Match Mama says
I would suggest talking to your doctor about levels and what the “normal” range is and where you fall.
Stacey says
Thank you for sharing this today! It gave me the push to look into getting my hormones checked again. I have over the past 30 years taken some hormones but it was so much work to get them adjusted to the correct levels that I would just give up. I am motivated now to try again, I’m tired of not feeling 100% like I know I could.
MW says
Thanks for sharing!! Women our age don’t talk about this issue much. I am on hormones and have been for 5 years. I had almost a full hysterectomy at 33,one ovary was left in hopes would help with hormone levels. After 3 months I could tell everything was off. Once I found the right combination of hormones man I felt probably better than I have in my whole life.
Ladies if you feel off go get blood work done!!
Jenna says
Thank you for sharing! Going back to the skin checks… have you found anything that helps with the scars? I have an awful one on my shoulder from a mole I had removed years ago. It formed a keloid and I had a subsequent surgery to take care of that, but it’s still raised and red years later. I need a product that will at least help with redness and sensitivity!
Amy J says
I did IVF twice. After, my second baby was a year old I noticed a lot of symptoms you’ve mentioned in the comments. I discussed with my OB and he recommended Hormonal Replacement Therapy. I get one every 3-4 month inserted right under the skin. Painless and the best decision I ever made for my health. I feel so much better!
Carrie says
I am going through all of this right now & it is truly a balancing act. I initially struggled with the thought of needing/doing hormone replacement. I have learned so much in a short time & there are so many of us that need a little boost & help!
Vanessa says
Thank you for writing about this. Because of you I get my skin checked out every year!!
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Raimie says
This has been a huge topic for me in the past year, and I appreciate you mentioning it because SO MANY WOMEN have issues and think that it’s either something they just have to accept, or that they are alone which is the opposite of the truth. I have been to a family MD, OB/GYN, reproductive endocrinologist (fertility doc), and general endocrinologist and still no solutions. Our hormones (female sex hormones and beyond) are extremely important to how our body functions and how we feel every day! It’s also important for others to note that consistency is a huge part of this, i.e. having your levels monitored over time because the levels change frequently, and timing is important. I’m glad you found a physician you trust and has taken the time/patience to find what truly works!
I mainly wanted to comment to say that if you’d like to redirect any of these comments/questions, Robyn Nohling is a registered dietician and nurse practitioner who runs the blog, “The Real Life RD” and she has several posts on hormone imbalances/amenorrhea/PMS/etc. that I think could be helpful and are pretty easily digestible without having medical knowledge.
Eunice says
Good for you for taking ownership of your health. I have long suspected my hormone levels are off but when I approached my OB about getting my levels checked she said that a blood draw is not reliable but she would check my thyroid (came back normal). That was the end of that. Now I’m wondering if I should keep pursuing this and checking with a different Dr.
Ashley says
Thank you so much for sharing! I’m just a year younger than you and was diagnosed with a thyroid issue after having my first child. I felt fine until after I had my second child. She’s 3 now and although my blood work says my thyroid is within normal range, I’m still getting some yucky symptoms and don’t feel “right”. I’ve been doing a bit of research on hormone replacement therapy and I’m so glad you posted this! I’m going to make a point to speak with my OB/GYN at my next appointment.
Lauren Barnett says
I have wondered if mine were off for the past 6 months, but being only 24 convinced me they would be fine. Maybe I need to check into it more thoroughly! Thanks Shay!
Shelly says
Peri-menopause is on my doorstep and I’ve been cray. I mean I’ve always been a little cray but it is off the chain these days. I checked into this at a wellness center but have not followed through yet. Both of my doctors I saw this year seemed unconcerned which was frustrating.
April says
Thank you for sharing. I’m going to talk to my doctor about testing me.
Lindsay D. says
Thanks for sharing! It’s something I’ve never thought to check, but I’m 42 with crazy acne. I’ve tried all kinds of creams and advice from my dermatologist, but maybe this is what I need to do. Thanks!! 🙂
Gail Young says
Thanks so much for opening this conversation Shay! I have had so many years getting my thyroid medication to the right levels. The tests showed I was “normal”, but I didnt feel right. My Dr. Increased the dosage and that was better, but still not right. My sister told me to change from the generic to the ‘real’ med. and that actually made a big difference. I know that sounds crazy, what can I say? Also a friend in the medical profession told me to check out adding Adrenal Cortex by Thorne to my regime and Oh My Goodness, that has changed my life! Not as tired, better sleep, no cravings for sugar, less sensitive to hot and cold. As always, check with your Dr. Before adding anything to your regime.
Katy says
Gail – My daughter is on thyroid medication and we were told right off the bat that brand name is ALWAYS 100% better for thyroid! It’s amazing! I will have to look into that Adrenal Cortex!
Kim says
I had fertility issues as well; back in the days when a lot of the treatments were relatively new. I was able to have one child through artificial insemination but two years later when we tried again it was determined that I was in early menopause, at 34. My doctor put me on the pill until 40 to be sure my body was getting the hormones I needed. At 40 she switched me over to HRT in pill form. She is very conservative so I’ve only taken 3 pills a week for the past 15 years. Every body is different. It’s so important to have a doctor you can trust to do what’s best for you.
Lea Ann Munoz says
I am on the birth control pill because I have horrible cyst pains when I ovulate. I have often thought of myself as hormone replacement being what I do! Because something is off and when I’m on it I am so much better! Thanks for sharing
Carrie says
So crazy I just posted about this on my blog today as well. I went in to surgical menopause at 31. The last 7 years have been the biggest hurdle of my life. Doctor after doctor trying to get my hormones right (because every doctor has a different theory, right?). Just yesterday, I took the biggest step I’ve taken so far and dove in head first to Bio-Identical Hormones and had the pellet inserted under my skin. I’m SO hopeful!
Lindsay @ Lindsay's Sweet World says
I’ve been having some weird symptoms ever since I had babies and I’ve been wondering if I might need to have my hormones tested as well. I will definitely have to look into that now!
Sandra says
I agree with you how important it is to get your body checked once a year. I Just lost my Dad 7 months ago to Melanoma and it is not a joke. If not detected and treated immediately, it spreads like crazy and fast.
As for hormones, I had low FSH when I was conceiving my kids and was put on hormones back in my 30s. Now that I am 50 and suffering, my OB (who is “old school”) won’t do anything for me. I know there is help out there, I just need to be pointed in the right direction. Your post put some fire under my “you know what”.
Love you blog and thanks so much for sharing.
Mix and Match Mama says
I’m so sorry about your loss, Sandra. xo
Casey says
I don’t think some of your commenters understand the difference between HRT and BHRT. Bio-indentical hormones are very safe and bio-identical progesterone, for example, can be protective of breast cancer.
I’ve been using bio-identical hormones since I was 26 (due to Lyme Disease completely messing up my endocrine system). I’m about to be 43. Can’t imagine my life without them!
MARIE CLAAS says
This is just a thought, Shay. But since God works in mysterious ways, there may be times when He sends you to write something on your blog, so that all of us can help YOU. Many women here seem concerned for you. Just be careful with HRT, and maybe keep a healthy skepticism. You are not meant to always feel like you are 20.
Amy says
My doctors uses the Biote pellet. Apparently they check hormones make up a recipe and they insert
The pellet under your skin. He indicated that he would check my hormones in six weeks and adjust if necessary. About $350 a session. Did Any if your doctors discuss this option?
Mix and Match Mama says
I actually did it twice. The first time, it worked wonders, but not the second time, so we went on to other options.
Patty Osterling says
Thank you SO much for sharing this with us! It is a conformation for my 16 YO daughter and myself
Julie A Long says
Shay, thank you for sharing..you are real and deal with stuff like all of us. Hormones helped me a lot too. I haven’t had my levels checked and I think I will recheck them at my next physical..and I too suffered from infertility. We never had children, even with medical intervention. But not being able to get pregnant is very hard and I appreciate your sharing your journey..thank you as always for showing us that you deal with Dr’s just like the rest of us..Julie 🙂
Brandy says
Thank you for sharing this, as well as listing some of the potential symptoms one could experience if their hormones are out of whack. (And Shay, I totally understand and agree with your decision to keep your personal details private!)
I have recently noticed that there are some clinics that offer Bio-identical HRT via implanted pellets that last 3-6 months. I’d be curious if anyone has tried this, and if you would care to share your experience?
Carly says
I am sitting with an ice pack on my hip right now after getting my first Biote pellet inserted 2 hrs ago! Hormones were crazy off and I have every symptom of problems. I used compounded plant based hormone creams for 6 years but they were not absorbing through the skin to make a difference. Here’s hoping this works as I would like to feel better! This is a big issue and woman are afraid to find out as many dont know what to do. So but put yourself in hands of a good female gynecologist that knows there stuff in this area and search where you go for help as opinions and skills vary.
Angie says
I’m also on HRT. I do bioidentical hormones. I can certainly tell the difference. I can tell in my skin, energy levels and I don’t have hot flashes. To each their own. Thankful to feel good!
Jade says
Hi Shay! Made my appointment to get my hormones checked 🙂
Vicky says
This is probably a really dumb question, but would this be a ob/gyn that would check hormones or my regular doctor?
Anna Henderson says
Oh man, Shay! I have been feeling “off” for a couple years now and this might be exactly what I need. I have to go see my PCP for various reasons soon and I think I will add this to my list of things to discuss. THANK YOU!!
Jennifer says
I’m on crazy amounts of thyroid medicine and have been for about 2 years – it’s incredible the positive difference 🙂 I wish I had known/started earlier!
Shelley says
Hi Shay – all of my ‘mainstream’ male MDs poo-pooed the idea that my hormones were out of whack and told me that it was a symptom of my age—and put me on a synthetic birth control at 45 years old to try to combat some of the symptoms. I was fatigued, and couldn’t sleep. Like at all. I was also hot at night, totally on FIRE. I had some weight gain and some extra belly fat that I never had before, even after being super active and giving birth to four sons. I felt like I was aging faster than I should be. Remember Yolanda Foster from RHOBH? There was an episode where she talked about getting ‘hormone pellets’ injected into her behind. I Googled ‘hormone pellets’ and came up with a bunch of info on Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy (BHRT). I made an appointment with a Preventative Medicine clinic – and as I sat in the waiting room with 4 men (I was the only woman) – I thought maybe I was on to something. The Dr. gave me a prescription for estradiol and progesterone to take orally every night and some testosterone to inject 0.06 ml once a week to start. (I couldn’t get the pellets because I live on an island in the Alaskan bush.) After getting my labs back, which revealed I was super LOW on all three hormones, he adjusted them a little. I really liked the male MD, but his office admin staff wasn’t very nice – so I decided to keep searching for the best fit for me. I found an AMAZING female MD who is all about helping women feel better. I suggest searching for an Alternative Medicine MD, or a Preventative Medicine MD. There is a lot of info both good and bad about BHRT. You just have to decide if you trust your doctor to help you make the best choice for treatment. I’m on a ‘trial’ for low thyroid, and my new doc set me up with some DHEA, probiotics, vitamin D, magnesium, zinc and a really good multi vitamin, along with an estrogen patch and natural progesterone made at a compounding pharmacy. After she gets my labs back, she will readjust if necessary. And for those of you who wonder if you will ever sleep again – get this – I slept through the night after taking my first dose! One last thing, my doc recommended the book, ‘It’s My Ovaries, Stupid!’ by Elizabeth Lee Vliet, MD. We should all revisit this topic in a few months after everyone gets their hormone levels checked. Thanks for the post.
Kris says
Shay,
Just want to thank you for always trying to help others. I can imagine how hard it must’ve been for you to put something so personal out there with the intent to help others. It makes me so sad (and mad) that people would be so insensitive and ask inappropriate questions or make assumptions and be rude. I hope this doesn’t stop you from continuing to post helpful information. I always see God speaking through you! You are wonderful and so caring! Thank you and please keep doing what you are doing!
Melinda says
Thank you for talking about this. I have a multitude of different symptoms going on right now and I have had doctors just push away my symptoms. I have been wondering if it isn’t a hormone thing for awhile. This was the push I needed to make another appointment to get this checked.
Katie says
I also struggled to get pregnant and just didn’t feel quite right after my last baby (so many vague symptoms). I saw a few Doctors who kind of brushed me off and said “of course you’re exhausted, you have 4 kids”. ? Finally stumbled across the fact that Young Living had some supplements that could help (I already had the oils!) and feel so much better.
Jana says
Wow, this is an answer to my prayers & confirmation. I prayed to find some hormone help/info on the internet& I don’t even know how I came across this . I’ve already discussed my menopause with my primary care Dr. now I’m going to have him give me a referral to a specialist. I’ve been miserable,moody, beyond exhausted, DINGY, hot flashes from hell.Thank you for sharing your journey, God bless you.
Megan says
What are some signs that your hormones are off? I haven’t felt quite like myself since having babies and it seems to get worse. I have an appointment with my OB next week… maybe this is something I should ask about?
Lynn says
I know that sleep affects hormones. I love your blog and noticed you mentioned in an earlier post that you’re getting more sleep. I’m in my late 40’s and have suffered from numerous pms symptoms and premenopausal symptoms for years. For me, diet, exercise, plenty of sleep, sunshine, and supplements have become the answer. I know this is not the case for everyone, but I’m just not willing to take the risk of medical doctors prescribing hormones with unknown side effects. Everyone must do what is right for them, and I’m grateful that you decided to talk about this subject.
Courtney says
Thank you so much for sharing this. I do a combination of bio identical progesterone and other prescription medications to fix my hormone problems that developed after I started having children. While they help me tremendously, I often think my pride about not wanting to admit I needed ‘help’ to feel like myself eats away at me. Thank you for the reminder that a lot of women struggle with things and that we have to do what is going to make us the best for children and our spouse. God bless you and your beautiful family!
Julia says
Thanks for sharing! It’s nice to know that even though we may feel alone when dealing with something, chances are someone somewhere is going through something very similar.
Jude says
A doctor can certainly check “hormone levels” which would likely include tsh, lh, fsh, estradiol, dheas, testosterone, and prolactin to be basic. Honestly, however, the majority of these hormone levels change throughout the day and month and are not needed in the evaluation of menopausal symptoms. Aside from checking the tsh, it probably isn’t worth it to focus on these hormone levels. If a woman is 40-60 years ago and having signs and symptoms of menopause then HRT is typical safe if used for less than 5 years and in women who don’t have history of breast or uterine cancer, liver disease, stroke, clots, heart disease, and some other conditions. The major society guidelines do not recommend BHRT since these formulations are not standardized and may contain somewhat random levels of hormones and other additives. Please talk with a medical doctor before starting any supplement.
Crystal Alvarez says
??♀️ Right here with ya! I do hormone replacement therapy too!
Detroit Duchess says
This is such a great PSA Shay! One of my girlfriends suggested this to me last year and I got mine tested. She had horrible fertility issues and said that she wished she would have done it much earlier in the process rather than waiting until it was too late (she is pregnant now with a one in a million baby thankfully). I was lucky and everything checked out great, but I’m glad I did it. I think as women it is so important to share these things because I never would have thought to do that on my own. You don’t realize that your hormones affect everything!
Laura says
As an MD, I hear what you’re saying and know your heart is in the right place. That said, “hormone testing” (outside of thyroid hormone) in a woman with regular periods doesn’t have a lot of evidence or regulation behind it. Be careful of people asking you to spend $$ on regular tests which requir you paying them $$ to make specialized prescriptions for replacement.
There are nuggets of truth in testing/replacement, but until better studies are in, we don’t know the long term harms vs benefits of what women are being given. I always feel bad when patients come looking for a perfect solution from hormone testing when it’s not actually a evidence-based (mainstream) medicine supported concept
Elaine says
I truly appreciate this blog post and thank you for using this platform for educating women. But, can we also talk about the fact that products we use every single day that our sold at our favorite stores are basically ruining our hormones! I mean, anything with fragrance. Household cleaners, laundry detergent, shampoo, etc. are endocrine system disrupters. And can also impact our fertility and development. I think one answer is researching ingredients and products that we use and learn how they can affect the systems in our bodies. God designed our bodies to be healthy but we are ruining them with the products we use each day.
Kelly Petinak says
I’ve read your blog for a while (and really enjoy it!) and have wanted to ask this and figured this post would be a good time. When you have all of your mammograms and are in the “waiting” period to hear the results, how do you mentally do it? I’m having a lot of symptoms that we are trying to figure out and I have such a hard time sometimes even praying about it. How can I tell the Lord that I want His will when His will might involve a cancer diagnosis. Then I just can’t even think about my kids without becoming scared beyond words…
Mix and Match Mama says
Urg…I’m not really a worrier by nature, but yes, those situations are not fun. I really just tell myself that everything is okay and try not to think about it. I’m sure that’s not fantastic coping advice, but it’s what I do.
Erin Port says
Unfortunately due to a genetic blood condition, Factor MTHFR, I can’t do anything with my hormones because of increased risk that my hormones will cause a blood clot. I do a few oils and chiropractic care to regulate my hormones because I know they are off. xoxo ERIN
Summer Galindo says
My husband and I are both PA’s and he (along with two other PA’s and a doctor) own 5 hormone replacement clinics around the metroplex. That is all he does all day :). They used to only treat men however so many women were seeking help as well so they started treating women a couple of years ago as well. Such a common problem for so many (including myself… although I haven’t started treatment just yet). Butbinknownit can make a world of difference!
Morgan says
I have been thinking about this a LOT lately. Something has just felt off lately and probably in all honesty since I had my daughter almost 2 years ago. I’ve been wanting to get my hormones checked but am not sure where to start. Did you talk to your GP about this first or your OB?
Amy S. says
Oh how I wish HRT was an option for me! After a 2015 bilateral breast cancer diagnosis at age 41, surgeries, chemo and hormone suppression drugs, I just recently went through a total hysterectomy due to some negative side effects on my body from the drugs. I am now on a new hormone suppression drug that basically keeps me a at zero estrogen in my body. Since both of my cancers were hormone receptor positive, taking any HRT is not an option and boy can I feel it in my body. I am trying to find the magic combination of supplements to help but I agree with you that it will differ greatly from person to person. Best of luck to you with the mammograms, speaking from experience us women have to be diligent with those issues. An early diagnosis likely led to a much, much better outcome for me.
Lauren Truman says
Thank you for being so candid, as always, Shay. It was because of your raw and honest skin check and scar picture posts that made me make a full-body skin check with my dermatologist. And without you and that skin check, the cancer inside me could still be growing. They found Melanoma and with further testing and surgery found out the melanoma had spread to my lymph nodes. So sharing and being open IS SO IMPORTANT and literally SAVES LIVES. I have a two year old baby girl and I want to see her get married; it looks like, by the grace of God, I’ll be able to do so. God led me to your blog posts for a reason, I just know it… there’s a reason I read them religiously; I now know why. So thank you, Shay. And thank you God. I have such a long road ahead, such scary days, but at least I am alive with my husband to see my sweet girl grow. So ladies, from a 30 year old with stage III melanoma because of my frequent tanning bed use in my teens and twenties, please, please, PLEASE get your skin checked, along with your hormone levels. And wear sunscreen… because skin cancer is not “the easiest cancer,” it still really, really stinks.
Stacey says
I was on HRT but just had a spot on a mammogram and a biopsy on Monday. They reminded me about the breast cancer link and I am gnawing my nails waiting on the results tomorrow so I quit HRT.
narine Bourgeois says
Hi Shay, my name is Narine and I have a hypothyroid. My entire life I’ve felt like my hormones were not quite right. I had a ton of anxiety and my cycle was completely off. I was told I’d need help getting pregnant so when my husband and I got engaged we just decided to not prevent it from happen since it wasn’t likely and when we were ready we would get help.
Fast forward 3 months and I became pregnant, WITH TWINS! This took a toll on my body so much so that I didn’t know what was up and what was down. After being hospitalized during my pregnancy due to one of my boys’ cord being inserted on the edge of the placenta, I gave birth at 32 weeks.
By the time things settled and they were home from the NICU, I finally got my blood work done.
I thyroid become extremely hypo. Unfortunate my gyno and general dr refused to look into it further. They simply stated that hormones fluxuate too much during a month to actually track it and that I should just go on birth control to regulate It. It took me almost 2 years before I forced myself to go above those drs and get a referral from the insurance to go to an endocrinologist. The endo dr. did some tests and determined that my thyroid was dangerously malfinctioning and she put me on medication. We moved across country and I’m going to see a new endo in two weeks. Wish me luck that this Dr. is competent in this field. I’ve come to learn that it’s extremely difficult to find doctors who are knowledgeable in the hormone department.
Randi says
I had my hormone levels tested and received the results but then Dr said there is no guidelines for where levels should be and couldn’t tell me if I was low or not. I left empty handed. Any suggestions?
Mix and Match Mama says
All four doctors I visited (including my OBGYN) had a range for hormone levels. So, based on my blood work, they could tell if certain hormones were inside or outside of the range.
Donna says
Ladies, please by all means have your hormones checked for levels at a young age. I’m 60 now and so wish that I would have had a “base line” level taken when I was younger. Would have been much easier to establish a starting point for replacement therapy when approaching menopause. I currently use BioTe bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy. After trying creams, presciptions, etc….BioTe was the best match for me. As Shay said, everyone needs are DIFFERENT! Find out what works best for you. Life changing for me!!
Kelly says
Me too??! I went through surgical menopause when I was 37. I started taking HRT immediately. I have had to tweak a few things over the years, but I feel like I finally have it right! ?? I struggle with brown spots on my face…especially in the summer. Have you had this issue? Any special beauty secrets you could share? Thanks for being open about this! There is always comfort in a “me too”. ☺️
JH says
Ladies, if your doctor is blowing you off or not taking your questions and symptoms seriously, find another doctor if you are able to. My daughter had low thyroid, began medication, and felt no better. Her PCP just kind of shrugged her shoulders and said her levels were normal so…… That’s not acceptable. We found an MD who specializes in integrative medicine, and she explained that many ranges that labs consider normal are too broad. She listens wonderfully, considers the connection between all of my daughter’s symptoms, and has worked diligently to find the right answers. I know health care is expensive in the U.S. and you may be limited in who you can see. But, if it is at all feasible for you, keep searching for the right doctor who will LISTEN to you.
Katherine Burgess says
I am almost in tears right now. I always enjoy reading your posts but have missed several in the past few weeks. I read this one this morning and I am about to call the Dr. now. I have so many of these symptoms but didn’t know there was a word for it. Thank you so much for sharing.
Kelly says
Would you be willing to share your orthodontist and myofunctional therapists names? I don’t place my tongue correctly, I have tonsil problems and now I’m noticing teeth issues. I’m also located in DFW so I would be forever grateful!
Mix and Match Mama says
Of course! Email me!!
Just One of Many says
After a lovely smashing(mammogram), found a lump~tested for cancer, none, PTL! Then the bleeding started & stayed 365 days until a radical hysterectomy. So, I’ve been on Bio~dentical Hormones now for 17 yrs, (young having a hysterectomy). All I can advise after many doctors and as I get mature, :0), TELL YOUR DOCTOR, GYN, WHOEVER YOU SEE….TREAT YOU, LOOK @ YOU, SEE YOU….GOD DIDN’T MAKE US ALL ALIKE SO NUMBERS ARE NOT ALWAYS THE THING TO LOOK @. Yes, I do bloodwork every month to every 3 months, things change & I go weekly when there is a prob we are fixing! But please make your Doctor SEE YOU, we are not just a number & they will keep you safe also!!!!
Terri Morris says
Thank you for being obedient to God’s little nudge to share this. I would love to know what symptoms you were/are having and what your doctor decided to do. Many days I feel “off” and not really sure why!
Thank you again!
TIna Nobles says
I have been on HRT since I was 28. I turn the BIG 50 in May. I had severe edometriosis after I had my son at the age of 21. I went through many different kind of Meds. and all sorts of injections to try and help keep it from spreading. Also, went through a surgery to clean it up. A year after that I had to have a complete hysterectomy, Ovaries and all. (Because it came back with a vengeance. My entire insides were stuck together by it. My appendix were also stuck to everything so that had to come too.) So to say I understand HRT is understatement. Luckily, my OBGYN said she would give it to me as long as I need it. I see others that try to go through Menopause naturally. And, suffer terribly. But I will take my HRT patch and wear it with pride. Anything to keep me sane!!!!!!!!!