Well, now, I’m sad.
I went back just now to look and see what we were doing on Ashby’s Five Month Post Adoption post and she looks so little! Just look…
Where has the time gone? Why is she getting big? Someone do something about this! Insert a very sad face HERE.
Today, we’re celebrating having sweet Madeley James five months!
I know what you’re thinking…there’s no way it’s only been five months? It feels like they’ve had her forever. Yes, yes it does. I mean…she just fits right on in…
…it’s hard to believe this is the girl who didn’t want to show us her personality a mere five months ago. It’s shocking actually.
So, here are a few little things going on in Madeley’s world:
1: She’s sleeping in Ashby’s room now! We moved her little crib up to Ashby’s room for a nap while the construction workers were in my room replacing the floors in the closet and when we went to move it back that night, she wanted it to stay. She was pointing and making sounds and smiling really big for Andrew to leave it upstairs with the big girls. So now, all three girls sleep in Ashby’s room and all we hear are giggles for at least 30 minutes after we put them to bed each night. #sisters
2: She has new words! Madeley’s vocabulary is coming along. She says new words unprompted every day. Some of her new ones include: up, down, eat, hello (instead of just hi), Tab (Erika hates this and is working very hard on her saying Erika instead. Ha!), car, book, and poop. Which leads us to…
3: She’s using the potty (sometimes)! She has been pointing to her diaper and telling us “poop” sometimes when she needs to go. We are self-proclaimed horrible potty trainers around here. (Don’t bother giving me tips, we stink at it and will most likely screw up your tip.) That being said, we’ve been working with her on it…but I don’t see her being completely potty trained any time soon (and I’m okay with that). But she’s making progress. She’s so proud every time she goes!
4: She loves Mickey Mouse! It’s like the circle of life over here. As soon as we stop watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, another kid comes along and it’s turned right back on. This time eight years ago, I was listening to the Hot Dog song every day…and I still am today. She’s really started to stop and listen to Mickey on TV and even repeat back things to him. You know how he asks the audience to repeat words? She’ll do that sometimes too! She hasn’t shown any interest in Barbies, princesses and such yet…but she enjoys her some Mickey 🙂 .
5: She loves playing outside! We’ve had crazy weather lately where it’s freezing or it’s 75…and on those warmer days, she loves to be outside playing with balls, riding on the little tricycle, or blowing bubbles. She also loves it when I take her on a walk in either the wagon or stroller.
6: She’s crazy good at imitating! She loves to imitate, so we work on a lot of sounds and actions throughout the day that she can repeat back to me. She gets excited when we do this together.
7: She can make sounds! She loves to make animal sounds 🙂 . Her favorites are dog, cat and cow. Any time she sees a dog (whether real or fake), she starts barking. It’s hysterical!
Miss Madeley is a very good sleeper (woohoo!). She goes to bed a little before the big kids most nights (around 7:30) and then we wake her up the next morning when it’s time to leave for the day. Plus, she always takes a three hour nap in the afternoon. #sheismyfavoritechild Why does she sleep so much? Because she NEVER sits still…
…sweet M is not the child to sit around and be lazy. No ma’am! The minute she wakes up to the minute she goes down, she’s busy. Busy, busy, busy, busy. She loves to play with toys, she loves to put on other people’s shoes, she loves to explore, climb, empty, stack, build and destroy. She is ALWAYS on the move!
The other day, I was on the phone in my car (the bluetooth) and Erika was like “what is that noise?” and I was like “oh, that’s just Madeley singing at the top of her lungs”. She has the happiest little spirit about her that even extends to car travel. She sings loudly for all to hear 😉 .
So, I’ve been meaning to share this little story too. I don’t know if it’s because I walk around with two Chinese kiddos instead of one…but people ask me a lot more questions now than before. I never mind the questions! I’m always hopeful that they’re asking because they too are considering adoption. That being said, as an adoptive mama, might I share with you a simple request when talking to moms with adopted kids: please be careful about what you say because the children are listening to you. I had a lady ask me (in front of my kids) if my youngest girls were my “actual kids”. And do you know what my answer was? Why, yes. Yes, they most certainly are. And then I left the conversation. I think the word she was looking for was biological…but she said actual and even though I know she didn’t mean anything by it, sweet Ashby was listening and I don’t need her to hear me explaining why I’m her mom to anyone. She and Madeley are my actual kids. So, as much as we adoptive mamas love sharing our stories, we really need people to be a little more sensitive and selective with their words if our little ones are standing there. You would be amazed at the boldness of the questions we get sometimes. This precious girl right here is my actual kid. Biological? No. Actual? Yes. She wasn’t born from my womb but she was born from my heart 😉 . (I love that quote.)
So, that sums up our fifth month of having Madeley James! ADOPTION IS AMAZING. I look at her (and Ashby too) and think, “what if we wouldn’t have done this?”. We would have missed out on so much. They have blessed us more than they will ever know. I could not love these girls more. If adoption is on your heart…stop and think about it seriously. Your kiddo could be out there waiting on you.
To see other posts on our adoptions, look below…
To see more about our journey to adopt Ashby, see below: