Hey there, Tuesday!
So, today, I am asking for help from those of you with older kiddos. I would love to know your thoughts, ideas and suggestions on chores and allowances.
I have a lot of random thoughts on the subject, so bear with me as I rattle them off…but I would love your input.
So, we love the idea of our kiddos earning money. Last year, the two big kids earned enough money to buy themselves Garmin Jr watches and it was a FANTASTIC experience. Not only did they work hard to earn the money, but it taught them about money (they were in 1st and 2nd grades, so it was a great time to talk about exchanging some bills for others, adding in sales tax, etc).
This past year, Andrew and I have really tried to instill in them that for every dollar you earn, you should think about what portion of that gets tithed, saved, donated or spent.
So, lately, they have been earning money for chores around the house. Now, my brain always toggles back and forth between should we should give you an allowance for helping around the house or you should do some things not for money but because you’re an active member of society and because of that, you should take care of your stuff (like for instance, making your bed)?
Does that make sense?
I mean, I get that it’s reasonable to pay them for chores…but sometimes, I don’t want to pay them for things they should just be responsible for (like cleaning up your room, making your bed, doing your homework).
So, lately, we’ve been paying them for things that fall outside of “their personal responsibility” for instance, one chore they’re getting paid to do is put away the whole family’s laundry (instead of just their own…because in my head, I feel like they should put up their own not for money but because it’s their own laundry and they should handle it).
Does that make sense?
Needless to say, this is uncharted territory.
I love that they earn money, that way if they say “will you buy me a book for my Kindle”, I can say “No, but you can.” and then that tells me if they really want the book or not (are they willing to spend their own money or is it just super easy for Mom to pay for whatever they want).
I don’t know…there’s a good chance we’re screwing them all up.
Maybe by the fourth kid, we’ll have it right?
I mean…who knows?
So, I would LOVE your tips on chores, allowances and things like that today. Maybe we should be paying them for making their own bed, putting away their own laundry??? I don’t know? Maybe we shouldn’t be paying them at all. Hahahaha! See? I don’t know?!
We have a chalkboard upstairs that lists their daily responsibilities (room clean, homework completed, hobbies…like the violin…studied, laundry put away), but we also love having them help with other things (putting away other people’s laundry, watering the plants outside, vacuuming, etc).
Your thoughts needed.