Ohhhh! I’m excited because today we’re going to chat about my new favorite topic…Enneagram.
I’m surprised too.
Let’s back up and then we’ll go forward. Just FYI, this is probably a PART 1 kind of a post because I’m hoping to read more books (recs please!), learn more and then we can come back and discuss again. Plus, there isn’t really a point to this post, it’s more just me saying “hey, this is interesting to me, anyone else interested too?”.
Backing up to the beginning…
…one of my besties Jeni has been talking about the nine Enneagram types for over a year now. She read some books, she started researching, she was/is obsessed. I listened, I participated in the convos, I didn’t “get it”, but I was aware of the idea. I mean numbers that describe your personality. Cool. Everyone says I’m an 8, so I’ll go ahead and be an 8. Easy peasy.
But then…last spring, we were all stuck inside and for some reason, SO MANY OF YOU wanted Andrew and me to both take the online quizzes to get our exact Enneagram numbers and corresponding info…
…so, we did. We took the tests, and it said we were both 8s.
Two 8s! That’s so cool.
And then I told you guys and the feedback CRACKED ME UP!
Basically the feedback was along the lines of “you’re too nice to be an 8 and how do you stay married if you’re both 8s”. Hmmmmm…that’s weird.
So, I in February, I read…
…The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery and my mind was BLOWN! (You can read the review HERE.) I started (and finished) the book when…
…Erika and I were in Walt Disney World, and I swear to you, I was reading it out loud to her. I couldn’t help myself. I just thought it was so fascinating, so as I would read, I would go “oh, Erika, listen to this blah, blah, blah”, and I basically read her the entire book. I came home all chatty about it, so now, everyone in my family is talking about Enneagram numbers from my parents to my kids to my friends.
…Andrew read it while we were at the beach, and he was reading it out loud to me. Bahahahaha! I kept saying “Andrew, I just read it” and he was all “I can’t help it, just listen to this part”. Needless to say, we talk about this funny little test quite a bit, so I thought it was worth mentioning here in blog world.
First, I know so many people have heard sermons about why Christians shouldn’t buy into Enneagram numbers, read books about it, etc, but for me, anything I can read that can better help me understand other people and how I can speak into their lives the way they need to be spoken to with the sensitivity (or maybe bluntness) that works best for them, is only going to help me be a better follower of Jesus. This is not a religion, I do not place any faith or spirituality into these numbers, but I really, really, really think it has helped me communicate better with people because I have a better insight into their personality and how mine can conflict/complement it.
So, this isn’t going to be a post about faith, that’s another topic, this is a post about personalities and how I think it’s cool that I can now see that my mom likes it better if you’re direct with her. She doesn’t want you to be super sensitive, she wants the facts and she wants directness. Cool. I like that too. I can now see better how when I approach my dad like that (hey, he’s my parent too, can’t I talk the same way to him?), he is put off because he is more creative, more sensitive and needs an entirely different approach. On the flipside, when my dad (and again, I’m just using them as examples but this applies to so many people I love) approaches me in a more sentimental way, that’s his best way of communicating, so I need to recognize that. He’ll never be the super direct, blunt, say what’s on his mind guy, he’s going to be the creative, cool, a little out there guy…that’s awesome. I can see that better now.
Does this make any sense?
As I was writing this post, I looked up funny Enneagram memes. My mom is an 8 and my dad is a 2, so this made me LOL…
…in a nutshell, my parents. Bahahahaha!
Okay, so I blabbered on a bit, but really the bottom line is that I’m late to the Enneagram party. I’m sure all of you are already all over this topic, so please tell me what I should read next or how it’s helped you just to understand and communicate with your friends and family better. It was a legit lightbulb moment for me when I read the book and understood each of the nine personality types more. By becoming more aware of my 8 self , it’s helped me realize that not everyone responds well to an 8, and that I should try and find qualities in other people so that I know better how to communicate with them.
If you have no idea what I’m talking about, you can read what each personality/number type means HERE. I thought this explained it really well. I have done several free online tests and gotten the same results that I did when I took THIS ONLINE TEST (that costs $12).
When I did do that online test, here were my results: