Happy happy Monday, friends!
I’m a little tan.
And I’ve now been married one year longer.
Yesterday, Andrew and I celebrated 18 years of marriage 🙂 .
Two babies got married on March 13, 2004 and today, two 40 year olds are happier in their marriage than they’ve ever been. We totally do not have a perfect marriage (far from it!), but I can honestly say that I’m a better woman today having been married to this man than I was the day I married him. Being with Andrew Shull for the last 18 years has only made me a better version of me…and for that, I’m super grateful (and I’m super grateful to God who has continued to give us grace, mercy and love towards one another as we screw up time and time again).
So, in honor of our 18th anniversary, I thought I’d share 18 fun facts about Andrew and Shay. Maybe you know some of these, maybe you don’t…but as I sat here typing, these were the 18 that sprang to mind.
#1: He’s slightly bigger than me 😉 . In selfies or bigger family pics, you can’t really tell, but that’s one of the things people almost always say when they meet us in person…”Wow! He’s so tall!”. Ha! Andrew is 6’5″ and I’m only 5’3″.
#2: Andrew likes to eat dinner early, and I like to eat dinner late. Any other marriages struggle with this? I prefer to eat at 7:00 or later (as I want to eat and then unwind) while Andrew likes to eat closer to 5:15 and then “do all the things” after dinner (light yard work, sports stuff, etc).
#3: We are polar opposites when it comes to lighting early in the morning and late at night. Early in the morning, I want to wake up, open the shutters and turn on the lamps. Andrew legit sits in the dark reading his Bible and gets super annoyed when I turn on the smallest lamp (hellllllo…I need to see to make my coffee!). That being said, when it’s time to take a bath or shower before bed and wind down, I want minimal lighting to get me in the “get ready for bed” mood and quiet. Meanwhile, Andrew comes into the bathroom like a bull in a china shop turning on every single bathroom light, the TV, the fan…it’s a like a tornado coming through.
#4: Speaking of bathrooms, one sure fire way to stir up a fight with Andrew is for me to tell him I wish we had separate bathrooms. He gets super annoyed that I don’t want to share a bathroom with him (please see above) when the truth is that I don’t want to share a bathroom with ANYONE, so I often joke that I wish I had my own…he does not care for this joke 😉 .
#5: If he wants to annoy me, he shushes me. If you shush me, I get much louder. 😉
#6: Andrew loves talking about his dreams. I don’t love hearing about people’s dreams. I mean…it was a dream, it didn’t really happen, I don’t want to talk to you about it for 10 minutes. Is that crazy? I would rather hear you talk about what really happened for 10 minutes. Andrew loves to talk about his dreams. It’s a running joke around our house all the time.
#7: I’m really good at coming up with ideas. Andrew is really good at making them happen. I’ll say things like “I wish we had a path that went from the garage to the patio” and he says “Yeah, that’s a great idea!”…and builds it. I can’t make or create anything, he’s super gifted in this area.
#8: We don’t study our Bibles together. Maybe that’s normal? Maybe that’s odd? For us, it’s always been this way. He studies his every morning and I study mine, and when things are on our hearts, we share them with each other. We both find our quiet times extremely personal.
#9: We’re both Enneagram 8s. I think people who don’t know Enneagram think that makes for a hard combination…we can’t imagine having it any other way. We both like strong opinions, strong leaders, and decision makers…we complement. That being said, when we argue (and we do argue), it’s extra spicy since we’re both 8s 😉 .
#10: Andrew is the dog whisperer, but I’m the dog person. Andrew’s voice and presence always gets the dogs attention. He speaks, they listen. That being said, he’s not mushy and in love with them like I am. He’s the leader of the pack, but I’m the one who they know will walk and snuggle them. They respect and listen to him, they follow be around all day long.
#11: We both really love Ted Lasso.
#12: Andrew will stick to his schedule at all cost. I will hit snooze if I’m really tired. He will never hit snooze.
#13: We both really love Mexican food.
#14: He doesn’t like mac and cheese. I don’t understand that sentence.
#15: Andrew is big and strong and always the alpha in the room…but he’s a pile of mush on the inside while I always hold my cards in tight. He’s the one with the most tender heart towards adoption (I have a big heart, he has a tender one). When he visits my grandparents now, he gets choked up each time we leave. When he said goodbye to his friend Manda, he was the only one in the room with her…their relationship was super special and when he talks about her to this day, you would have thought she was one of his besties. He’s got such a big heart.
#16: Andrew and I love having a charcuterie board and unwinding at the end of the day. It’s absolutely one of our favorite things to do when we can do it. We especially love it when we can sit on the patio.
#17: Andrew loves fall and Christmas just as much as I do.
#18: I know we tease each other about the Red Sox and Yankee stuff, but please understand, we seriously mean every bit of it and nothing can get the other one more fired up than too much trash talking…
Eighteen years of being Mrs. Shull.
I’m thankful for every minute. xx