I have been thinking about what I was going to write the morning after you didn’t receive a rose from Emily for some time now. I’ve thought about writing my opinion on why she didn’t pick you, I thought about writing a letter to Emily about how she was wrong ;), I’ve thought about a lot of things. But last night, after the show was over and my Facebook and Twitter blew up with people (most of whom I don’t even know) telling me how awesome you are, and how proud they are of you, I thought I’d just keep this little post simple…
Sean Thomas Lowe…you are such an awesome man of God. I’ve always known that you carry yourself in such a respectful way…that you’re kind and generous…that you have a huge heart and love unconditionally…but to see it played out on national television…to see you keep your morals and your integrity when it would have been easy not to, is why I’m so proud of you this morning. I know you loved Emily with your whole heart. I know you meant everything you said to her and that you would have made the best husband to her and father to Ricki. I know this. I also know that God has different plans for your future. I know that your wife is still out there…I know that when you meet her, you will know she’s the one.
You made your entire family proud. From your 2 year old nephew to your 87 year old Southern Baptist preaching grandfather…you made us all proud. We love you and we look forward to the many new adventures in your future. “God can do anything, you know-far more than you could ever imagine or guess in your wildest dreams” -Ephesians 3:20.
Love you,
Ally says
I stumbled across your blog a few days ago and have SO enjoyed reading your posts; you and your family are so so precious! I have been watching the Bachelorette and I have been amazed at how well your brother carried himself and what a genuine man of God he seems to be; Emily is completely crazy to have not picked him, but what an even more amazing woman must be out there, waiting for your brother to find her! Anyway just had to comment and let you know how much of a blessing it was to watch your brother be a wonderful Godly example to everyone on national television… he has given me hope that there are still some extremely good looking guys out there who love God:) Hope you and your family have a wonderful day! And if your brother ever heads up to OKC, feel free to send him my way 😉 hehe
Maddie says
This made me think of Jeremiah 29: What a sweet big sister.
Ali G says
Was dissapointed, but agree God has his own plans & everything happens for a reason. Sean showed such integrity and class! He will definitely make his wife a very happy women!
Anonymous says
God Bless you and your family Sean and Shay! Good things to come!
Anonymous says
Very well written! (always #teamsean)
jennifer says
Amen, big sister! I had to remember Romans 8:28, and remind myself God is sovereign over Sean's love story! Every woman in America was outraged last night because even on such a silly show, Sean's Godly character shone brightly! The kindness,humility and gentleness with which he conducted himself after such a tacky lead-on and rip your heart out job,was SO different than what the world knows. You must be SO proud of your little brother. He is a gentleman, a stud, and most precious of all–a man that worships God. It came across. They couldn't have edited that out if they tried. He did not worship Emily. He worships the Lord. And that made all the difference in how he responded to heartbreak. Love him! Your family is amazing! Excited for what God's got in store. XO
Whitney @ justacountry-girl says
Sean was my favorite from the get go! I am cheering for him to be the next bachelor 🙂
Whitney @ justacountry-girl says
Sean was my favorite from the get go! I am cheering for him to be the next bachelor 🙂
Whitney @ justacountry-girl says
Sean was my favorite from the get go! I am cheering for him to be the next bachelor 🙂
Tammie says
What an endearing letter to Sean. You can tell what a wonderful and loving family you have. As you know, God has a Plan for Sean, and I feel certain he will be fine. God Bless you and your beautiful family.
Anonymous says
Loved watching your sweet brother on the show. He was my pick from day one :). He is one of those guys that a southern girl considers to be "the whole package" of a husband and a father. Growing up in a Southern Baptist church, as a football coaches daughter, it gives me joy and confidence to know there are still great men of God out there today. I have enjoyed your blog so so much and hope that one day I am blessed with such a wonderful and happy family. If Sean ever wants to come to South Carolina, I know he would be welcomed 🙂
Anonymous says
Loved watching your sweet sweet brother on the show!!
Anonymous says
Loved watching your sweet sweet brother on the show. He was my pick from day one :). I feel like I already know him, even though we are complete strangers; he was just so real. He was everything that a southern girl considers to be "the whole package" of a father and a husband. Growing up in a Southern Baptist church and the daughter of a football coach, it gives me great joy and confidence to know that there are still guys like Sean out there, guys who are not ashamed to express their love for the Lord. I have enjoyed reading your blog and pray that one day I will have such a happy and wonderful family! Love in Chirst!
Anonymous says
Also, if Sean ever wants to come to South Carolina I know he would be welcomed 🙂
Kaytee Knoop says
So Sad! I loved Sean! What a great post stating nothing but the truth!
Jodi says
Well said! I love Sean and think he left the show is such an honorable way. He is lucky to have a supportive and loving family to go home to!
Anonymous says
I was SO impressed with the way your brother carried himself on the show! I was so glad to hear him live out the beliefs in God that he professed! It is so rare to send men of character nowdays portrayed on TV in a positive light! Way to go Sean! I know that God has great plans for you and I believe that that includes a wonderful, Godly woman!
Erin says
The way that "reality" tv is these days, the way Sean carried himself on television would make any family proud. He showed great character, love for his family and he never compromised his beliefs or integrity.
I'm one of the many that never met Sean or your family but can tell that you're a great family full of love and class. Sean represented your family very well!
God Bless your family and as the saying goes "When one door closes, another opens"
kendalldhart@gmail.com says
What an amazing family you have! It is wonderful to see how someone can continue to shine Gods light thru it all—especially on national tv while millions are watching! No pressure haha! Not all would be the same person on and off camera. Your brother has been so humble. I often have to remind myself of Proverbs 3:5. This sounds silly, but your brother has given me hope that there are still someone out there for me. That among the pressures of all my friends getting married and having kids, my story is still being written and in Gods time I will meet my prince. I just have to keeo faithful. I may just have to relocate to Dallas—haha! Sending love to you and your family from Corpus Christi 🙂
Miranda says
Sean is awesome! I was hoping she would choose him. Any girl would be lucky to have him!
Aly says
I found your blog not to long ago and just loved Sean on the Bachelorete. Emily was wrong not to pick him, I thought without a doubt it would be Sean! He seems like a wonderful guy, and should he ever be in NYC- I'd be more than happy to show him around 🙂
kendalldhart@gmail.com says
Wow! What an amazing family you have. The way your brother chose to portray himself on national tv was uplifting and encouraging, with millions watching, he chose to remain the same on and off camera…no pressure! This sounds so silly, but it has given me hope that someone is still out there for me. I often have to remind myself of Proverbs 3:5. With the pressures of my friends getting married and having kids, it is hard not to fall into moods of getting down on myself that I have yet to meet anyone. I have to remember that God is still working on both of our stories, and what wonderful hope I have for him! I may just have to relocate to Dallas 🙂 Sending love from Corpus Christi!
Anonymous says
You are such a wonderful family. Sean seems like such a great guy, and the way he handled everything proved even more of what a great guy he is. Emily did make a HUGE mistake, but I do believe that God has someone better for your brother!
Anonymous says
I was so amazed by your brother and your family. I of course wanted Emily to pick him, as he was so genuine, and a man of God. His light shone bright! Could not have been more impressed by him and you!
Andrea says
I was so sad last night. He was the best man, and so impressed by his character. I wanted to cry when she didn't call his name. But he handled it with such integrity. I prayed for him last night, and that the Lord would bring him the most perfect woman to be his wife.
Sarah says
I can only imagine how proud your family must be of him. Such a stand up guy. The ladies will be flocking to him – if he needs an escape Tulsa isnt that far 😉
CMae says
Personally I thought your brother was a diamond compared to the other two lumps of coal (Arie & Jef) lol I can only assume some bigger and better will come his way–he deserves it! 🙂 God has the answers always!
4sweetboys1princess says
You have a beautiful family, and your brother is a sweetheart. I have never met any of you, LOL, but I stumbled across your blog after reading about the show. I think Emily should have picked Sean, but there are now tons of fans of his out there that would love to date him I am sure 🙂 and there is someone great out there that will be wonderful for him!
Anonymous says
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_ZtHaaYEPQ
~ Dear Shull & Lowe Family ~
America's SWEETEST family!!! There has never been a classier all around family as you all have represented on the Bachelor! (ive watched every season too) Thank You for talking Sean into going on the Bachelor and showing America what TRUE family and LIFE's GREAT MOMENTS are about….GOD, FAMILY and LOVE! There is no doubt if there was MORE time that Emily and Sean would of been together! Just showed how serious he takes "love" instead of throwing it around! You know he means it when he says it. I look forward to your blogs and pictures in the years to come to update us on the special LUCKY lady who will take Sean's Heart for eternity! We cant wait 🙂 Much love to you and your entire family !!!! xoxo. So. Fla Girl
Uncle Seanie is THE BEST!!!!
ps – as much as i'd like to see him on TV VERY SOON!!! Don't do bachelor!!! hell have NO problem finding the perfect girl for him!!!
Stephanie says
I was sooo shocked last night when Emily did not pick your brother…all I could think is, what was she thinking??? But, we all know that everything happens for a reason, and I'm glad to know that if Emily was truly not in love with your brother, the best thing she could do is let him go (even though I think she is CRAZY!!!) 🙂
Your brother is such a WONDERFUL man, and I completely respect him for how he handled himself last night. It only shows the world how special he really is! You Go Sean!!!
The good thing about this is that there is still a wonderful woman out there for your brother!!! What woman wouldn't want him??? 🙂
Rachael says
As soon as I read the US article on Emily I hoped she didn't puck your brother…he us too good for her. Yes, you can't believe everything you read but some of that article had to be true. Your brother will find his soulmate and everything will happen as it is suppose to. I think a lot of America would love to see him as the next Bachelor!
Unknown says
Wonderful blog! Love your letter to your brother today! I am still so sad and confused on why she let him go! Sean is such a wonderful person. I always believe everything is meant to be. I wish and pray for happiness for Sean and your entire family!
Thanks again for your blogs!
Mindy says
Your letter to your brother was beautiful. It could not of been written better. I am still so sad and confused on why she let him go. He would be a wonderful father and husband. It is totally her loss. I pray and hope that he can move on and God will find the person person for him.
Thanks again for sharing your blog!
Brianna♥Mattias says
I also came across your blog because I have been watching the Bachelorette. I was so, so, so, so sad last night!!!! Sean is very geniune and is just a great, great guy. I love how he handled the situation when he was saying goodbye to Emily. Wow! Such class. She lost out on that one!!!! I hope Sean realizes that!!!
Anonymous says
I definitely agree with this post! I have liked Sean since the beginning. He seems like such a wonderful guy and the most logical choice for Emily. She was breaking my heart last night when she didn't pick him 🙁 He handled the whole situation so maturely and in a Christian like manner. You have so much to be proud of in him!! So many women in America love him, so I'm sure his future wifey will find him soon 🙂
apexliving says
Shay,
Let me first say thank you for submitting Sean's name for the show. It is because of Sean I got so hooked into the show this year. I am so proud of Sean and you all for the way you made serving Christ look on TV! My sons and I (who watch with me because of Sean) were completely disappointed to see him let go because of his Manly example. We thought he handled himself like God's man. So proud!
I realized last week after the hometown dates that he may go home to my dismay,but understood that he was not losing anything. Sean is a winner! Thanks be to our God who always causes us to triumph in Christ! I totally believe that God has great plans for him. This process is preparing him for his future and for the wife and family he will have of his own.
Heartbreak builds character even though I recognize that it is truly painful. He has nothing to be embarrassed or a shamed about. He handled it all with class. Even Chris Harrison had only kind words to say about him.
He will be stronger and better through it. I loved watching him this season. In my mind he made the show.
You have a beautiful family whom I feel I know personally. Keep sharing your light. I love your blogs and will continue to follow you. I feel blessed to have watched this journey now.
Marta says
Sean is a great example of what a true man looks like. He never snapped under the pressure and was always so respectful to others, whether it be Emily or the other guys. I think Sean has a lot of great things in store for his future. This show was just God's way of opening some doors for him. Sean doesn't burn bridges, he builds them and walks on them. I am so impressed with him. What an inspiration!!
Angela says
Shay – your post left tears to my eyes. Your brother is an amazing man, a true testament of God! As many have said, and I will say as well, this is just the beginning for him! He has many great things ahead. God Bless your family. It is so humbling to know there are still amazing men out there. I think I can speak for many of the women who watched The Bachelorette last night. There were definitely no dry eyes in my house!
Tiffany M* says
Stumbled upon your blog this morning and I just have to say it is so sweet to read what you wrote to your brother. I love that even through the "reality tv" editing, the way Sean carried himself would make any family proud. He seemed to stay completely true to him self, never compromising his beliefs or integrity. He didn't let the show get the best of him and push him to say the things he did before he was truly ready to. I agree, God does have a plan for Sean and his time on the show was just a lesson he needed to go through to get to where God wants him to be. My favorite quote-"Everything happens for a reason, and with every reason a valuable lesson is learned." Good things will come to Sean and I love that he has an amazing family that loves him, is proud of him, and stands by him. He truly only deserves the best.
beijos,
Tiffany
http://www.beijostiffany.com
Kaileigh says
Very well said. It's amazing so see the love in your family. Emily really missed out and Sean is going to make some girl very very lucky. He's a great catch.
Rikki says
You are right Shay….God has different plans for Sean….and those plans will be just as awesome as he is….so proud of the Texas boy! Much happiness to all of you!
Frank and Natalie says
I hate that your brother got his heart hurt in this process! From the get-go he was my favorite, but I was so worried they would end up together. Sean deserves an amazing woman of God. One that they will be equally yoked. God has an amazing plan for him.
Also, I just moved to the Dallas area and I have enjoyed looking through your blog to get ideas on where I can take my little ones for fun! Thank you.
Anonymous says
I've read your blog for awhile now, but never comment! 🙂 Don't feel bad, I do that to a lot of blogs! Anyways… I just had to say that I watched the last two episodes of The Bachelorette (I'm not a fan, never watched the show before then) just because your brother was on it, and holy cow. He is way too good to be on that kind of show! What a great guy. So not like the other guys on the show. It was so nice to see someone real and normal on there. Granted, I felt awful for him at the end of the night, and I think Emily is a fool not to end up with him, but I really do think he can do better than finding love on reality TV. I wish Sean the best, I hope he finds true love soon.
Carley
Melissa says
I LOVE YOU SEAN! You are amazing!!! I really hope you find the perfect woman for yourself! You are perfect in every way! Shay is an amazing sister! Your family are all amazing. You will find that perfect match!!!!!!
Anonymous says
My heart was broken for Sean, and I wanted to write and let you know that as you said…God has a plan, but Emily was a fool to let that man go! I was the sister of a single awesome Godly man waiting for the right one to come along too. Everytime his heart was broken, mine was too. She's out there & God will cross their paths when they're both ready. My brother found her, and she is the love of his life! They are happily married, and I can't imagine if he hadn't waited for her.
happymommy says
You are such a sweet big sister and Sean is lucky to have you! I have loved Sean from the very beginning of the show and I cried big tears last night when he went home. He is an outstanding guy who will find the love of his life and be loved back the way he deserves. He is going to make one very lucky lady VERY happy one day! Your family is Beautiful!
Taylor says
I cried and cried last night because he looked so sad and heartbroken, but I also was so proud to see that there are still some good men out there. He was sooo respectable and classy. I also am a little bit glad she didn't pick him. I think he may be too good for her…not that I don't adore her, but she seems a little bit high maintenance and he seems so down to earth. I know there is a wonderful woman out there that God meant for him!! Give him my best!!
brandonandmandycox says
Shay! I'm not going to lie – I cried last night… and now I'm at it again! Your post today was perfect. I've told you before that I never watched the show before this season and I'm so glad I did – Sean is a great, great guy and there's no doubt that he has great, great things ahead of him! 🙂
Anonymous says
Never have I been so emotional over a reality show. I was thinking how I would feel if I was in your shoes, nominating my brother for the show and then seeing his heartbreak unfold in such a public forum. Really tough, but each journey teaches you things about life. Sean reminded us all that there are genuine, amazing men left in the world who put family first. He is a gift, touching us each in so many ways. Thanks for sharing him with the world!
Shannon says
Just came across your blog and I think Sean is so lucky to have you in his life. He was my favorite and after hometowns, your family was my favorite too. Wishing the best of luck for Sean- he deserves it!
Shannon
http://twodudesandadiva.blogspot.com
Anonymous says
Candice
I agree with he can do better! Your brother is the definition of "true beauty" beautiful inside as well on the outside. I am sure he will meet his soul mate. I am sure there are about a million women out there dying to meet him now!!!
my3 kids says
How beautiful…Sean is an amazing guy and we loved him and he was our favorite on the show. You guys have an amazing and beautiful family…you should all be so proud!!
Janice
Mel (Northern Lights) says
I have tears in my eyes. You could tell from day one that Sean meant every single word that he said. You are beyond right – God has a much better plan for Sean and he is going to make someone very happy! True love is out there and only time will tell! xoxo
MelanieJanelle says
That's so beautiful Shay. He's so lucky to have a fabulous sister like you. I'm so glad his family has been behind him one hundred percent. Sean's a great man and I can't wait to see what the future holds for him!
Martha says
I can't even imagine how you wrote this Shay! I'm almost in tears trying to comment Sean isn't even my brother. I'm so very disappointed for Sean – he was by far the most grounded, sweet, and funny guy I've seen on this show (and I like you, have been a longtime fan of the series). I'm sure Sean will find his soul mate soon 🙂 He certainly deserves the best!
Jessica says
What a beautiful post, Shay! He is a wonderful guy who is so lucky to have such an amazing family! I was very sad to see him go home last night but know that God has MUCH greater plans for him! Thank you, Sean, for being such a sweet, genuine, & sincere man on the show. You are one of a kind & deserve only the best!
Amie says
Dear Shay and fam. I don´t know you but I just have to write to you (excuse my spelling – I am from Sweden). I have been reading your blog and it´s beautiful. Every time a read your words make me smile. I can just feel the love you and your family have. The letter to your brother so amazing. He is one of a kind. I think he will be ok – he will meet a sweet wife one day. God bless you all, love from me 🙂
Andrea says
Is it wrong to pray God's plans include Sean Lowe as the next Bachelor? 🙂
Come on ABC, make every American married moms' wishes come true!
I'm sure Sean was heartbroken, but he also has every single woman knocking down his door. Enjoy it!
Darling family. Love your recipe blog!
Anonymous says
Hey Shay…We need a question/answer board from you b.c ur so darn cool 🙂
Do you and Sean know Melissa and/or Tye from the Bachelor since yall live near the same towns and Melissa went to N Texas Univ also? Just wondering…thought Melissa and Tye could reach out like Jeremy has with the Bachelor Family 🙂 Melissa, Jeremy n now Sean!!! DALLAS' FINEST 🙂
Xo to the BEST Sister a Brother could have! Xo So. Fla Girl
Golden Girl says
Sean was my favorite from the first day and I was rooting for him to win. My heart ached for him last night. It is Emily's loss … but I feel God has good things in store for Sean. I honestly hope he doesn't become the next Bachelor. He is too "real" for the superficial, glossy, glamorous dates with cameras and crew watching their every move. He is such a class act — so far above the gossip columns and media hype. I pray that he will find a real, lasting relationship … one like you and Andrew have. ♥
Unknown says
Sean is so great and he should be proud to have such an awesome sister too! Your blog is great, thanks for some Bachelorette inside scoop! If you have any more stories from when they visited your house, please share! 😉
Kathryn says
hi Shay, You have such a blessed family. I was heartbroken that Emily let Sean go, and I would like to address the reasons why I think she did so. If you have time please let me know your thoughts as well.I believe that Emily truly loves Sean. Her continued sobs make that quite clear. I believe that she was grieving the loss of everything she wanted and had prayed for as she let him slip away. She kept telling him that she wanted it so badly to be him, knowing somewhere deep in her heart that it was him, but too afraid to grab hold of him and hang on tight. She also consistently used the word perfect to describe Sean and everything and everyone connected to him- even though Sean never claimed to be perfect and is the sweetest, most genuine young man I have ever seen. I believe at some level Emily felt imperfect and that Sean was beyond her reach, a dream she was too afraid to hope for and an answer to a prayer she was too afraid to grasp. In her blog today she says that she still cannot give any reason for letting him go, that she wonders what might have been had there been more time. I believe that the Holy Spirit works through us all.I believe that Sean was sent to heal Emily's heart and to challenge her to move beyond her comfort zone and grasp the answer to her prayers(Sean) through God's grace. Sadly she could not and in the end pushed Sean away out of fear. I believe that Emily was sent to open Sean's heart and teach him to be vulnerable to love. It was so difficult to see him finally do that only to have his heart broken only a few days later. God is so good, though. He will send Sean the "perfect" woman to love him and heal his heart, a woman strong and unafraid and able to cherish the gift heaven sent that is Sean Thomas Lowe.
apexliving says
Wow, what amazing insight! I think you are so right. Sometimes,we shrink bak in fear when things are"too good to be true." Perfect love casts out fear. Faith is the opposite of fear. If she were fearful or unsure of love then it can be easily shaken. I think they are both genuinely amazing people and that God has a plas for each of us through his grace,love and mercy. It will all work out in the end for both of them. It is said,"Hindsight is 20/20." God will reveal and heal them both in due time. Both are such sweet people. Loved watching this season with them. The rest of season seems a bit anticlimatic now. #TeamSean all the way!!!
apexliving says
Kathryn,
What timely and insightful words. I,too, believe that fear played a part in this as well. My prayers are with them.both that God's best will be theirs in the end. Although I wish things turned out differently.
Maureen W. (Maryland) says
I love this poem and think it sums up a lot of feelings on the situation:
God never promised
A life without pain,
Laughter without tears
Or sun without rain.
But He did promise
Strength for the day,
Comfort for the tears
And light for the way,
And for all who believe
In His Heaven above
He rewards their faith
In His everlasting love.
Lins says
Sean was mine and my moms fave! He carried himself so well and looked like he stayed true to himself and his morals throughout. God has a plan and the right woman is out there for him! 🙂
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Leanne Hill says
I came across your blog after seeing Kensington's playhouse on The Bachelorette. My husband and I really want to make our daughter a similar one, so we googled it to try to find more pictures and found your site. Just wanted to say that your brother is one classy guy and you guys seem like a great family! We wish him the best! We hope he is the next bachelor!
Kathryn says
Hi Shay, I would like to add a few more comments to those I wrote last night. As I was watching Emily send Sean away while saying to him that she wanted so badly for it to be him and that she was walking away from everything she ever wanted and prayed for, I saw myself 15 years ago sending the love of my life away in what felt like and impossible decision.I was a single mom raising 4 children and his star was on the rise in the NHL. He would not leave me and I would not let him give up his career for me, Heartbreaking choice. What I heard myself saying to Emily was: "Dear sweet girl you have no idea how consequential and far reaching this decision will be in your life. For the heart does not care why you choose to leave its heart's desire. It only cares that it wants to remain there, home in the place and person who makes it feel loved,safe,taken care of, protected, and happy.All words Emily used to descibe how Sean makes her feel. Sooner or later it will challenge her to go back to that place to find peace. When pressured to make a decision Emily chose the 2 distractions. The physical attraction with Arie and the promise of fun and adventure with Jef. All distractions from the deeper place to which Sean's love asked her to go.It may take months or years, but sooner or later her heart will have its way! Meanwhile Sean is moving on. There are a couple of things I would like to say to him, First you should not feel stupid or embarrassed. Emily's words all along were genuine and her actions spoke louder than words in London and in Croatia when she asked you to keep your confidence, in Prague when she said that she would want you all to herself all of the time if she could. She couldn't keep her hands off of you or stop kissing you. There is a 23 second clip on You Tube called Emily and Sean in Prague. It says it all so powerfully. You couldn't see her dismissal of you coming, because it was never what she wanted to do. Secondly, please do not bury your feelings. I know it is painful to feel them but let them be a beacon to help you navigate the path to you new forever love. Thirdly, be sure that you feel as deep or deeper love for the woman you choose as your wife as you did for Emily.Finally, your heart is open now, Sean, and with God's grace and guidance it will seek out its heart's desire.
You will finally get your wish to love someone with every ounce of your being . Your heart will be "home". Blessings!
Anonymous says
I stumbled across your blog months ago, and somehow came back to it recently, only to see that you're related to Sean! It was a blast watching him on this season of the Bachelor, and I was genuinely impressed by how conscious he was of what decisions he made and who his potential audience was. It is always refreshing to see a man respect a woman, even when he is hurt by her. Your words to your brother are so sweet, thanks for sharing your heart in this process!
Paula says
Lessons are hard, yet apart of the journey. Sean, himself said past relationships were hard to open up. Like many before have already said, this experience, God is/can use to show Sean real love. Love to fight for. Love as Jesus said, love as the bride of the church.
At some point, when he is sitting beside his lovely wife, appointed by God, he will know. He will be thankful for "unanswered" prayers. He will know this journey brought him to this point to give himself to her and the family he has built.
In the mean time, be sad. That is okay. All apart of the journey.
Hugs "sweetest family in America"!! 😉
The Lady of the House says
Sean impressed my husband and I from the beginning. Any man that can take breakups or heartbreak gracefully and maintain respect for the other person has our vote.
May he be blessed with an amazing woman that knows how lucky she is!
Brenda from LA says
What a great family Sean has – It was such a treat to see a terrific, loving and godly family, on the Bachelorette. Sean demonstrated countless times what a wonderful man of God he is – and he handled himself in such a classy manner, even when his heart was breaking. I know that God has great things in store for him and I pray that God blesses him with a very loving, godly woman. Sometimes we don't know why God's plans turn out the way they do, (especially when those plans might be different than what we want) but I know that your family rests in the sovereignty of God and I believe that God will make all things clear in His timing.
Sean – you are a wonderful man and there are million or more women all across this country who would love to be married to a man like you. Don't let this in any way diminish who you are, because most importantly, you are a man of God and your relationship with Him is the most important. May God bless you with a woman who has the same commitment to God!
SSM says
Hello Shay,
Red Sox fan here!
Do you remember Shea Hillenbrand?
Love your name!
I think that you are right. God has a plan for your brother. We(my husband and I) thought that your brother would have been chosen. My husband wanted me to let you know that your brother looks like he will make a great Dad.
I wouldn't be surprised if he is the next bachelor.
ps I tried to view the link to see the post on the little cottage and it wasn't available.
Do you know what I'm doing wrong?
Would love for you to do a guest post of it on my blog!
melanie says
Amazing post. Still praying! God is faithful 🙂
Kathryn says
Hi Shay,I saw Sean's interview after The Men Tell All. He was so classy, funny, sweet, genuine and of course handsome.He made a statement that I think is very significant and I would like to address it!He said" My wife will have no hesitation or doubt about whether she wants to spend her life with me,,,,,I care deeply for Emily and I want the best for her…. but she's not for me,,,"
My response to this statement is both yes and no. It is not as simple as that. Any woman who falls in love with Sean and whose heart has been relatively unscathed
, who possesses great self confidence and a sense of fearlessness towards life could jump into deeper and deeper love with him without hesitation or doubt and with both feet, impervious to the risks involved. A woman like Emily is a very different story. Emily came to her relationship with Sean with significant baggage through no fault of her own and that is the death of Ricky Hendrick's. She fell deeply for him , was very young and her heart was shattered when he died. In fact his death would only intensify her feelings for him. The paradox is that having once felt that deep love her heart will always seek to find it again, to find its heart's desire, to be at home and at peace; she on the other hand wants this great love- ironically precisely the great love that Sean talked about wanting to find in London- and yet seeks to protect her heart from the devastating pain that the loss of such a deep love could bring to her again. Such a loss again would crush her. I have no doubt that she cares for both Arie and Jef and may love them , but if either of them were her heart's desire she would never have told Sean that she wanted it so badly to be him. She would have wanted it so badly to have been either of them. Everything about her body language with Sean- how her eyes would like on fire, how she would melt into his arms, her giddiness- and her words about him show that she was falling in love with him. Most significant to me were 5 statements she made." When we met it was love at first sight", at the rose ceremony after hometown visits , Chris said "Sean is the only one who has not told you he loves you" She choked up in her response which was "I know how I feel about him, that gives me confidence. I know what I think could be."," I wanted it so badly to be you", "everything I have ever wanted and prayed for is right in front of me and I am choosing to pass it by.", and before last Monday's rose ceremony-" I don't know what to do, I'm SCARED of everything and I don't want to make the wrong choice( which at some level she knew she was doing )! Emily's hesitations and doubts about Sean are/were not centered around whether she loves him, could fall deeply in love with him or could build a life and family with him . Her hesitations and doubts are/were centered around the realization that she could and that loving him would take her to the same deep place that once shattered her world. She felt excruciatingly torn. Her heart was leading here to her heart's desire and she at some level was feeling like a moth being drawn to the flame. Emily in her blog several days ago said that she thinks she and Sean just needed more time. Ironically that is the very thing she didn't give them when she sent him home, because spending more time would just draw her heart more deeply to him and closer to that flame. Sean may be gone from Emily's life physically right now, but he will never be gone from her heart.Her decision to let him go is far more consequential than she realizes. Whether she will find the courage to make her way back to Sean and fight for him and them only God knows. But one thing is for certain. Sean can never go back to the time when his heart wasn't open and vulnerable to deep love. His heart will desperately want to seek it out. And Emily can never go back to the time when her heart had not once again found its heart's desire.
The Stewards says
This made me tear up!! What a great family Andrew married into =) and what a special sister you are! I loved that you were able to make that note "simple" as it shows your true character.
cpenner says
Hey, I think your brother is such an amazing guy. Emily is definitely missing out on something special without him! It is so encouraging to see a good Christian guy on tv with great morals and values. God has an awesome plan for his future and I am sure that one day he will make one lucky lady the happiest she has ever been. Make sure he never changes!
PS. I'm single… and Christian 🙂
Kelly says
Shay- Your brother is one of the most amazing men I have ever seen. You can tell he is so honest, truthful and caring. That sparkle in his eye, is just something. He truly is amazing in every way. God has a true plan for him. He will look back and then understand this journey. He is going to make one woman very happy and complete. You have such an amazing family. It was so refreshing to see such a great guy on the show. I have no idea why Emily didn't pick Sean. It just means the love of his life is waiting for him!!! All the best to all of you!!!!
kj7 says
Shay,
I normally don't post on people's blogs that I've never met but for some reason I feel compelled to do so. I have had so many people tell me they wanted to sign me up for the show and that's never something I'd do as it seems most people on the show lack morals, but I wanted to share that I admire the way Sean carried himself. I know by watching the show that he is a man of God, honest, genuine, kind-hearted and of course, extremely handsome. Seeing him on the show gave me a glimpse of hope knowing there are still great men out there. I'm a single mom and it's so hard to meet nice men when you don't go out. I know he knows that God has a plan for him but it's often hard to see when we are broken hearted. I'm not sure how people that lack faith get through tough times. I wanted to let you know how awesome I think you and your family are and what a great example he portrayed on national television. Any girl would be lucky to be able to have a man like Sean stading by them forever. May God continue to bless you and your family!
Kathryn Jaks
Houston, TX
Anne says
loved your letter to your brother, was hard to see him get hurt.
Andrea says
I came across your blog and was very touched by your sweet letter to Sean. My in-laws lived in Dallas for about 7 years when he was on staff at Dallas First Baptist. Our former pastor here in NC was the pastor there. My daughter and I have always watched the Bachelorette and enjoyed it, but this was the best yet. Sean's Christian character was such an encouragement to me. Honestly, I did not think the women of today would be so interested in such a "decent guy". I was pleasantly surprised. The interview he did for Going Beyond Ministry was great. I enjoyed hearing him talk more in depth about his faith. What a blessing he has been to so many, just by being unashamed of his faith. Whether he realizes it or not, he really is very unique in this world. I continue to tell my daughter that there really are some good guys out there besides her brother! God has a plan for her life and the person she will share it with and the same is true for Sean. Please thank him for being bold enough to let others see God working in him.
apexliving says
Hi Shay,
Your post made me cry. I made it through the show without crying but reading your post just did it!:) You are such a sweet sister and friend to him, I can tell. I loved the tape of you two talking. Very sweet! Your food blogs make my mouth water.
I have a question for you, if Sean becomes the Next Bachelor, would he be able to ask to take you along for good advice? It seems they need coaches and maybe outsiders to help with decision making. He is our favorite in Atlanta!
Ali says
So beautifully spoken, Shay! I had no idea you were a blogger until recently – have been a fan of Sean's since the Bachelorette (honestly, I think I may have shed a tear when she let him go and definitely had some choice words for the TV…) and an even bigger fan throughout his Bachelor experience. I must say that I became a fan of yours so very much when you visited him on the Bachelor – you were so confident and real with him and being a sister myself, you were so easy to relate to! Now I find your blog?! *Score!* 🙂 You are such a blessed woman (wife, mom, sister, daughter, etc!) and I just want to thank you for sharing the beauties of your life – from the big things to the small things! So happy your family is happy; praying for ALL the "Lowes"! 🙂
Michelle Stoker says
So beautiful to read this again after watching Sean and Catherine's perfect wedding tonight!!