Why did I mention my Barbie friend? Because you really and truly just never know what’s going on inside someone else’s marriage.
I get a lot of email about how women wish their hubbys were more like their friend’s husbands…how their husbands have changed…how they have changed…how it’s hard now…how it’s not fun anymore…how they’re unhappy…blah, blah, blah.
Everyone thinks the grass is greener on the other side…but you know the old adage…the grass is greenest where you water it.
I think as blog readers (which you all are…or you wouldn’t be reading this!), we have to realize that yes, most blogging ladies seem fabulous and honest…but the truth is, we have absolutely no idea what is really going on in their marriages. None. We have to stop focusing on how happy and content others look and instead try and make our marriages the best they can be.
If you would have asked me 13 months ago, whose life I would have thought was the most carefree, wonderful and blissful, I would have said Barbie’s. I had absolutely no idea she was actually living in her own personal hell…you just never know.
Marriage is hard…marriage takes a lot of work…but it is also the best partnership God gives us here on earth. Work hard on your marriage! And water it.
And just as a sidebar: I asked Barbie if I could discuss her situation without mentioning her name or giving direct clues to who she is…and she said she would prefer if I used both of their real names, maybe linked to her ex-husband’s business website and possibly put his cell phone number out there. Ha! Just in case any mad blog readers wanted to give him a piece of their minds. I was tempted…but I refrained.
Don’t worry about sweet Barbie. She is in such a good place right now. It was a really rough year, but she is no longer married to
cheater liar adulterer Ken (because it’s hard to be married to someone who wants to sleep with other women on a regular basis) and is enjoying her life with her kids.
Thank you for coming back every Wednesday this month to read about my marriage to this guy…
…without 9 years of marriage to him, I wouldn’t have had much to say. Focus on your marriage. Make it a priority in your life. Work hard at making your marriage the best it can be. Don’t hold grudges. Be a team. Pray for your marriage. If you do all of this…it can only strengthen your marriage.
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