Hello out there!
Just to recap…here are all the bloggers participating in this series…
Today, we are all talking about how we keep our marriages interesting. Do we have date nights? How do we make our marriages our priorities? So…I started thinking…
…what is one thing I can recommend for you to do to keep your marriage from growing stale.
And I decided to talk about how you should still get dressed up for your hubbys.
I know, I know…my sweet Andrew should love me no matter what I look like. Andrew has vowed to be with me for better or worse…through sickness and health…and all that other stuff he repeated one rainy March night in front of our family and friends. But…just because he should love me no matter what, doesn’t mean I should take advantage of that and just look like a hot mess at home all the time.
Here’s the thing…
I was in the corporate world for 8 years before having Kensington, so I wore office clothes every day. When I would get off work, I would keep my makeup and hair done and just throw on some sweats. I was still showered and clean and looking like I cared about myself, just with sweats on at night. Then, I got pregnant with Kensington and continued to work in an office, thus showering and dressing every day. After I had Kensington, I pretty much got pregnant with Smith right away and threw up every day…so, we can consider those months lost. But…after I had Smith, I noticed a few things happening.
First, I didn’t really have any “regular” clothes. I had business attire and maternity wear, so I needed some normal, day to day, clothes. I found myself a few times at Target and Old Navy buying zip up hoodies and sweatpants…then, one day, it dawned on me…that cute flannel button up right there at Target, is the exact same price as this hoodie…and it does the same thing (keep me warm) but yet it looked so much more put together than the sweats…so, I decided to break free.
You see…for the first year of Smith’s life, I worked out, stayed in my workout clothes all day, took care of two babies and stayed a stinky hot mess until I showered before bed. Then I would repeat the same thing the next day. My husband pretty much never saw me clean except for the 5 minutes before bed and the 30 minutes in the morning before I headed to workout. And forget about doing my hair and makeup…that was reserved for Sunday mornings at church.
I had become one of those people.
So…I revamped my wardrobe one day. I realized it really takes the exact same amount of effort to put on a shirt and jeans as it does sweatpants and a hoodie. And ponytails are still perfectly acceptable ways to wear my hair…I just might want to start putting some dry shampoo in there first to you know…spruce things up. And just a swipe of lipstick can turn me from drab to fab. It really doesn’t take much effort.
So, my tip for the day in how to keep your marriage interesting is that ladies, we should still try and look cute (or at least clean) for our men. I still wear sweats at night but I at least try and make them match…and I try to be clean when I’m wearing them. Not only do I feel better for my poor husband but I feel better for me too! Getting myself together makes me feel better…it makes me feel good about myself.
I repeat, this is not about wearing fancy schmancy clothes all day long…it’s just about caring enough about yourself to pull yourself together…and not just for you but for that sweet boy who married you.
Next week, we end our series. I’m going to talk about how you just really never know what’s going on inside someone’s marriage. Don’t always assume everything is rosy.
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