Today’s Shade of Shay is all about being a girl mom.
Raising a girl and raising a boy are very different for me at times.
We didn’t find out our babies’ genders until they were born…and the entire time I was pregnant with Kensington, I just knew it was a boy (ironically, I would have bet my life that Smith was a girl…I apparently have absolutely no mother’s intuition).
When they pulled her out and Andrew said it was a girl, I was really in shock. A girl mom. I immediately became a girl mom.
One of the best parts about raising a girl is watching her turn into this little lady. I love watching her pick out her outfits, play with her baby dolls, find the perfect bracelet, giggle when she watches something funny on TV, listen to her talk about becoming a mommy one day, catch her trying on my heels and hearing her “mother” any and everyone who will let her (poor Smith).
I find raising a daughter really challenging too. I want her to be sweet but strong at the same time. I want her to be sensitive but also full of self-confidence. I never want my daughter to find her worth in the way she looks or in a man. I want her to always know she’s good enough on her own…made unique and beautiful and perfect in the Lord. I pray every day she finds her worth and completion in Christ, not people.
I’ve already learned that girls are tricky because in my opinion, they’re more emotional than boys (at least in our house that’s the case). If Smith is upset, he can tell you exactly why…but Kensington, if she’s upset, sometimes it’s just because (there can be a lot of emotions in that five year old girl). Andrew and I have to work every day to be sensitive but firm at the same time.
Kensington is my clingy kid. This girl is connected at her mama’s hip…and I love it :). I hope she always wants to spend time with me.
The things I hope she (and her new little sister) learn from me are that first and foremost, I love the Lord. I want them to put their faith and trust in Jesus.
I hope they learn to love other females like I do too. I love having girlfriends in my life. My friends mean everything to me and I really hope my girls become women who love and support other women too.
I hope they find a few passions in life. Whether it’s something as silly as baseball or as big as a career, I hope they are passionate girls with big dreams and goals.
A few things about my sweet K right now…
1. She loves to bake and cook. I don’t know if she’ll professionally be in the kitchen, but I know that preparing and enjoying a good meal is something that will be with her forever.
2. Her favorite color is turquoise
3. She has a dog named Lucky who goes everywhere with us. Every. Where. When we gave her the dog five years ago, it had spots on it (it’s a dalmatian), and she has literally loved the spots right off.
4. She loves all things baby. She loves playing with our friends who have little kids and she cannot wait for Ashby to come. She tells me every day that she’s basically going to raise her by herself (she’s going to feed her, bathe her, dress her, care for her, and on and on).
5. She’s really nervous about kindergarten. She doesn’t want to be away from me all day, every day. This just breaks my heart into a million pieces but I don’t let her see.
6. She’s my kid that says things she shouldn’t…and we’re working on that. We’re working on her choosing her words wisely and not just saying whatever she feels. She’s quick to throw out statements like “you’re not my best friend any more” which is hurtful and mean…so, we work on that.
7. She’s recently discovered Full House and loves that show. She has a crush on Uncle Jesse and honestly, so do I ;).
8. She is not a big eater. Her favorite foods are pasta and meatballs and she loves salsa and ketchup on any and everything. Her very, very, very favorite thing to eat is egg whites (her dad is so proud).
9. She loves ballet, speaking little bits of French, the Red Sox, and planning our next vacations…she couldn’t be more like me if she tried. She has so many of my good qualities and a handful of my bad.
I love this kid so much. I love that she made me a girl mom. I am so excited to watch her become a big sister twice over, and I’m excited to be a girl mom to a second girl really soon. I find being a girl mom so much fun and so absolutely hair-pulling frustrating all at once…it’s a wild ride :).
In a few weeks, I’ll share my thoughts on being a boy mom. It’s so different, and yet, so fun too.
If you’re a girl mom, I would love one piece of girl mom advice!
Comment below please because I covet any and all tips and advice for raising girls.
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