Scarf Exchange 2018

Ah!  On Tuesday, we had our annual scarf exchange…but this time, we made it a fall accessories exchange!

Okay, if you’re new around here, let me recap a bit.

Every year (for YEARS now!), I get together with a group of girlfriends and we kick off fall with a scarf exchange.

Here’s how you play:

1: We always do it at the beginning of fall because it gets us in the mood.

2: Everyone brings a scarf wrapped up so that we can’t see what the scarf looks like.  (You can set a budget so that everyone is paying the same amount.)

3: We write down numbers on pieces of paper for how many of us there are.  So if there are 12 of us, we write 1-12 on little strips of paper and then we all draw a random number.

4: Number one goes first and picks a scarf.  They open and we all admire.  Then #2 can either steal a scarf or pick another random wrapped package.  And this goes on and on (like a White Elephant Exchange you might do at Christmas).  The scarf can only be stolen twice before it gets frozen and then cannot be stolen again.  At the end, we let #1 go again and she can either keep her original scarf or exchange it with anyone wearing an unfrozen scarf.

This year, we decided to get crazy (ha!) and make it a FALL ACCESSORIES EXCHANGE.  So, you could bring a scarf (totally fall!) or something else.  We had girls bring all sorts of things from earrings to cozy socks, necklaces, nail polish and more!

We played by the same rules as above…but this time, there were things other than scarves to swap.

If you’re looking for a fun GNO activity this fall or holiday season, you should totally do this!  You could make it vague (kind of like we did) or specific (bath products, makeup, drug store buys, candles, bracelets, etc).   We do this with the girls in our Sunday school class about twice a year and it’s the perfect group activity if everyone doesn’t know each other because it really gets you into things and introduces you to new people.

I always like to share this tradition every year because it’s such a good one!  This would be fun for your tweens and teens too 🙂 .

Do you have any other traditions like this that work well for girls nights out?  I would love to hear them!!  It’s always fun when you eat and then do some sort of activity too.  Let me know!!

Happy (almost) fall, y’all!


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  • Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog August 30, 2018 at 4:45 am

    The scarf exchange is such a cute idea! I think I’m going to do something similar with my girlfriends. 🙂

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog

  • Erika Slaughter August 30, 2018 at 5:07 am

    It was a BLAST-like always. 😉

  • LeeAnn August 30, 2018 at 5:20 am

    Such a fun party idea!

  • Sheaffer Sims August 30, 2018 at 5:22 am

    5. Friends may or may not turn completely SAVAGE and plot ways to get their favorite item back. Even if it’s kind of cheating. Hahahahahahahaha! Love this night and my girls.

    • Mix and Match Mama August 30, 2018 at 5:37 am

      Some of us are RUTHLESS!! Hahahaha!

    • Meagan Ruse August 30, 2018 at 9:10 am

      I would never….hahaha!

  • Elspeth Mizner August 30, 2018 at 5:43 am

    Love it!! What fun!

  • Rachel August 30, 2018 at 6:21 am

    My friends and I did a scarf exchange last year because we loved this idea – it was so fun! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  • Amanda Littlejohn August 30, 2018 at 6:27 am

    Too fun! Thanks for sharing!

  • Narci August 30, 2018 at 6:29 am

    It was so much fun!! I just love this fun little tradition!

  • Alexis deZayas August 30, 2018 at 6:37 am

    I’ve been dying to do this every year when I read about it on your blog and I just texted my friends last night about hosting one this year 🙂 I’m SO pumped!

  • Elizabeth August 30, 2018 at 7:15 am

    I always love reading about these fun traditions that you guys do each year like the scarf exchange and the recipe exchange. I wish that I had a close group of friends where I live, but all my friends are scattered across the country. You are getting me so excited for fall!

  • Amanda @ Cupcake N Dreams August 30, 2018 at 7:18 am

    You switched it up this year! I actually like the idea of accessories and maybe can convince my girlfriends to do that for our Christmas party!

    Amanda @ Cupcake N Dreams

  • Michelle August 30, 2018 at 7:25 am

    I went to a Christmas coffee mug exchange last year. We played by these same rules and it was so much FUN!

  • Laura @ Cheered On Mom August 30, 2018 at 7:34 am

    Love seeing this each year! Such a great way to have fun and get ready for Fall! 💗🍁

  • Kim August 30, 2018 at 7:52 am

    What a fun night! Do you always keep it the same day (ex. Last Tuesday of August or whenever) so everyone knows to leave that evening open from year to year?

    • Mix and Match Mama August 30, 2018 at 12:13 pm

      We do! This was the first year that we did it a week early to accommodate a couple of schedules, but typically, it’s always the day after Labor Day.

  • Erin Port August 30, 2018 at 7:53 am

    It’s like a favorite things party which I have participated in and love 🙂

  • Ariadna August 30, 2018 at 7:58 am

    Is this when you do your recipe exchange or this is closer to Christmas? I love all the fun traditions you have with your girlfriends!

    • Mix and Match Mama August 30, 2018 at 12:13 pm

      That’s closer to Christmas!

  • Jenna August 30, 2018 at 8:15 am

    How fun! I think my small group would love doing this.

  • Angela Ellingson August 30, 2018 at 9:03 am

    So fun!! Was Narci’s scarf from you?! That’s my guess.

    • Mix and Match Mama August 30, 2018 at 12:12 pm

      Hahahaha! Yes!! I loved mine so much that I bought one to share at the exchange!

  • Deej August 30, 2018 at 9:11 am

    I just emailed a friend of mine who follows your blog as well and I told her we need to start doing this with our group of friends! Fall is our favorite season and this is a great way to get together!

    • Mix and Match Mama August 30, 2018 at 12:12 pm

      Ah!!! So fun!!!!

  • Carmen August 30, 2018 at 9:29 am

    Funny thing! We do the exact same thing with Christmas gifts at work at our Christmas party. There is only one thing: it stays wrapped until it’s frozen. So you don’t get to actually see what you get.

  • Nori D August 30, 2018 at 9:47 am

    Monthly 3 friends and I visit a restaurant. It should be NOT a chain and normally not one we’ve been to before. This leads to different ethnicities , winners and losers! One year we picked a particular area of town, but sometimes it’s because one of us saw a review or drove by. When we celebrate a birthday, the birthday girl gets to pick anywhere she wants, and of course, we have developed favorites over the years so sometimes we repeat!

  • Molly Gionet August 30, 2018 at 9:58 am

    SO fun! My favorite girls night is a holiday favorite things party I host each year! Everyone brings 4 of the same thing that is around $10. You can set whatever budget you want. Then we do four different rounds where you then get to pick one of someone’s favorite things they brought ! So basically you come with 4 of something you love and leave with 4 different gifts that someone else has brought!!

  • Jillian August 30, 2018 at 10:14 am

    I hosted my first scarf exchange last year as a girls night for all my girl cousins, and put on the invitation to bring a fall inspired dish, and it was a hit! I am planning my next one now, we did it last year in October and I am planning on sending out my digital invites next week. Thanks for sharing the idea, and for your Fall recipes because I always end up here to find what I am going to make 🙂

  • Missy August 30, 2018 at 10:25 am

    We did a scarf exchange last year at the beginning of December–it was the soonest we could get everyone together!! We had such a great time!! So what did you get this year?

    • Mix and Match Mama August 30, 2018 at 12:11 pm

      I got those cozy socks I’m wearing in the pic and a pair of earrings!

  • Melanie August 30, 2018 at 10:42 am

    Between Thanksgiving and Christmas, I always host a party for about 8 friends. We started out doing a coffee mug swap, exactly how you described the scarf swap. Then we started doing a Favorite Things party. Everyone brings five $5 gifts (so I would get 5 of one item that costs $5). We draw names to see who gets what. It is so fun because everyone leaves with 5 different gifts.

  • Karen August 30, 2018 at 11:40 am

    Can we see what you got?! This is so fun!

  • Lindsay McDowell August 30, 2018 at 12:01 pm

    I hosted a scarf exchange with some of my girlfriends after seeing it on your blog. We did it closer to Christmas, but it was still lots of fun! I love the idea of a fall accessory exchange though. It gives more variety if some girls don’t wear scarves. Thank you for all of your fun ideas and suggestions.

  • Courtney August 30, 2018 at 1:37 pm

    I love seeing your party ideas, thanks for sharing Shay! Do you rotate houses each year and each of you brings something to eat as well?


    • Mix and Match Mama August 31, 2018 at 5:42 am

      We kind of do! We used to meet at Starbucks and do this, but decided we could be more loud at someone’s home 🙂 .

  • Angie August 30, 2018 at 6:06 pm

    I do an annual favorite things party with my group of girls. We all bring a favorite bottle of wine to share, a favorite appetizer and 1 item x’s the number of girls. Like if you have a specific lip gloss you love and 10 girls are attending the party, then you bring 10 of them. I have bags set up with everyone’s name (I usually do it around Halloween, so they are like plastic pumpkins for trick or treating or trick or treat bags). Then everyone puts their items in the bags discreetly. We then guess who brought what. It doesn’t have to be expensive. We have had cozy socks, candles, pj’s, candy bars, baked goods, jewelry, make- up, hair products, hand soaps etc. Everyone leaves the party with a swag bag 🙂 It’s a win, win!

    • Mix and Match Mama August 31, 2018 at 5:41 am

      I love this!!!

  • Chrys August 31, 2018 at 6:17 pm

    Between your post Shay and all the ideas in the comments, I am convinced I MUST do this! Let the planning begin! By the way, what do you do with the kiddos and the hubbies? I know my hubby would be all about participating in this fun 😂

  • Sara F September 5, 2018 at 2:45 pm

    Too fun! I started hosting a scarf party for my gfs too! Just created my Facebook event today for this year’s (3rd annual) party! Such a fun way to get everyone together and do something out of the ordinary.

  • Lindsey September 6, 2018 at 10:37 pm

    My girlfriends and I do our “favorite things” party around Christmas. There are 7 of us so we each bring our favorite item/items x 6. The limit is$5-10. We take turns giving everyone our favorite things…it is SO fun! We each go home with at least 6 gifts (many more because some girls do their favorite 3 or 4 items all totaling less than $10) and so many new things to try. Last year we had favorites ranging from a comfy sleep shirt, an adorable home decor planter, face masks, nail polish, earrings, hair ties, pj pants, a hair brush, candy bar and even an alcoholic beverage 🙂 While it’s SO fun to get all of these things and try tried and true favorites of my best pals, it’s even more fun to share my favorite item with them so they can love it too!