Happy Tuesday, friends!
Today’s post is all about my 2021 resolutions!
I typically don’t make New Year’s resolutions (because in my heart, I feel like the start of the school year is the “beginning of a new chapter” for me)…but this year, I had a few, so I thought I’d share them with you.
Plus, if I tell you, then I’ll have to really do them right?!?! 😉
Maybe it’s the fact that I’m about to turn 40 or the fact that I’m very ready to “start a new chapter” (bye, bye 2020), but this year, there are a few things I want to work on/accomplish/do differently. They’ve been on my heart over the last 6 weeks or so…so I decided to just call them resolutions, share them today and hope for the best. In no particular order, here they are…
#1: Be more present.
Awwwww. That’s probably an obvious/popular/cliche one, but one I’ve really felt weighing on me over the last month or so. Here’s the deal…I like being a one woman show. The older I get, the less I care about “labels”, and the more I recognize/own/accept some of mine: I’m Type-A, can be a control freak about “my people, my time, my work”, I don’t like help, I prefer to work alone, I like things done “right” and most of the time prefer to just do them myself. Again, I thoroughly enjoy being a “one woman show”…buuuuuuuuut by being a one woman show, I’ve noticed lately that I have so many balls in the air that I have a hard time focusing because there are too many balls and I can’t let one drop. I used to think “yay, I work from home and am my own boss so that means I’m able to be there for my kids 24/7”, but the reality is that even though I might physically be there, my brain is a million other places because I don’t ask for help and/or delegate. I’m going to really work on that this year. I want to be more present and less preoccupied with all of the “stuff” I’m doing that honestly either doesn’t need to be done or someone else can do it for me. I want my brain space free for my family.
#2: Stop making appointments before 11:00 AM.
Hi, my name is Shay, and I’m a morning person. For 40 years, I have loved the morning time the most so when I needed to make a hair appointment, dentist appointment, volunteer at my kids’ school, run to the post office, or whatever other chore I had, I always scheduled it for first thing in the morning. 8:00 am dentist appointment? Of course! I love the morning! Get to my hairstylists’s office by 9:45 (even though she’s a 45 minute drive from my house)? Yes! I’d love to! But here’s the deal…I am a morning person…I love the mornings…and nothing can ruin my morning more than being frazzled over getting somewhere early. I like to workout, take my kids to school, walk the dogs, take a shower, work and enjoy the beat of my morning…so why am I interrupting it with early appointments??? If I went to the dentist at 1:00, I would have already accomplished so much, and that would probably make me so much more productive and feel less stressed! I don’t know why it’s taken me so long, but it finally hit me last fall, I need to STOP MAKING EARLY APPOINTMENTS.
#3: I’m done doing the laundry, emptying the dishwasher and doing other chores during my work day.
I had another revelation over the fall…Andrew Shull would never stop his work day and fold a load of laundry. Never. He’s at work. He’s focused on his work. That is his work time. He would happily fold laundry after work, but why would he neglect his work to stop and fold a load of laundry that could wait until later in the day? SO WHY DO I DO IT?! Working from home is amazing. I really can’t imagine working any other way…but when you’re a Type-A control freak like me (with a desk three feet from the washer and dryer), stopping and starting work multiple times a day to shuffle laundry around, fold a load, empty the dishwasher, etc is a hard habit to break. I’m breaking it this year. it just hit me one day “why do I keep getting up from my work to do chores when my husband doesn’t do that?”. Also, why am I doing chores during the day WHEN MY FOUR KIDS AREN’T HOME TO HELP?! Seriously? What’s wrong with me? I need to start doing it later in the afternoon/evening when everyone is home and everyone can help. Maybe it won’t all get done? I’m going to have to learn to live with that…because I shouldn’t be doing it during my work day.
#4: I need to attempt more gluten-free dessert recipes.
Ugh…I have been quite the slacker with the g-free baking. Here’s the deal, I’m not much of a “sweets” person. I want dip, cheese, sausage and #allthesavory. When we became a gluten-free house last year, it was way easier to just stop making sweet stuff for my kids then mess with the 4 billion flour alternatives out there (because despite what some might say, I just don’t think there is one great g-free flour for every recipe). Honestly? Three out of four kids could care less. Smith can take or leave dessert, and my two little girls almost always decline it (Madeley in particular has zero interest in dessert), so really, do I need to master all sorts of g-free desserts just for Kensington? Yes. The answer is yes. Baking is her love language and she’s the one who is gluten-intolerant, so yes, I need to do that more because it’s special to her. We baked more during Christmas than any other time of the year, and she loved it. She absolutely loved the time in the kitchen with me, she loved having the actual desserts to eat and she loved learning new ways to bake g-free which I NEED TO TEACH HER BEFORE SHE GOES OFF TO COLLEGE IN JUST SIX SHORT YEARS. Right?! My other kids can just open up one of my cookbooks or visit mixandmatchmama.com to see their favorite recipes when they’re older, but sweet Kensington is going to have to learn to bake in an entirely different way, so I need to lead the way and not be a lazy g-free baker.
#5: I am going to make my neighbors socialize.
Weird but true.
Here’s the deal, I really love my neighborhood. We bought our property 10 years ago to build our house because we loved the trees, the creek, the little lake, the hills, the bigger lots, you can walk to school, to Starbucks, to the pool…we loved it all. We finally moved into our house 6 years ago, and it took me approximately 5 minutes to realize that my neighbors are all very friendly but private. Okay, I’m pretty private too (a weird juxtaposition to my life on the internet, but it’s true). At a party, I’m not going to be the center of attention, I’m more reserved, more guarded, more private…I respect private people. This fall, I met two new neighbors who had each just moved in within about two weeks of each other, and as I have gotten to know them more, they’ve been shocked when I mention “other moms with kids like us” in the neighborhood because they’re both like “we never see other moms out in the neighborhood/we didn’t know other people our age with kids our ages lived here” because everyone is so private. So, I don’t know how, but I am determined to connect more this year with my neighbors. COVID isn’t making things easy (as I won’t be hosting a party anytime soon), but hopefully things will start to change, and whether it’s a wine night, book club, Bible study, whatever, I can connect with more of my neighbors (and them with each other) because it would be a shame not to get to know the people who live near me better.
I only had five, but I would rather have five that really speak to my heart than just make up 10 to make this post longer/better. I am really going to try and work on all of these this year…and of course, I’ll keep you posted on how it’s going 😉 .
So, spill it. Do you have resolutions for 2021? I would love to hear them if you do!! Comment please!!
Also, one more thing, yesterday’s post left me in tears. You guys are amazing. Seriously, you pray for my family and we feel it. We feel your love and your support. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for returning day after day. I do not take it for granted. Love you all. xo