It’s the February edition of LET’S LOOK!
If you don’t know what this is, once a month, Erika and I do a little link up where we “look” at different aspects of our lives (and then if you blog, you share and link up too!). It’s often a random little assortment of topics.
In January, we looked at…
…our coffee bar areas, and today, we’re looking at…
…our love languages 🙂 .
So, years and years ago, Andrew and I read the official book on The Five Love Languages…
…if you’ve never read it before, you should!! I honestly still think about this book all the time, and we read it probably 15 years ago. I think it’s applicable for not just your mate, but for your kids, your parents, your friends…everyone that you love. In the book, the author says there are five love languages and you’re more inclined to some over the others, BUT you can’t just focus on your love language because you have to know how to understand your (insert person here) love language. For instance, my love language is words of affirmation but Andrew’s is quality time. If I want to truly show Andrew little ways that make him feel loved, I need to speak his language and not mine (and vice versa). It’s super interesting, and I highly recommend the book.
So, “official love languages” aside, there are little ways we show each other love, so I thought I’d share those today about each of us Shulls including the dogs. Ha!
When I sat down to think about my peeps, it was interesting to me to think about how I know there are specific ways my kids all respond/react to things the other kids aren’t into.
So, let’s start with Andrew and me…
Nothing makes me happier than when Andrew does all the little things. Here is a little sample of what makes me feel loved: when he brings me home a Starbucks during the day, when I get into my car and the gas tank is full, when I see him emptying the dishwasher (with zero prompting), when I mention things like “geez, I need to weed my vegetable garden” and the next day, he’s done it for me. It’s those little things (thoughtful things) that really stand out to me and make me feel loved. I’ve said for years that receiving flowers aren’t my jam (I’d rather receive a coffee!), but about two years ago, I commented that in all of the Nancy Meyers’ movies I love so much, the leading ladies always have fresh flowers on their kitchen counters. Well, that’s all I said but every single week since then, fresh flowers appear on my island 🙂 . Every single week. They’re not fancy (just grocery store flowers), but they’re seasonal and make me so happy and feel so loved. So, that’s my love language.
Now, I asked Andrew the same question and his answers were short and sweet (granted, I think he was on a ski lift when I asked him). He said he feels loved when I spend time with him, when he sees me taking care of our family, when I “talk him off the ledge” about things, when I’m really positive, and when I talk about the future with him.
The longer I parent, the more I realize that my kids have different love languages too.
Here is a little snippet about each of them…
Kensington’s love language is doing things for her. If I come home from the grocery store and leave a packet of gum on her desk, she is so thankful and grateful. She likes to be thought of during the day. If I stop by her room and grab her laundry for her, she will notice first thing when she gets home from school. Her weakness is sugar (where my other kids aren’t really interested in dessert), so if I make her something sweet to enjoy after dinner, she is over the moon. I would say that thoughtfulness is something that speaks to this girl’s heart.
Mr. Smith on the other hand, has an entirely different love language. Smith wants you to talk to him. Smith wants to go for a walk with you and talk. He wants to sit at the kitchen counter and talk. He wants to share about his day, what he’s reading, the latest movie he’s watched…Smith is very verbal, very chatty and talking is his thing. On Monday, the girls were at speech, and I needed to run an errand, so I asked Smith if he wanted to go too. He jumped at the chance to sit in the car with me and chat. Both of Smith’s grandpas are chatty too, and it delights my heart to see him go off and be chatty with his grandpas.
Now, for Ashby? Well, her love language is one on one time. Ashby loves to have your undivided attention. She doesn’t care if you’re playing a game, watching a movie, going shopping or grabbing a bite to eat, Ashby just wants your attention. Her different therapists all agree that she’s a very easy patient because she loves the one on one time she receives in all therapies and because of it, is so open to talk, to work on her stuff, to cooperate, to grow…it’s a great attribute.
And finally, Miss Madeley. Well, this girl wants all your snuggles. She will ask me first thing in the morning if we can snuggle after school. She’ll drop what she’s doing and snuggle at any time, any place. At a baseball game? She’ll snuggle. At church? She’ll snuggle. At a restaurant? She’ll snuggle. She loves to snuggle and right now, I would say that’s her biggest love language.
Now…all of you dog people out there know that even the dogs have their own love languages…
…this crazy crew right here has taught me a lot about love. Ha! They’re all so different and want different things. Poppy (who is almost 9) wants to be near me. If I get up and leave the room, she’s going with me. If I’m outside, she’ll come out. She wants nearness. Frenchie (who is 3) wants you single her out. She likes to get attention. She’ll get so excited if I pick her up and not the other dogs. She wants you to hold her, love on her, and shower her with praise. Yankee (who is 1) wants you to play with her. She wants you to throw a ball, chase her, take her on a walk. This dog lights up when you’re physical with her.
So, we are the Shulls and these are our love languages. What are yours??? What are things that make you feel loved? I want to know!! Please tell me in the comment section!!
Also, next month, we will be hosting Let’s Look on March 17th and the topic is…
…our perfect night in 🙂 .
If you blogged today, please link up below! See you guys tomorrow! xx