Ahhhh! These two pics are from yesterday but I thought they were worth repeating :).
Today, we had our appointment with the US Consulate to finish up our very last piece of adoption business. No phones, cameras or whatnot are allowed inside the Consulate, so we left everything in the hotel and therefore…I don’t have any pics from today. That being said, for my own records, I want to document a few things from today and from our trip altogether.
When we arrived in the Consulate, Andrew and I got to raise our right hands and take Ashby’s US citizenship oath on her behalf. Not going to lie but it was really emotional…one of us even teared up (not me ;)…). After that, they explained that her US Social Security Card would be mailed to us within the next 6 weeks and we received her Certificate of Adoption that listed us as her parents and also officially changed her name to Ashby London Shull. From here on out, that will be her legal name :). We signed a few last things, had fingerprints taken and received our immigration folder. This folder cannot be opened until we land in the US. Once we arrive in San Fransisco (we layover there on our way to Dallas), the immigration office there will open her folder and immigrate her into our country. That moment right there officially makes her a US Citizen. My heart is already so full.
So, that about wraps up China. We’ll begin our journey home tomorrow after we pick up Ashby’s passport that will now have a US Visa inside.
I also want to jot down a few things that I’ll want to remember about Ashby and our time in China. As much as I would like to say I’ll remember these details forever, the odds are, I will probably forget some.
-As of today, she can say Mama, Dada, Smith, uh-oh, yay and stroller.
-Speaking of said stroller, she does not like it when either Kensington or Smith hop in. She has laid claim to that stroller and fusses at them if they sit in it.
-The very first day, Ashby saw me pull antibacterial out of my bag and immediately knew what it was for. They must have used it a lot in the orphanage because she’s always so proud that she knows how to use it. She’s super in love with my Bath and Body Works scented ones and smiles really big when she smells her hands.
-The very first time we put Ashby in the tub, she started washing herself. She must have learned that in her foster home. She also knew what we were doing when we brushed her teeth too.
-When Ashby wakes up from a nap or in the morning, she just opens her eyes and doesn’t move. We think she must have gotten in trouble in the foster home if she got out of bed because she will not budge…she just lies there.
-Ashby loves Kensington! She will talk non-stop to K (especially at night).
-Ashby loves to eat! She is so cute at the table and is always happy to try new things. We gave her tomatoes today and she ate them up!
-Ashby loves getting dressed in the morning. She squeals when we pull out her clothes and she holds really still while we get her dressed. She always seems so proud to have her clothes on.
My friend Courtney is a mama to a boy adopted from Uganda and has really been my biggest cheerleader during the last several years. Her advice to me the day before we left was to set really low expectations and then I would have the time of my life. I did just that…and I did have the time of my life. Our time here in China has been fabulous. Andrew and I have loved this 24/7 time with our kids that we don’t get at home. It’s been so nice to be forced to be in the same room with these little people day in and day out…it really has bonded us even more as a family.
Our road to parenthood hasn’t been easy. Infertility. Miscarriage. Really sick pregnancies. Adoption. We began the journey to become parents eight years ago and it’s been pretty emotional and stressful…but it’s been so worth it. I really don’t know if Ashby is the end of this journey or merely step three in four? We’re going to go home, pray about our future and let God work out the details.
We’re excited to be home, to get into a new routine and start our journey as a family five. We know that the so called “honeymoon” phase of adoption will end and reality will set in for all of us. Ashby’s health issues need to be addressed first thing and as far as we know, they’re going to be complicated and long term. We also have to work on Ashby’s speech and help her learn the English language along with all of the other things kiddos her age already know.
Thank you so much for sharing in our journey. Again, from the very bottom of our hearts, we are so overwhelmed and blessed by your words of encouragement and most of all prayers.
I am the Mix and Match Mama and I’m so blessed God has made us a little mix and match family. He always knows how to align the perfect pieces.
Much love from China!
Danika says
Just loved all those special moments you shared about Ashby. I'm definitely a crier and I'd be a pool of tears every time one of those memorable moments happened. Wishing you a safe journey home!
Jenni says
So love this post. Love the beautiful picture your family is living out. Thank you for obeying the call & "preaching" of what the Savior did for us.
Dianne Hall says
So happy for you all!!
Sally Hepworth says
I love reading these posts. I'm so happy for you all. What a journey. I wish you all the best.
damickey says
Congratulations. She is adorable.
Kristin Halvorsen says
I really love following your journey in adoption. I was adopted at 4 from Korea. Came here speaking no English and was fluent after pre school. Ashby is one lucky girl to have such an amazing family! I look forward to your updates and Instagram pictures! 🙂
Katerina says
You're such an inspiration! I log in to your blog multiple times a day to see if there are any more updates. My heart is so full and warm every time I read how wonderful, selfless, and loving you are to your children and family. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, and thank you for showing us children of other ethnicities and children with special needs or disabilities are also beautiful and deserving of love. God bless your family today, tomorrow, and always!!!
Mary C. says
I know God is with your sweet family. Ashby was yours long before you went to China. Your family is now reunited. Sending you so much love.
sarah c says
I love these sweet Ashby moments ! So precious! Especially how she loves talking to K ! What do they talk about? Lol She just warms my heart with her sweet smile more everyday! I'm so glad she opens herself and her heart! I'm incredibly happy for your beautiful family! Congratulations!
Rebekah @ Living && Learning says
Prayers for safe travels home for your beautiful family!
Sheaffer {Pinterest Told Me To} says
Yes! The journey home is starting!!!! It's so amazing that Ashby has already picked up several English words and is using them functionally! Smart Girl! I'm so excited to work with her and show you some strategies that will make her transition to English as easy as possible for her! Get home Shulls! Prayers for a safe and easy trip!!! xoxo
Macy Strozier says
Thanks for making me cry. I love how you were like " I am the Mix and Match Mama". You made it seem like nobody can't take your place, and guess what, NOBODY CAN!!!!!!!!
Amy Heinl says
Thamk you for sharing your journey with us. It has been a blessing to see you go from a family of 4 to a family of 5. Praying for your safe travels home
Patty says
I have loved reading about your journey of adoption and time in China. I have had tears of joy reading each post. Ashby has a beautiful smile and I love the two pictures you posted again. 🙂 Each time, I would read each post, all I could think of is how good our God is. God cares about all the details of our lives. He is so amazing to me. I am continuing to pray for you all as you travel home, and for Ashby's health issues. Thank you for sharing your adoption journey with us and I can't wait to read your blog each morning. Blessings to you and your sweet family.
Brittany Medland says
Those pictures were most definitely worth sharing again! I was wondering yesterday if she had any English words, that's so wonderful. Thank you for sharing your incredible journey. Safe travels home xoxo
Johannah says
Thanks for sharing your story!! I would be lying if I told you these last few posts haven't made me tear up. Praying for a safe trip home for all 5 of you. What an amazing journey you have had!!!!
Dani {Adventures of a Pharm Girl} says
Thank you for being so open and allowing your journey and story to be shares with so many! Safe travels to you and your sweet family. Hurry back!
xoxo
Chic Coastal Living says
Wonderful memories already! So excited for you! God bless you!
Rebecca says
I love reading your journey. Loved the "mix and match" reference!
christie asmussen says
Your little girl has the cutest smile. I love that you are sharing your experience with your followers. Best wishes for your family.
Sara Lynn says
Safe travels to you and your family!! I have loved reading this whole process and have been so excited for yall!
Kirbie Hall says
I am so excited to see what the lord has in store for your sweet family!
Kathleen says
Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us. My children were both adopted here in the US, so adoption is very special to us too. Safe travels on your last leg of this trip!
Leslie says
Thanks for sharing such a special time! Your family is adorable! What a blessing and so excited for Ashby to have a forever family and I know you will teach her to love the Lord! So excited for your family of FIVE!
Stacy P. says
I have followed your amazing adventure with such expectation and anxious excitement for you! It's funny how this internet/blogland can make people feel like they "know" you…and I'm not saying I do, but I really appreciate you letting us all in on this special time. I've shared the posts and instagram photos with my family (my parents, sister, etc) and we all think Ashby is so adorable and the perfect addition to your family! God Speed and travel mercies on your way back home. 🙂
Erika Slaughter says
Eek!!! Only two more sleeps for us!! Wow!! I'm so proud of Miss Thing!! Super impressed that she already knows some words!
Anonymous says
Congratulations on one more milestone to complete your adoption journey! Ito amazing how the Internet has brought so many people together and just so crazy that I'm praying for a family in Texas that I've never even met!! Although I would love to! You guys are wonderful. Sending love and prayers. Thank you for keeping us abreast of all your happenings. I'm praying especially for little Smith. #thebabynomore
Chasing Pure Simplicity says
Our family is "mix and match" too – and I love the way God brought us all together! That doesn't mean it was easy or trial free – but it was so perfect for us!
Congratulations to your family! 2015 was a great year to become a family of 5!
~Maggie~ says
What a little doll. I just grin and then tear up and then grin and then giggle while reading. I have a two year old little girl and she speaks in almost complete sentences majority of the time, however, I have two nephews that are Ashby's age and on their second bday they still were not talking so kudos to Ashby! She'll have it down in no time! Have a safe flight home.
Kristen Gerdel says
I have loved following your journey. I'm so happy for your family. Safe travels home!
kimm atwood says
Safe travels!
Anonymous says
Beautiful!! Thank you for sharing!! Prayers to you and family!!
Narci says
So many incredible things to celebrate! Praise God! We are ready for you to come home, Shull Family! ❤️
Angela Ellingson says
Yay!! Thank you for sharing this beautiful journey with us!!! Praying for safe travels HOME!
Anonymous says
3 of our 4 are internationally adopted years ago, so it is fun to re live the process through you all. Keep the updates coming! 🙂
Lindsay D. says
Thank you for sharing your journey with us! I have teared up on more than one occasion!! I have loved seeing the pictures of Ashby!! She is such a beautiful girl and you can tell full of love and joy!!! God bless your family!!!
Jessica Andrusko says
Sending so much love to you and your family!!!!
Laci Murray says
Thank you so much for letting us follow along this journey with your family. It has been so incredible to watch and read. I enjoy every update and my heart just burst in joy when you post new stuff. Safe travels home to the US.
Bethany says
Shay- So happy for your sweet family. What a blessing from God. Prayers for a smooth and safe trip home. xo
Anonymous says
Love and family are amazing things! You can even see the change in Ashby's eyes from the time when you first picked her up to now. She has that spark in her eyes now — even when she's trying not to smile, you can see it in her eyes. Amazing.
Thank you for your posts. They've been a highlight to my mornings. My heart has been touched.
Kari Haudenschilt says
My brother and his wife adopted a little boy from China almost two years ago now, and he is one of the greatest joys of my life. Thank you so much for sharing your journey to your precious little girl. She will bless your lives so much!
MrsMcKinley00 says
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I am over the moon happy for you all! I love Ashby's smile. Praying for safe travels.
Anonymous says
Praying for your safe and peaceful journey home. And for sweet Ashby as she meets so many new people who already love her.
Tracy says
I'm so happy for the Shull Five! What a sweet time you've had in China! I know it must do your heart good to know your girl was so cared for while she was waiting for her forever family to arrive! When my kids were little I trained them not to get out of their beds when they got up. They would call for me and I'd come and get them. I didn't want them wandering the house if we were asleep and possibly getting into things that they shouldn't. She may not have gotten in trouble for getting up but rather trained to do that for her own safety (and peace of mind for her foster mom). Can't wait to hear the rest of your story! Safe travels home. 🙂
Laura Fuller says
She is a doll!
Anonymous says
I am so happy for your family! What a blessing!
Lacy McMurry says
I love the details! Thanks for sharing! Safe travels home!
Gina says
Thank you so much for sharing this journey with all of us. It's wonderful to hear how many readers are interested in adoption and just think how many probably hundreds or more are thinking of this option that haven't even written you to learn more {me inlcuded!}. It looks like Ashby is fitting right in with your sweet family. So heartwarming to see. Safe travels!
Meg Hodges says
I just LOVE this!!!! I love the part about her not moving when she wakes up! And the excited girly part of loving clothes!! Ashby is just a baby doll and seems to be the perfect missing puzzle piece to your already beautiful family! Kids have a certain way of making other kids feeling more comfortable, and it seems Kensington and Smith have done just that for Miss Ashby!!! Congratulations again Shull 5, and God bless y'all and keep y'all safe on your way home!!!
Sally Lockwood says
So happy the 5 Shulls are headed home. It has been a wonderful experience for you and all of us as well. Your journey is just beginning and will be a journey forever. All of us will be in it with you all the way through and we couldnt be more proud of Mix and Match Mama and her family of 5! Can't wait for you to get home and to see how everything falls into place. Hugs to you
Paula says
I don't know why this particular post made me cry so much! Knowing the promise to be Mommy & Daddy. Knowing she probably learned to bathe herself so young. Knowing she probably wasn't allowed to move upon wakening. Knowing this special time with your children is so valued. Knowing she's yours. Knowing that by living and sharing your life's journey, God's work is being done through and around you!
I feel emotional over this post! Congratulations Shull! Good is so very good! Excited to watch this year unfold and all of Ashby's first. It will be like first for everyone.
ALSO….I know some sweet little boy has a special birthday coming up Sunday, because he shares my birthday if I remember right! Glad you'll be home to celebrate!
Sharon S says
What a wonderful journey it has been to follow. Thanks for sharing so many of the details of your private world. I love how you are now the Mix and Match family. All the best to the Shull 5.
Melissa says
YEAY! This whole post made me cry and smile at the same time. I love that Ashby loves antibacterial ("squirt" as we call it in our house) and is so happy to get dressed. She came to the right house ; )
Thank you for your honesty and your joy through this process. It has been so much fun to watch and I can't wait to see what the next few years hold for your little family.
Tara Ishida says
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story! I love how you document this time and also how your reference mix and match mama. You are such an inspiration! Continued prayers for your new family of five and safe travels home. L
Anonymous says
Shay,
I think you must feel this from your readers and you probably know this, but you are so loved!! It is amazing to look in this "window" and see all God is doing in your family's life, and know He is the God orchestrating so many awesome things in all our lives – whether it's getting through hard times or experiencing good times.
Blessings family of five!!
Karen I.
Kristen Sass says
This is probably one of my favorite posts from you. I can just feel your excitement and love for Ashby. She is so lucky to have all of you as her family and I can tell you all are lucky to have her as well! I cannot wait to see what the future holds for your family. I'm looking forward to reading how Ashby learns and grows. Thanks for sharing. I've really enjoyed reading along! 🙂
Shelley Watson says
Thank you so much for sharing your adoption journey. My husband and I are considering adopting as well. What a blessing to be able to travel with your family to a different country and expose your children to such amazing things. I am so inspired by your blog. May the Lord continue to bless your family.
Andrea K says
Love following your journey of adopting Ashby & whats to come. God bless your sweet family. Safe travels! You all have such great hearts!
Janet says
Praying for safe travels home.
Megan says
I absolutely love this post! Thank you so much for sharing your journey with all your blog readers 🙂
Melanie Lien says
Shay, I know you are pretty private about intricate details of your life. Thank you for taking the time to shares about the adoption process. I know many people myself included plan to adopt one day. The unknowns make it so overwhelming. The more we share about it hopefully the more common it becomes!
Marty says
One of the things I love about the body of Christ is that we don't have to know people personally in order to pray for and encourage them. I prayed for you ALL last night as my head hit the pillow. Safe travels and Godspeed. I have loved reading all of your posts, but today's is one of my favorites. Soli Deo Gloria.
Kristen says
I have so enjoyed reading about your trip and especially getting to know Miss Ashby! She is just precious. Prayers for your trip home and the transition that follows. We are all cheering you on!
Emily Tate says
This was such a beautiful post! I may or may not have teared up many, many times while reading it 😉 God is so wonderful to have blessed your family with this calling and for placing Ashby into your lives. I'm looking forward to reading all about your cute little family of five!
Kim says
Everyday I look foward to coming here and reading about your journey. God Bless you all, can't wait to watch little Ashby grow with her new family.
Rachel says
I love following your story! A former co-worker of mine adopted a boy from China and blogged about their experience. She's very brutally honest and funny, and I thought you would appreciate reading it! http://ourjourneytojames.blogspot.com
Haley Southey says
She is BEAUTIFUL! Love her sweet smile and your happy posts! Love hearing about your travels and your heart!
B.Y.S. says
My parents have 2 boys of their own and they always wanted daughters but my Dad's has mostly boys, only one of my girl cousins on my Dad's side isn't adopted. My Dad's sister adopted 3 girls from different places. And my parents adopted me and my sister from Seoul, Korea before my Aunt adopted her girls. We picked up English pretty quickly though.
Amy
Cathy's World says
I read your blog every morning. I have been for some time now. Lately, I can't wait to read. This journey just warms my heart. Ashby is adorable. Praying for a safe trip home and an easy transition to your family of five.
Ansleighsmom says
safe travels home so happy for u guys! thanks so much for sharing this journey with us she is just adorable!
Helen Truesdale says
So happy for your family, you're almost home! I'm sure you already plan on doing this, but please post pictures of Ashby in her new room once y'all get home and settled in. Prayers for a safe flight back and smooth transition!
Anne says
Ohhhhh…such a sweet post! To see how God has worked in your family's life through the adoption of Ashby is such a testimony. Thanks for sharing your family moments with all of us…..soooo happy for your sweet family!
Dana Vissage says
what a sweet, sweet post!! My heart is so full for you all, also. I've teared up many times reading these posts! Safe travels back!
Anonymous says
I've been a long time reader but never commented. Wanted to say how much I've loved your coverage of China and Ashby. You are blessed to have each other. Please continue these detailed updates about how your family is adjusting with Ashby and vice versa. It's just beautiful to see you all figuring this out, and I especially love hearing about how your three kids are interacting.
Anonymous says
Also, please pay no mind to the hateful criticism directed toward your blog. It's fairly obvious that you keep parts of your life private, and for good reason. Anyone can see that you've got much more going on than what you choose to publish here, and that's as it should be. Keep on keepin on 🙂
Melissa says
God puts angels on earth to help others and I truly believe that you are all a family of angels.
Anonymous says
"The Family is of God"
"God gave us families
to help us become
what He wants us to be —
"This is how He shares His love,
for the fam'ly is of God."
This is a song sung by children. Their voices are so sweet. http://youtu.be/foKlppGj48A
It reminded me of your precious family.
You are a good mom.
Lindsey Ruston says
Thank you for sharing your family's journey with us! I've been a long time reader, but haven't commented before. Ashby is absolutely adorable, her smile is perfection! Congrats to your family of five and safe travels home!
Angela Banae says
Sooooo happy for you all! Shay, I'm tearing up at your story and want to say thank you, thank you…for sharing with all of us!!! God is so good 🙂
Amber says
LOVE LOVE LOVE everything about this post! So happy for your happy family! Many prayers as you trouble home!
Sarah says
God Bless you and your new family!!! You have lots of wonderful love to give and both Ashby and you, Andrew and the kids are so lucky to have each other.
ILS Becky says
Thanks for sharing your adoption story, Shay! Ashby looks as smitten with the Shulls as I'm sure you are with her. I'm going to pray that she becomes a Yankee fan! (-;
Liz | Ellie and Addie says
Congratulations on your journey! Thank you for sharing it with all of us, I'm so happy for your little family!!
Kelly says
Thank you so much for sharing your adoption journey with everyone. My heart swells with love every time I read your posts, and I have shed many tears over your story. You are a special family to do what you're doing and travel so far to adopt a beautiful child and give her a loving home. Ashby is very lucky to have you all and I know she is going to fit well into your family. Please keep the updates coming — they are incredibly heart warming! God bless you all and safe travels home.
Courtney Willis says
Can't wait to welcome your family of 5 home! So proud of you sweet friend!
Jaren says
I feel so blessed to have been able to follow along on such a beautiful journey! Through you and Andrew, God is really opening the eyes of so many. For all the negative things we hear about social media/internet, look at all the positive that can come out of it when we allow God to work through us. Thank you Shay!! I will be praying for you all to have a wonderful, safe return to Dallas. I can't wait to hear about your trip!!!
Michelle Ragsdale says
I have been blessed by your blog in so many ways…Thank you so much for sharing your life experiences…I'm so excited for your family, what an amazing journey! the relationship you have with Jesus, your family and friends is inspiring!
Elizabeth P says
I have enjoyed this journey so much. Thank you for sharing with us. I've cried more times than I'd like to admit. But when you're dealing with sweet, innocent children and love being shared, how can you not?
I will be praying for the transition as you arrive home.
I am proud of you for hearing AND obeying God's calling. It's so hard to do and your family has done it with grace.
Congratulations!
pleias says
Don't worry about anything Shay! We'll be there encouraging you and praying with you all the way!
Whitney S says
You are so right, God aligns all of the pieces perfectly in His timing. You are an angel, as is Ashby! Wishing you safe travels and a smoothe transition into the day to day.
Whitney S says
You are so right, God aligns all of the pieces perfectly in His timing. You are an angel, as is Ashby! Wishing you safe travels and a smoothe transition into the day to day.
Tanya says
Blessings to your family and safe travels HOME! Love seeing Ashby's smile.
Dawn says
Every morning, I look forward to reading your blog and hearing more about Ashby and your family. 9 times out of 10, tears have welled up in my eyes. I truly am so happy for Ashby to have the Shulls as a family. Sending hugs and prayers!
Jeanette Garofola says
Thank you for sharing your adoption journey! I've really loved reading all your posts from China and I've cried reading almost all if them! Happy tears though! You and Andrew are so special and amazing people for opening your hearts and hone to a beautiful baby girl! God bless and have a safe flight home.
Leslie LauBach says
My love and prayers for your beautiful family of five! Safe travels home and cannot wait to hear more. You are such an amazing mom! Love from Connecticut!
New Year New Me says
How exciting to finally go back home with Ashby. May God Bless you and your family and have a safe trip back.
Pink and Fabulous says
This post brought me to tears – what an amazing thing your family has done to make an even stronger, most special family. So much love and inspiration! Ashby is the luckiest girl in the world and I can only pray that there are more people like you out there <3
Lyn says
Dear Shay, I am a reader of your blog from the UK and have been following your "story" for about a year now. I have never commented before on any blog but felt compelled to after your most recent posts. You are a lovely family and Ashby is a very fortunate little girl to be found by you all. I know she will have a fantastic life with you all and I wish you all the happiness in the future.
Ida Arias says
Following along on your adoption journey has been amazing and inspiring. I will continue to follow along on your journey as a family of five and look into how adoption will be a blessing in our family too!
Mary says
Congratulations! You are all truly amazing and GOD is good:) Safe Travels back home! Enjoy your new Blessing. Lots of prayers from Cincinnati Ohio 🙂
MAK says
I have absolutely loved reading about ya'lls adoption journey. Too precious! Can't wait to watch Ashby grow.
Lynn {A Taste of Country} says
Safe travels to your 'mix and match' family… you're almost home!!!
Alison says
I am so happy for you all Shay. I'm crying tears of joy! Have a wonderful and safe journey home!
Kourtney O. says
Praying for a safe journey home to Texas for the sweet Shull five! It has been amazing following your journey with Ashby, and I can't wait to see how God will continue to use her and use your family as an example for others. Rejoicing with you in this special time for your family!
The Yarbrough's says
I can't imagine how excited ya'll are to get home. Thanks for sharing your journey. I've enjoyed it so much.
Emily says
I have been in tears reading your blog every day the last two weeks! I am SO happy for your family, and for one child to be taken out of an orphanage and into a home.
Anonymous says
I was saddened to read that Ashby has some long term health issues that need to be taken care of when you get home. Other than her hand I hope there is no serious issues. She is such a cute little girl and she is very courageous to make these transitions in her life. Hope you will tell us more as time goes on. I hope that your other little cutie photographer Kensington will share her photos in a scrapbook with the family of her travels so you can have a coffee table book for all that visit your home. It is around 8 am Wednesday for you so you all are probably packing it all up to return home. Safe travels and good thoughts .
Nicole Miller says
Loved reading your journey! Ashby has fit in perfectly and looks so happy and loved!
Anonymous says
Hi Shay,
First time commenter but long time follower of your blog. I'd just like to let you know that I see Christ in your family.
Ashby is such a lucky girl to be a part of a loving family. There's children's book written by Jamie Lee Curtis entitled " Tell Me Again About The Night I Was Born"- this book is wonderfully illustrated and would be a good book to share with your kiddos.
Best of luck and cheers to you all,
Jane
CaitCoak says
I hope you and your family of FIVE have a safe journey home. I am so glad I got to follow your journey to get your sweet Ashby. And I can not wait to read more and more about her progress once you guys are home. Prayers for your traveling and first few days and nights home 🙂
Sarah says
I'm so happy Ashby was so well cared for at the orphanage (not afraid of baths, etc)! I can't wait to see pictures of her once you're all home.
amoveableme.com says
Beautiful post, Shay 🙂 I got teary eyed especially reading about her washing herself. I am so, so glad God has placed her with your loving family!!!
Kari says
I've read a lot of different blog gotcha trips and you guys have really seemed to luck out by not having many adjustment issues. That's great! She seems like such an easy going little girl. Since your family loves to get out and about/go to the gym/ hit Starbucks/ have playdates, do you plan to do the usual cocooning that adoptive families do when you return to Texas? I'd be curious to hear your plans for that transition.
Tamara Rodrigues says
Shay and family, thank you so much for taking us all along on this journey with you. You have shared so many heartwarming moments and it has been such a joy to read these posts. I will be praying for your sweet family and Ashby, such a precious gift from God! Safe travels! Tamara
Melodie says
She probably doesn't move and is quiet when she wakes because she has suffered two and a half years of neglect. This is a common reaction among children coming out of an orphanage. Babies learn over time that their cry to have their needs met doesn't matter. So they stop crying. It's sad. Fortunately she is now in a family to receive healing.
Jamie D says
Just love your stories and your heart. So, so happy for you all. Continued prayers for a safe trip home. You have no idea how inspirational you are to a fellow mom (albeit a total stranger) halfway across the country. Thank you, Shay!
Jen Watts says
Chills and tears of happiness!! Get home safely!
Dawn Davis says
sorry for the unsolicited advice but just trying to be helpful. I'm an occupational therapist and since ashby is under 3 she is eligible for an evaluation for a service called early intervention.a team of therapist will come to your home and do an assessment that looks at all areas of development including speech fine motor gross motor social emotional etc. They can recommend where to go from there. This portion of the service is completely free and they woulcome to your home so it's very convenient for that reason I may likely be less stressful for her then taking her to a clinic
Elizabeth Birenbaum says
Thank YOU for sharing your journey with US! I have loved following along and am so, so happy for your family!
Kathy Olson says
I will be happy when you are all safely home. So happy for you and your family!
Susan Cardy says
Awww! So sweet?
Anonymous says
Ashby is beyond!! She is adorable!!!
Heather says
Love your blog! Prayers for safe travels home and I can't wait to read more about your journey as the Shull Five!
Elizabeth Park says
Hey Shay!!
I love reading your blog.. especially since the adoption of Ashby.. I always followed your blog after I discovered it from watching The Bachelor. While I kept up with your blog, I never really felt called to write comments, but with the adoption of Ashby, I feel strongly to write comments, encourage you guys and pray for you guys. What you guys are doing with adoption is truly a calling from the Lord, and it is so admirable that you guys have such a big, genuine heart for your child, Ashby, but also for the Lord. It really encourages and inspires me, as I feel called to adopt a disabled (in one way or another) child in the future (btw, I am a single 24 year old with no BF! haha). But, anyways, in all realness, as I was praying for you and the family today, I felt God was telling me you guys will adopt another child, a boy, to be a companion to Smith. Don't know from which country, but definitely a fourth child that is a boy.
God bless you guys!
Liz from Philadelphia.
Elizabeth Park says
Hey Shay!!
I love reading your blog.. especially since the adoption of Ashby.. I always followed your blog after I discovered it from watching The Bachelor. While I kept up with your blog, I never really felt called to write comments, but with the adoption of Ashby, I feel strongly to write comments, encourage you guys and pray for you guys. What you guys are doing with adoption is truly a calling from the Lord, and it is so admirable that you guys have such a big, genuine heart for your child, Ashby, but also for the Lord. It really encourages and inspires me, as I feel called to adopt a disabled (in one way or another) child in the future (btw, I am a single 24 year old with no BF! haha). But, anyways, in all realness, as I was praying for you and the family today, I felt God was telling me you guys will adopt another child, a boy, to be a companion to Smith. Don't know from which country, but definitely a fourth child that is a boy.
God bless you guys!
Liz from Philadelphia.
Queen In Between says
Prayers for your safe return. Have loved following along with this journey and pray for your transition at home.
Kim says
Oh Shay I have followed your blog for a couple of years (all the way from Toronto Canada!) mostly because of your recipes 😉
I have cried so much reading the last few posts! Ashby is sooo lucky to have found you. My goodness what a beautiful little girl you have. That little smile just warms my heart. God bless you and your family.
realmommypreneur.com says
I look forward to reading your posts everyday, because I know they will provide happiness, some tears, inspiration and who knows what else. Thanks for taking all your readers along on your family's journey. I'm sure Ashby will be very happy in her new home with you all.
Denise Ross says
Beautiful touching words Shay. I'm so honored to join you in this journey through your blog. I'm teary and my heart is filled with love for you and this time adopting Ashby. May God keep you close to Him as you continue on in this beautiful journey we call life xo
Elizabeth Park says
http://iamkoream.com/why-a-generation-of-adoptees-is-returning-to-south-korea/
Elizabeth Park says
Hey Shay,
Please check out the link to the KoreAm journal I posted. It talks about international adoption and especially for Asian adoptees that end up living in a white American majority culture that can be very diffiult to process for the child and very challenging for the parents to truly understand and empathize..
Melody Lietzau says
By far my favorite post. Thanks for sharing your heart on this Journey, for trusting the Lord and constantly bringing it back to Christ. Much love, Melody at http://countingourblessingslietzau.blogspot.com
Paula says
It is roughly 6:3p am THURSDAY! It's your travel H♡ME DAY! Praying for safe travels!
Unknown says
We need more pictures!!! She is just adorable!!!
Jeanie says
Shay, thank YOU for sharing this journey with us. It's been informative and fascinating. I'm somewhat amused that the adoption folder can't be opened until you're in the U.S. That sounds so old world — but in a good way. I love your notes about Ashby and look forward to watching her grow.
Angela Thayer says
This post is amazing. Thank you for sharing your trip with us! It was so fun to read all your posts. Your heart is so beautiful! Hope the journey home goes well for you all!
Unknown says
My heart is so full reading your posts and seeing Ashby's progress! I can't wait to continue this journey with your family via your blog. Thanks for sharing this story. I absolutely LOVE that she is smiling and already as much in love as y'all are!!
Congrats, Mama. You're doing a phenomenal job.
*Love from home in Dallas!*
Erin says
I have just binge read these posts — found your blog thru another who was excited for your adoption. I have cried and cried while reading these – of happiness and sadness. God Bless your family! Thank you for sharing this journey with me, a perfect stranger. Your family is adorable and sweet and so perfect. Congratulations on adopting sweet Ashby.
Cherry Blossoms says
Beautiful post! I have loved following your journey. Being a former adoption/ foster care social worker I have seen the messy and very emotional sides of adoption. Now, facing secondary infertility a part of my heart is turning towards adoption. Part of me is no, we are the three musketeers, sometimes one blessing in life becomes the biggest blessing you might need. but seeing your sweet Ashby and knowing the love that so many children in this world need has started to pull on my heart. I wish you and your family nothing but the best! -heidi
Lauren Turner says
I have followed your blog for such a long time and have been anticipating the arrival of Ashby..I think I am just as excited as your family is! He couldn't have guided her to a better family.
XOXO
Boppy says
Hello Shay, my sister told me about your blog and I'm so glad I checked it out. We are also in the process of adopting and it is so encouraging to read about your decision to step out in faith for God. I was like you, ready to give back to Jesus for the many blessings in my life. I am the proud mama of 2 beautiful girls and the adored wife of an amazing husband.
I came to a point in my life where I wanted to do something for Him, not knowing at the time that that something was international adoption. I was terrified at first, but decided to give me heart over to Christ's desire in my life and so here we are…6 months in to our 19 month wait for our son in Korea.
God bless you and your family for loving on His children and being a light in this world!!
Safe travels home 🙂
Sandy P says
I almost had to join instagram to comment on the airport picture. It bring tears to my eyes every time I look at it. There is just so much joy from everyone in the picture.
Rebecca says
I recognize that chair back! 😉 Didn't you just LOVE The Garden! We were thankful to spend both of our weeks in GZ and loved calling that home! Praying for your family and your precious Ashby as you find your new normal at home together!
Anonymous says
I love your little mix and match family! I've been checking everyday to see if you posted something about how Ashby is adapting to her new Texan life style! I know you probably have a lot to do now that you're back, so I forgive you 🙂 lol. Hope all goes well! Take care.
MissKimmie says
Thank you for all the inspiration. Adoption and blogging are now in the forefront of my prayer life. I started my blog tonight and my husband and I are beginning to pray about another sweet child. Thank you for being you.
Maureen Chen says
Hi Shay, In addition to helping Ashby learn English, will you also be finding ways to retain her Chinese language? Would you consider sending all 3 of your kids to Chinese school? I have a couple of friends who grew up in Texas going to Chinese school and church every week. What a gift you could give to all 3 of your kids 🙂
A lot of Chinese schools now offer CFL classes (Chinese as a Foreign Language). CFL classes are full of "mix and match" students, a perfect setting for all 3 of your kids, where Asian Americans and kids of all different ethnicities learn how to read, write, and speak Chinese. A lot of non-Asian parents want to give their kids an opportunity to learn Chinese now, when you think about Mandarin Chinese in our global society.
I identity with Ashby, as an Asian American, growing up in California, no matter how "American" I am, people still view me as Chinese, because that's how I physically look. Ashby will pick up Chinese so easily when she attends Chinese school because her brain is already wired with the Chinese language from the first 2.5 years of her life. Because of that, she will be perfectly bilingual in both Chinese and English.
I can totally see her siblings picking up another language, too!
There's a Time article that talks about how being monolingual is the new illiteracy and to be literate is to be bilingual. You could also look into the Chinese immersion programs, offered in public schools, where children will be bilingual in Mandarin and English by the time they graduate elementary school.
Giving your 3 kids the opportunity to attend Chinese school will present such wonderful gifts to them, including: being bilingual, connecting to their little sister's identity, allowing Ashby to maintain her mother tongue, giving them access to the global world, and embracing that part of Ashby that will always physically be there and obvious, her Chinese heritage.
Most importantly, thank you for inspiring us all with your story. Ashby is such a blessed girl to be a part of your loving family! You are an inspiration to us all! I am also a mother of 3, age 6 and under, and would love to hear your thoughts on having your 3 children attend Chinese school. Our oldest just started Chinese school and is setting the foundation for his younger two siblings to follow. My kids are also Asian American and giving them the gift of learning Mandarin Chinese is something I will offer them year after year.
P.S. I love the gigantic bows Ashby gets to wear on her head! Too adorable!
P.P.S. My family and I are looking forward to the new comedy sitcom, on ABC, "Fresh Off the Boat," starting Feb. It's about growing up Asian in American, and I think you will like it 🙂
Sailor Cottle says
Love reading your stories!! They sure do inspire!!! 🙂