One of my favorite days of the year happened this week…our scarf exchange!
So, I blog about this every year because it’s such a fun idea and I think you and your friends should do too! This was our sixth year in a row to have one and I’m telling you…it gets more and more fun every year.
Here’s what we do:
1: We always do it at the beginning of September because it gets us in the fall mood.
2: Everyone brings a scarf wrapped up so that we can’t see what the scarf looks like. (You can set a budget so that everyone is paying the same amount.)
3: We write down numbers on pieces of paper for how many of us there are. So if there are 12 of us, we write 1-12 on little strips of paper and then we all draw a random number.
4: Number one goes first and picks a scarf. They open and we all admire. Then #2 can either steal a scarf or pick another random wrapped package. And this goes on and on (like a White Elephant Exchange you might do at Christmas). The scarf can only be stolen twice before it gets frozen and then cannot be stolen again. At the end, we let #1 go again and she can either keep her original scarf or exchange it with anyone wearing an unfrozen scarf.
Okay, if your friends aren’t into scarves, then change it up! Host a bracelet exchange, candle exchange, bath product exchange, etc. This is such a fun way to spend a girls night out!
Here is a little look back at our scarf exchanges…
And then this year…
…clearly someone was missing.
Sweet Manda loved our scarf exchanges so much, and I can’t even begin to tell you about the void that was there on Tuesday night.
Manda died on February 26 and about a week later, her husband called me and asked me when our next scarf exchange was. I told him that it’s always in September and he said he was saving Manda’s scarves for us and he wanted me to surprise everyone with one the night of. So, two weeks ago, I went over to his house to get the scarves and he handed me just a big bunch of them and as I turned to walk down the sidewalk back to my car, I burst into tears…because they all still smelled like her. Grief is hard.
So, I came home and a few days later, wrapped up each scarf for my friends. That night, right before we did our real scarf exchange, I told them I had a surprise for them and then randomly handed them wrapped up gifts. They all opened them at once and I told them they were Manda’s.
Oh sweet Manda. We miss her so much.
Here we are wearing our Manda scarves…
…it was her first scarf exchange to miss, but thanks to her sweet husband, she was still there with us.
My girlfriends are like family to me. I love these ladies more than words can say. We have had a rough last few years…but through it all, we’ve handled it together. I’m blessed by each and every one of them. We miss our friend so much. Life is short, ladies. Love on your girlfriends while you have the chance. xo