I would say that our biggest hurdle this month is not saying “no”. Our social worker really encourages us not to say “no” to Ashby at this point. Children with her background don’t do well with the word no (they are so used to neglect, being told no, not getting anything, no one caring about them that it helps them bond and attach if they’re not constantly told no). We have been encouraged to “redirect” instead of saying no. This works in theory beautifully but in real life…it’s tricky. She likes to dump her plate on the floor when she’s done eating, she likes to touch oven, she likes to help me empty the dishwasher and goes straight to the knives each time, she likes to jump on the bed…you know, sometimes a good “no” is in order to keep one from hurting themselves. We redirect as much as possible but listen, she’s two. Two year olds are funny little people and redirecting doesn’t always work. We’re walking that tightrope between redirecting and being firm with some solid rules.
March is going to be a big month for our sweet girl. On March 18, we go to court and get to “re-adopt” Ashby here in the United States. This is just a formality to get her a US birth certificate and allow us to get her a passport but it is the absolute very last step in the adoption process. The judge will declare her Ashby London Shull once and for all and we just cannot wait.
Then the next day, Ashby has her first appointment with the specialist about her hand. We are prepared for a very long road ahead. We’ve been told surgeries and physical therapy will be in order. So, we’re just praying for wisdom, direction and healing as we start this process.
We are so thankful for this little girl. I really have a hard time imagining life without her.
Need a quick little dessert? My Mini Irish Cream Pies are a great St. Paddy’s Day treat…