Happy THURSDAY, friends!
I hope you have all had the best week so far. We arrived home yesterday from Walt Disney World and now…it’s back to reality (which is always great but much less magical). My kiddos still have the rest of the week off for Fall Break and my plan is to squeeze as many “fall/Halloween/October-y” things into the next two days (as well as dental visits too because…#momlife).
I’m kicking off our Thursday with this month’s LET’S LOOK!
If you don’t know what LET’S LOOK is, once a month, Erika and I do a little link up where we “look” at different aspects of our lives (and then if you blog, you share and link up too!). We have been doing this little linky party for years now, and it’s always one of my favorite posts each month because most of the topics are YOUR suggestions!
Just as a reminder, here’s what we have “looked at” in 2026 (all your suggestions!)…
In January, we looked at THINGS WE OUTSOURCE WITHOUT REGRET.
In February, we looked at WAYS WE’VE TURNED INTO OUR PARENTS.
In March, we looked at FAVORITE FAMILY VACATIONS.
In April, we looked at the HARDEST THINGS WE’VE EVER DONE.
In May, we looked at MAKING COUPLE FRIENDS.
In June, we looked at WHAT I’M MAKING MORE TIME FOR.
In July, we looked at OUR SUMMER SELVES (HOW IT’S DIFFERENT)
In August, we looked at THINGS WE MISS.
In September, we looked at THE FREE THINGS THAT BRING US JOY.
And today, we’re looking at THINGS WE’VE OUTGROWN.
Awwwww.
Hmmmmm.
You ladies picked these topics (not me!), and I’m not sure if you were looking for light and funny or deep and serious, so I sat here and just typed out the first things that came to mind when I thought of “things I’ve outgrown”. It’s kind of a mixed bag.
I do think this post came at a really good time in my life because I don’t know if it’s my age (a few days shy of 45), the fact that I’m postmenopausal (sigh) or what, but I seem to fit every funny meme or stereotype out there right now and am embracing it fully 😉 .
Please note, I am definitely a work in progress. Take everything I type below with a grain of salt. I haven’t perfected these things, I’m just working on outgrowing them.
In no particular order, here’s what I came up with…these are things I’ve outgrown…
FOMO
Yup. I have realized in my old age that I better just try and make the best/enjoy/savor/accept whatever I currently am doing and not what I “could be” doing. Sometimes that’s harder than other times, but it’s a choice that’s been made (I’m not there, I’m here), so I can be sad about the “could have” or just embrace the reality of the “this is where I am”.
It’s just easier not to have FOMO…once I realized that, it was easier to outgrow it.
SAYING YES TO FAMILY COMMITMENTS
Oh I hope my mom isn’t reading today’s blog post…but if she is, she knows I have absolutely outgrown this one. Here’s the deal…I have a big family who all have lived in the same area forever and ever. Outside of my brother, everyone even went to college in said same area. We are an awesome, amazing, loving, fun family with whom I always enjoy spending time with when we get together. The thing is, I just don’t have the time to do all.the.things and when I do have the time, often, I just need that downtime.
I am the oldest cousin and have the oldest children which means that my family’s schedule just looks really different than everyone else’s. One of these days, they’ll all catch up and see how bananas it can be balancing this stage of life and then guess what? I’ll be an empty nester by then with oodles of time and they will all need to outgrow saying yes to me. It will come full circle. I know it will.
I used to cram extra family time into any blank space my family had on the calendar, but now, I don’t do that because my family often needs that blank space. We do as much as we can with them when we can, but I have outgrown always saying yes and/or making our schedule any more full than absolutely necessary.
WAITING IN LINE
I have outgrown waiting in line. Andrew has not outgrown this, so we butt heads from time to time. I don’t know, one day, I just realized that I don’t want to wait in line any more. I first realized this one night when we had an hour wait at a restaurant. I realized standing there that it felt more like a cattle call than a nice meal and well, that isn’t very appetizing.
We have some favorite spots on Nantucket where, depending on the day of the week/time of year, you can get some big lines out front. Andrew knows that if we walk up, and it’s 50 people deep, I’m probably not going to wait. I just would rather do anything else besides standing and waiting around. It beats me down.
GUILT
I have really, really, really, really worked on giving myself grace over guilt. This is certainly something I’m working on and haven’t perfected, but whenever I feel guilty about a mom thing or how I handled something at work, as long as I’ve rectified it/made any necessary apologies/etc, I am reminding myself to cut out the guilt and give myself grace. I’m not perfect. I’m very human. And guilt wins no battles in my life.
SNACKING
Yeah, I think I’m over snacking. I try really hard to eat a few really good meals each day and then that’s it. I don’t need that afternoon snack. That was more of a habit than a need in the first place. I’ve outgrown it.
SLEEPING IN
I love the morning time way too much. I have outgrown sleeping in. When I sleep in, I miss the early dark hours with my coffee and Bible study. I miss the sunrise. I miss the quiet of my house. I miss the frosty air or the birds singing. I love all of these things way more than I do sleeping in.
SKIPPING THE GYM
I have become one of “those people” who workout every day. What I outgrew was the feeling I had of “is this a workout day or not a workout day?”. “If today isn’t a workout day, do I have time to make tomorrow one?” and on and on and on. That narrative was a beatdown to me. Once I realized it was just easier to get up and workout each day, it just all became easier. There is no push and pull. It just happens. It freed up this mental load I didn’t realize I was carrying around exercise and fitness.
EXPECTATIONS OF ME
I’m over here doing my best, people. I have quite a few balls in the air and really enjoy my “own time” as well…so I might not be the person you want me to be. I’m over here trying to be the person I want me to be (and who she is based on Jesus), so I really can’t be who I want me to be and what you want me to be at the same time. That’s too much. If I disappoint someone or let them down, well, I hate that and my heart is always in the right place…but I just can’t focus too much on your expectation of me any more.
RUSHING AROUND
I have absolutely outgrown rushing around. Do I still do it from time to time? Yes. Do I chide myself each time? Without a doubt. I don’t find rushing around an acceptable practice for me any more. It makes me anxious, stresses me out, makes me irritable, causes me to forget things/make mistakes. Nope. I don’t like that.
ASPARAGUS
Not just asparagus…any food that just isn’t my favorite. Is asparagus bad? No. Is it my favorite? No. I’ve outgrown eating things that I don’t love. I want to really love everything I’m eating. I don’t want to just think it’s okay and/or tolerate it.
BAD TV
I will quit a show so fast that your head will spin. I have outgrown any TV that I don’t find exceptional.
BEING ACCESSIBLE
I’ve totally outgrown this one. Just because I have a phone with me pretty much 24/7 does not mean that I have to stop what I’m doing to answer it, reply to a text, answer an email, comment back on one of the dozen “group me-type apps” on my phone. Others don’t get to demand my attention 24/7 at their will.
EXPLAINING
I’ve outgrown explaining. Nos can just be a “no” without a long explanation.
SCARY MOVIES
I really value my sleep and a scary movie does that no favors. I honestly don’t think I personally gain anything positive from a scary movie, so I don’t watch them.
RATTY PJS
I like a pajama set that matches. It’s a little detail that just makes me feel nice when I go to sleep.
HOLLYWOOD
This is random but you guys, I’m over “Hollywood”. I have unfollowed so many celebrities on social media and stopped watching awards shows. I don’t dislike them, I just don’t think I’m their audience any more. I think I’ve outgrown the movie star and instead replaced her with an influencer I find inspiring. There was a time when I loved People magazine, but now, I just don’t care. I’d rather spend that time reading a great blog post or home decor magazine that leaves me motivated and encouraged.
QUANTITY OVER QUALITY FRIENDSHIPS
There was a time when, especially as a young mom, I needed a lot of friends. These friends were great for playdates and feeling connected to my community. This season was so special and really meant the world to me. Over the years though, I’ve really enjoyed pouring myself into fewer friendships but being able to really connect on a more personal level. It’s hard to have extra time to pour into friendships, and for me, today, I would rather take any time I have to be a really, really good friend to fewer people than stretch myself too thin with many.
NOISY CARS
My husband and my older two children drive noisy cars. They selected these cars and/or added details to these cars to make them a bit noisier. They love how the noisy cars sound. I can’t hear myself think. I select cars based on quiet and cupholders. I want my ride to be oh so silent…I don’t care if that makes me sound “old” (Smith Shull), I’ve outgrown a noisy car. 😉
STAYING UP LATE
Nope. If you ever see me staying up late then you know that I’m doing something I REALLY want to do. I have outgrown staying up late. I am a morning person, not an evening person. I want to go to bed early and sleep soundly. I do not want to stay up late.
THE IDEA THAT SOMETHING IS “FOREVER”
The older I get, the more I realize that I’ve outgrown the idea of “forever”. There are a lot of things in life I hope and pray are forever, but I’ve realized that we grow, we change, life happens, and well, things change. We can plan for forever and pray for forever, but it’s also okay to pivot when we have outgrown whatever that “forever” was…because over time, things change. I’ve outgrown being inflexible over this concept.
Whew!
Okay, those are some of the things I have outgrown.
Next month…
…we are looking at WAYS WE SHOW UP FOR OTHERS!
I think this is the perfect November topic 🙂 .
Okay, I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to know what you have outgrown! Please, please comment and share!
Don’t forget, if you blogged along with us today, please make sure you link up below.
Have the best Thursday, friends! It’s so good to be back with you today. I always miss you when I’m gone.
I will see you back here tomorrow. xx
Elspeth Mizner says
I’ve outgrown always saying yes, bad tv, and overcomitting! Love these link ups!
http://www.elspethsdaybyday.com
Susan Jeffries says
I have also outgrown so many of the same things. Especially Hollywood. It seems ridiculous and talentless now. On my list is also any sort of drama – I just walk away and close the door – and almost all tv – I read and crochet or sit on the porch with our dogs in the evenings. Much enjoying a simpler life.
Alison says
I hope you guys had so much fun at Disney! I was with you in how I didn’t know how to interpret this topic. When I read your section about Noisy Cars I laughed out loud. I can just remember when I was a teenager, I wanted loud mufflers and to be heard. Now, I’m with you, I want my car so silent. No noise. And, thank you for speaking about Hollywood. I didn’t even think of that one, but since you mentioned it, I thought, I don’t care anything about celebrities in Hollywood either. It’s baffling how times have changed with that, but I honestly just don’t care about all their comments and political agendas anymore. I hope you all have a great rest of your Fall Break!
Laura Fuller says
I am working on outgrowing being accessible. I am with you on working out daily (Club Pilates is my fave!), sleeping in, going to bed early (8:30!), scary movies (why!!), and waiting in line.
Jess says
Love this. As I’ve gotten older a lot of the social pressures are things I want to leave behind. Example – Christmas Cards. I’ve decided for the first time since my kids were born I’m not sending them. I stopped enjoying it a few years ago and my list has dwindled a bit. So I’m retiring it! Now to to let the guilt go!
Mix and Match Mama says
Ohhhhhh what a great example! Let it go! Retire! Next year or in ten years, you can change your mind. I love that you’re letting it go (and the guilt!) this year.
Kelly Sites says
I LOVE this post. And I laughed at quitting Hollywood. I didn’t realize it, but I have quietly quit Hollywood too. It’s so so so filled with drama and excess. I mean, sorry, but they have an acting skill that God gave them, yet act like the world revolves around them most of the time. There are the few that are classy and humble, and I love that. But I’m over it and paying attention to the drama it all brings. I feel free. (hahaha). I also don’t care anymore about a DNF with a book I don’t love. I used to be a die hard read it to the end. But nope if you don’t grab me by page 70 ish, then I’m done. Too many books, too little time. It feels very free to have the ability to quit what doesn’t work for me anymore. I desire deep peace and making my home a sanctuary, so anything that disturbs that is OUT.
Have a super beautiful day. The fall colors in Michigan are WINNING today. So beautiful.
Carolyn says
I loved this one. Thank you for sharing!
Katherine Darlington says
I actually LOVE this post and I’m older than you, but have outgrown some of the same things. I think all the “ick” and “disgust” that’s come out of Hollywood has helped me outgrow celebrities faster. As I get older, I’m cherishing little things more, like getting ice cream, mostly due to my 9 yr old grandson. Thank you for sharing!
Laura Fredlund says
Great post! Thanks for sharing. Ive recently realized ive outgrown a lot of things. Im at this weird stage in life, im 37, my two youngest kids (out of 5) are 1 and almost 4.. boys that keep me oh so busy. Im still discovering what this “change” is. Mid life crisis, already? Feels like it haha. Ive outgrown fomo, people pleasing, doing it ALL, etc.
Emilee says
I’ve outgrown lattes. They are so sweet and decadent that they feel like a meal. I drink my coffee almost black and at 34 I feel like that makes me a real adult. 🤣
Mix and Match Mama says
Ohhhhhh! That’s a good one for me too!!! I’m sipping my black coffee and typing this very sentence 🙂 !
Allison says
Yes to almost ALL of these! I gave up staying up late years ago. It’s not for me. Celebrities and Hollywood… couldn’t care less about them. Not in a mean way, I just don’t know you or care. Yep – gave up scary movies a long time ago for the same reason. I love pajama sets, it feels so much better getting into bed! And yes to not rushing around. Great list!!
Kristen says
What is a “noisy car”? Is that a southern thing? I’ve never heard of that in NE.. or is it just a loud engine? So curious what type of cars are they and did you buy them each a car when they got their license?
Mix and Match Mama says
I am absolutely messing it up, but it’s the engine or muffler or whatever…they like ’em loud. I like to actually be able to hear myself think when in a vehicle. I don’t get it?!
Robin says
Amen to all of that…..except lines. I’ll still wait but my hubby has outgrown 😉
Kelli says
YES and YES. AMEN. Middle age has this beautiful way of sanctifying and restoring back to us what we allowed the younger years to take while we were figuring things out. Do I wish I could go back and change the way my people pleasing ways dictated my life? Of course, but I can’t. So I move forward with grace for that girl, but a strong confidence in my outgrowing of things! Great post 🙂
Paige E says
OMGoodness this post resonated with me. I want to save this one to reread for sure. I still struggle with some of these things, but reading someone else working on them validates and encourages me. Not saying yes to every family event is a big one for me coming with a big ole side of guilt for saying no. I also have a large family and everyone is in the same town, which is wonderful. But not being there for everything can’t mean I care less or love less. It just can’t. Also being everything to everyone. These mental items wear. me. out. And Hollywood, and cauliflower and cottage cheese (yes I said it) byeeeee. Lets continue to look for God’s guidance on these things daily. Thank you for sharing your heart!
Carrie says
I love this list, and cracked up at “noisy cars!” I think this is cultural. Our family moved to an area of the country where this is popular, and as transplants, we didn’t understand the appeal of making a car louder. Can someone please explain this to me?!
Mix and Match Mama says
And me too!!
Kerri Myers says
I agree with so many of these but I love the Hollywood one. Couldn’t agree more, thank you for adding that one.
Paula Hobbs says
These are all so good. I can relate to most everything on your list. I was in the car with our 24 year old daughter last weekend and I was worried about missing my exit so I turned the volume down on the radio and she laughed and said “are you turning down the radio so you can see”? We just both laughed out loud.
Mix and Match Mama says
I do that all the time. Hahahahaha!
Beth Valenta says
What a great one today…I always told my daughter throughout her school years, that she had outgrown a certain friend. I have outgrown Drama with women friends/colleagues, I am way to happy with my everyday life to get drawn in. I have outgrown ridgid meal plans…I may completely change my mind in the afternoon and want ChickFila and that is ok. I have outgrown TV in general. I find that I enjoy cooking shows and Friends, but I would much rather listen to soft music. I have outgrown certain types of clothing. If it is tight around the neck, too short, etc. I am getting rid of it. I have outgrown late nights and large parties. I want a few couples or besties to play a game or enjoy a great appetizer.
Mix and Match Mama says
Yes, yes, and YES to every one of these!!
Laura Fuller says
I returned 3 out of 3 sweaters yesterday because they are too tight at the neck! The adjacent issue is I do not want to wear a V-neck (same thing as showing my twin friends to the world).
Dawn Scheurich says
I love this!! Without really realizing I was doing it, I have also “outgrown” so many of the same things on your list (especially Hollywood about a decade ago)! It’s so wonderful to give permission to yourself to let go of certain expectations and habits that no longer fit in our lives. Jesus gives us grace and we should give ourselves the same.
Have a great rest of your week!
Meg P says
Love these! I used to always have FOMO and I think I have gotten so much better about it over the years. I was recently taught the term JOMO (joy of missing out) and think that often applies too. 🙂
Christina K says
I love this list! Yes, I am over FOMO of doing things that make our family life chaotic with time scheduling. Yes, would I love to try and schedule in that corn maze that is 1+ hours from the house, sure. But we have done that and we are settling for the pumpkin patch at a local church and enjoying the downtime too. I am choosing peaceful family time over overcommitments. I am over overthinking. God has a plan and trust he is with me and my choices for a reason.
Lee Ann Vicary says
I remember when I was in my early 30s the first time I asked someone if something was wrong with their truck or if it was supposed to sound like that. (It in fact sounded just like they wanted it to.) Auto related – if its a great weather day and I have my sunroof open and you pull up next to me and your windows are all up and your music is so loud that it makes my car vibrate – I’m old enough to really be over that. I’m not so old that I make an ugly face about it, but I am really glad when the light changes.
Heather says
This is a great post! So many things hit home for me. I have learned you can’t please everyone all of the time. And that’s ok. I’ve done the best I can, feel good about my choices and if you don’t fill my cup then it’s time to move on. I love that someone posted JOMO instead of FOMO- yes! I love that I’m ok not saying yes to everyone and everything feeling confident in speaking my feelings and not constantly worrying about what everyone else thinks of me!
Sarah says
Shay! I never ever comment but as a 40 year old mom of older kids, I LOVE THIS! I agree with every single one of these! SPOT ON!
Nades says
So you have a family that you supposedly love and is close to each other in care and distance yet you have outgrown family commitments. I have lived over 1500 miles away from my family since my 20s. The amount of family commitments that my kids and I and my husband have missed is outrageous. And in that time people have passed. You are lucky- take advantage of the family you have and be there for them. You can rest later. You will regret it if you don’t.
Mix and Match Mama says
I am super fortunate to live close to my family and see them often. I actually see them quite a lot…but I don’t have to show up to everything. I have to take into consideration that a lot of the “happenings” are happening with empty nesters who are retired. Their schedule and mine look very different. If I tried to fit our lives into their plans every single time, it would be a disservice to my own little family.
Katie says
It’s okay for you who lives away from family to miss them and wish you could see them more but it also okay for those of us that live in the same town as our entire extended family to set boundaries. There are about 40 of us and if we went to all birthday parties, ballgames, get together we’d never be home. We had to start saying no to some things to better use our time as an immediate family. It’s okay to do that. We have had a lot of older family members pass in the last 10 years but I still have no regret over the times I said no. We still see each other about once or twice a month. Just because you live far away from your family doesn’t mean those of us that live close must do every single activity because we can.
Joanana says
100% yes to quitting Hollywood – now I can’t figure out why I used to care??
Christine says
That’s not some, that is a lot and spot on. You are not getting older, you are getting wiser. I too have done this in certain stages of my life. It’s healthy. You grow from doing so and make others grow too.
Lorraine says
A few things I’ve given up.
Background music. Give me all the quiet. If I’m not actively listening, I turn it off.
TV shows and podcasts. I want a beginning and an end. I don’t want to have to commit to the next new season. Give me a book and a movie. Is this strange?
The passed down sentimental items. I used to say yes to every thing of value my mom or MIL was getting rid of. Now I say no. When things are just dropped off at our house, I no longer feel guilty taking them to good will.
Jess W says
FOMO is a big one for me that I’ve outgrown. I realize I can’t be at all the things or do all the things at the same time. I have to make my decision and be okay with that.
Janet says
I think this is one of my favorite posts you have written! Loved it and could identify to just about every single thing. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Valerie A says
What a great post. It really made me think of what I’ve decided I’m over. Recently I took a flight to visit family for a weekend and to go to my high school reunion. Normally I would have extra outfits, over pack, and check a bag. This time I made a point to just take the minimum and do only a carry on. I decided that I was over the anxiety of the “what if” and decided to just a make a decision of what I was wearing to dinner, tours, the game and just stick with it. It was so freeing. I’ve also decided as I’ve gotten older that I am not going to stress so much about what people think of what I’m wearing as being cute or stylish. My focus now is just to be present and enjoy others and try to be of service.
jennibell says
Noisy cars – ha! My son has a truck that is SO LOUD and I’m thankful he no longer lives with us so I don’t have to hear it start every morning. I can just imagine what the neighbors would think – I’m guessing in the apartment complex he lives he might not be the only one?? And I don’t really CARE what others think but there is an expectation of respect for those sleeping in, with little kids, etc. in a neighborhood, right? Funny that you have three of those people in your life!
So many of these are true as we mature and “grow into” who we are, right? And some are seasonal – like your comment about friends. I think I’m going to ponder this and if I have time join the link-up 🙂
Faith says
I wish we learned these things earlier in life but it is freeing to get to this point. I do think it’s an age thing.
I have outgrown caring what others think. To a point. As a woman, I still have my struggles with this. But I will be comfortable and wear what I like. I will carry a purse I like even if it’s not the latest “it” bag. I could go on.
I have outgrown feeling guilty for saying no…..most of the time. Work in progress.
I have also stopped following many influencers. You are not one of them obviously. ☺️ But it was not healthy to follow some of them and so many of them. I understand their job but the amount of products, supplements, drinks, latest fashion, home decor, etc that is shown each day can be overwhelming.
You are the exception because of the balance you offer. I am often encouraged spiritually and in my health journey. I love your recipes and the fashion finds you share.
Now if only you can help me be more of a morning person 🥴😉 I am a night owl through and through.
Mix and Match Mama says
Thank you so much, Faith. Your time here means more to me than you’ll ever know. I’m grateful for you. xx
Robyn Beers says
Great post! It is too bad that it takes so many years to realize you can “outgrow” something much earlier than most do. I’d add I’ve “outgrown” finishing books that just don’t do it for me. I used to think I needed to finish a book especially since I spent money on it, but not anymore. Life is too short to read bad books. 🙂
Mix and Match Mama says
Great one!!
Laci Murray says
This is exactly where I am in life! I realized a few months ago that I am completely burned out and I started prioritizing things that make my life rich again. I love what I love and I am not trying to be something I am not!
Lauren says
I’ve outgrown participating in small talk, especially in a circumstance when we are told to mingle with people we don’t know or “go make a friend.” If I ever find myself in a position that I need to make some friends, I’ll participate again. But right now I’m good.
Emily Baker says
Such a great post! I’ve outgrown Hollywood and celebrities for sure. I do not have time for their drama (and politics in everything)! I also liked one of the other comments that pointed out Christmas cards! I used to spend so much time doing them, only to get called out for the one family member or friend that I accidentally left off the list! Nobody has time for that!
Stephanie Snyder says
100% agree with so many of these, but especially Hollywood and bad tv. I am so over the awards and just the “Hollywood” life. Bye bye People and U.S. Weekly, but I sure do love a good influencer and lifestyle posts/advice. And who has time to sit and waste on something that is not good/solid/entertaining! Great list, love it all!
leslie says
So, its not just me that no longer has interest in People magazine?!? And do not get me started on noisy cars OR staying up late!
Mix and Match Mama says
All of a sudden one day, I realized I never even bothered to pick it up in the grocery store checkout line. I just didn’t care.
Kristen says
I actually outgrew my magazine habit.. but I do log onto peoplemagazine.com every day to get a quick hit of the top celeb news for the day and that satisfactory for me!
Jen Burchill says
Wow, Shay. These are really good! I have outgrown many of the items on your list. I too have outgrown my noisy car, but I have also outgrown a car payment, so for now, it is what it is. Outgrowing friends is also something that I am navigating. Just because there is a longevity history does not mean that you have to be friends forever.
Mary says
Honestly Shay, I could have written this myself! Yes to all of these! The one other thing I would add is I’m over waiting for others to invite me. I now invite others to do things I want to do. And if the answer is no, I do things on my own. It’s quite freeing to feel you can go to a class, movie or event by yourself!
Arika says
I hope you do a Disney review when things settle down. They are my most favorite posts!!
Mix and Match Mama says
I will!!
Brooke says
Cattle call. Yes! I have referred to a particular restaurant as “herding us like cattle” and I do not want to do it!
Ellen says
I knew I had outgrown Hollywood when I realized didn’t know who any of the “Olivias” were and can’t keep the “Chrises” straight!
So, do you just eat lunch and dinner? I think I’d die of hunger, LOL!
Mix and Match Mama says
I just lol! Most days, I’ll eat a protein bar or have a protein shake and then eat two really solid meals.
K.K. says
I’m in the same boat on sooo many!!
I admire being over explaining; I still want to avoid being misunderstood more than I care to admit, but I think I’m just about okay with that too! Ha!!
I’m so with you on Hollywood, and honestly, I’ve outgrown most new shows/streaming. We have none. I want to watch college football, the Olympics, and my favorite 90s romcoms… then I rather read or be outside!!
Claudia says
Hi Shay! Curious about the inclusion of “snacking” because I know you often post TJ’s hauls that include new/seasonal goodies that you munch on with your afternoon coffee. Do you mean more so that you’ve outgrown mindless or habitual snacking?
Mix and Match Mama says
Good question! I probably should, but I don’t count a cup of coffee and one little pumpkin cookie as a snack. But yes, I will often have a little something sweet with my afternoon coffee. I used to have cheese and crackers and almonds for a snack…something really hearty but then, I realized that was more out of habit than hunger. Since I’m eating much more now at lunch, I just don’t feel hungry (that was also part of my problem, my lunches used to be too small).
Jennifer C. says
Oh my gosh, I LOVED this post and so many of your thoughts resonated with me! A couple others that came to mind…I have outgrown drinking. Does this mean I’ll never have a cocktail? No. But I just don’t really like how I feel with alcohol in my system anymore and ain’t nobody got time for sleeping poorly or a hangover! I’ve also outgrown bras that aren’t comfortable. I spent years choosing bras that made me look “fuller”…but 9/10 times, they were uncomfortable. So I’m over here with comfy bras and small boobs, living my best life. And I’ve outgrown the elliptical. Don’t put me on that thing ever again. Thanks for bringing us along as you grow and change. You’re an inspiration and I always leave your blog happy!
Mix and Match Mama says
Oh I love your list too, Jennifer! Thank YOU for sharing! xx
Kelly says
I wish I had realized that I had the ability to say no to family expectations when I was younger. My parents have both passed now and I still feel resentment about my Mom demanding that we attend every single family gathering without any consideration of what my family needed. Naptime, schoolwork, extra-curricular activities are a lot. As nice as it is to see family and spend time together, it can be too much sometimes. But instead of feeling guilty about my own failure to protect my kids from one more requirement, I have just promised myself that I will not do the same thing to my kids. They are all out of the house now and whenever we have some kind of family get together, I always make sure they know that if it doesn’t work for them, it’s totally fine. They won’t hurt my feelings. I understand how busy life can be and I want them to do what’s best for them.
Shirley says
This year, I got off a committee at church that was taking up a lot of my time, especially on holidays. Instead, I spent Mother’s and Father’s Day with my aging parents, which I hadn’t done in several years (because I was obligated to celebrating those holidays at church). Most of my extended family also came to spend the weekends with Mom & Dad. Then in August, my 89 year old dad unexpectedly died. I was so thankful that I had prioritized family this year and spent extra time with my parents. Listen to what your heart is telling you – it is very smart!
Vickiy says
This is such an insightful and confirming post. As has been said so eloquently above I agree with everyone except I do like asparagus. LOL. And you are a daily gift in my life.
Mix and Match Mama says
Thank YOU for being here, Vickiy. Thank you, thank you!
Debra says
Love this topic – really made me think
Things I have given up:
Celebrities, people magazine years ago. I don’t even know who most of these people are anymore.
Reality shows years ago – constant drama, bad energy – who needs that?
Long lines – I will come back or go somewhere else
Saying yes to everything – now I say yes to have tos and the things that bring me joy
Christmas cards – I may stop this year – so much time spent on these. Or I may just shorten my list to family and really close friends.
Mix and Match Mama says
I love this list, Debra!! xx
Leslie S says
Holding on to things passed down or that have sentimental value to someone else. Like I used to feel obligated to keep it bc it was so and so’s favorite. Not anymore. I hit 50+ and it just all felt so heavy. I purged.
I want to have room for things I love and use often. I want to have what I love and love what I have.
Mix and Match Mama says
Oh this is a really, really good one!
Susan P Fitzpatrick says
You are probably at the busiest time of your life so I am glad you are giving yourself grace. I’ve gone through that time and I’m on the other end. I have more time for me. I am with you on many of these especially Hollywood. I have never been a big fan of celebrities in the first place so I could care less what they are doing. I have outgrown keeping up with TV series. I am probably the only one who hasn’t watched Breaking Bad and other popular shows. I just don’t watch alot of TV! I would rather read a book instead. I do love my college football though!
Jaren says
I feel so many of these!! I totally relate to the noise in the car!
Amanda Whitley says
I absolutely love this post. Thanks for sharing!
Laura Holmes says
I love this topic! So interesting. What you said about giving up the idea of forever… this really resonated with me right now. I liked that you do not seem bitter about it either. Just a realization that the things we love or want to hold onto sometimes need to change and evolve. Such a good positive outlook. I’m going to hold on to that one. I have college age kiddos. So, we are in the empty nest phase. Everything feels like it’s changing. Mostly for good. But, the change is still hard.
Mix and Match Mama says
Change is really hard. I don’t love it either. I haven’t learned how to fight it, so I’m *trying* to find joy when it happens. xx
Dee says
I decided during the pandemic that I’d no longer force myself to read a book I didn’t like. I’m in 2 book clubs and have mostly adhered to it.
I never really cared about celebrities other than if I liked watching them in movies or tv. I used to watch some award shows for the clothes but don’t care about that anymore either.
We’re retired now and the thing we don’t say no to (if at all possible) is spending time with our little granddaughters. We know the time will come that they’re too busy with friends and activities. It’s a pleasure for us, especially when their eyes light up when they see us.
Dawn K says
This one really resonated with me. And I’m way late reading (so busy I save my favorites to come back and read when I have time!!) and I’m much older than you (just turned 60!) and later learning these lessons but YES to all of them. Work in progress but I so much enjoyed reading these and the comments as well. Thanks so much for sharing 🙂