Well, tomorrow marks three and a half years since we got our Ashby London.
Three and a half years!
I don’t know what to think about that. Honestly…this adoption recap has me a little stumped. Part of me thinks it feels like yesterday that we sat there in that little office waiting for them to bring her in (I was a complete mess of emotions…everything from excited to nervous, scared, overjoyed, impatient, and beyond thrilled)…but then, I have a really hard time remembering our family without Ashby in it. Like the other day, I tried thinking about living in our house with just the big two and it was really hard for me to think of a memory. It just seems wrong. Ashby has been in our lives for 3.5 years, but in our hearts for so much longer than that.
Miss Ashby turned six last month and boy oh boy, I feel like she grew over night. She is just BIG now.
We try and talk about adoption when it seems organic and natural. You know…there is a fine balance between never mentioning it (and her feeling really secure as a Shull and not set apart at all) and talking about it all the time (making her feel like she’s not one of us, an outsider). We talk about it often, but try and develop those conversations naturally.
On our trip last week, we were just having a normal day eating lunch and she said to me “Remember when I was in the orphanage? I cried when I met you because I didn’t know what a mommy was, but now I do!”.
I mean…out of the mouths of babes, right?
Now, I don’t know if she remembers the orphanage or just remembers hearing our stories and seeing the photos and videos, but she’s right. She didn’t know what a mommy was because she didn’t have one and didn’t see that relationship modeled in her daily life…but now, she does. She said it with such joy and happiness like “isn’t it cool that I know now”. She’s getting older…she’s thinking about adoption and starting the conversations on her own now…which is beautiful.
I know I say this all the time, but Ashby is just SWEET. My other three kids are sweet too, but they all can also be a little ornery as well. Not Ashby. I promise you…the other three have their moments of bad attitudes, selfishness, jealousy, pride, whining and so on (unfortunately like their parents from time to time), but Ashby…she is just ALWAYS sweet. Always.
The big topic of conversation these days is kindergarten starting at the end of August. She is so excited! I just know Ashby will do fantastic!
This girl…she rocks our world. She’s quirky, funny, self-deprecating, loving and full of joy. Her whole world revolves around Barbies, Frozen, swimming, riding her bike and of course, Bowen (who will be in kinder with her too, but probably in a different class!).
Three and a half years.
I kind of love that the anniversary falls on July 4th.
We are so thankful for our Ashby.
I’m taking tomorrow off to spend time with my peeps, but come back on Thursday friends…part one of our Scotland and Ireland vacation recap will be up! xo
If you really want to get to know our adoption stories (or take a peek back in time), you can see some other post adoption posts right here…
To see more about our journey to adopt Ashby, see below: