Friends! I’m so happy to be back here with you!!! I took a few weeks off from work and blogging to enjoy Christmas and a ski vacation with my fam, but I’m back and ready to jump into 2019 with you. I know I say this every time, but geez, I miss you guys when I’m gone. I hope each and every one of you had a wonderful holiday season. I must say, there is absolutely no better way fo me to kick off 2019 than with ASHBY’S 4TH GOTCHA DAY!
A post where I can gush on sweet Ashby? Yes, please!
Friday, January 4th, we celebrated four amazing years with this sweet girl…
Sometimes, I really try and remember life without Ashby, but it’s hard for me. I know we were happy and there was joy in our home, but it’s honestly hard to picture it without Ashby there.
Four years ago, we waited there in that civil affairs office in Xi’an, China for them to bring in our baby girl. For about 6 months, we had looked at her little picture and wondered what she would be like. We waited, we were excited, we were nervous, we were giddy, we were unsure, we were a whole lot of everything all at one time. They carried her in and honest to goodness, as soon as they handed her to me (she was screaming and crying), I knew she was mine. That tiny little 2.5 year old body just felt like my baby against me.
I cannot imagine all the emotions in her mind at that time. I’m sure she was scared. She was nervous. She was sad. She was grieving. She was all of those things and more. And she was brave.
I wish each and every one of you were to know Ashby. She is sweet, silly, she talks really loud, she giggles a lot, she loves to play with other people, she laughs easily, she’s super talkative, she loves to give kisses and huggies (that’s her word), she loves to cuddle and she loves to ask questions. She genuinely loves people with her whole heart too. She is the kid that looks so forward to speech therapy because she just loves the therapist so much. She’s the kiddo that when we’re having framily nights, she can be found sitting in Tab’s lap or giving Erika a hug. She is just PERSONABLE! The few of us that get to see Ashby at her most vulnerable also know this…she is tough.
Friends, Klippel-Trenaunay Syndrome is a daily battle.
Ashby is in pain every single day.
Ashby wakes up with knots and clots more often than I’d like to count.
Ashby is often seen doing things around the house and/or school with her arm up in the air because that’s how she relieves pressure when it gets too bad. She would never tell you she’s in pain, she simply just raises her arm and continues with what she’s doing.
Ashby does not like help.
She wants to put on her own shoes, open her own cup (she uses her chin many times as a second hand), she wants to take her own shower, brush her own hair, buckle her own seatbelt, fasten her own buttons…Ashby does NOT want your help. She can do it on her own.
This sweet girl started kindergarten this year, and she’s doing so well! She’s learning to read, to write stories, and she was even recognized with a special award at the beginning of December. Ashby has made new friends and comes home happy and excited every day.
Ashby is pure joy.
We’ve talked a lot about her birth family lately. It comes up organically, and we just go with it. On the way to dance the other day, she asked me if I thought her birth mom was dead.
I told her that I had no reason to think so, and asked her why she asked. Her answer? Because maybe that’s why she couldn’t keep me.
Adoption is complicated, y’all.
Our number one goal from the beginning has been to make sure Ashby knows she’s loved. We want her to know she’s loved by us and also by her birth family too. Her birth mama carried her to term and left her somewhere she knew Ashby would be found…that’s love, friends. That’s love.
The thing about a Gotcha Day is that we didn’t just “get her”, she GOT ALL OF US. She has everyone of us wrapped around her little finger. We are madly, truly and deeply in love with this precious girl.
Four years of Ashby London and every one of us are the better for it.
She has changed so many with her positive spirit, her strength, her bravery and her sweet, sweet heart.
We love this girl so very much!!!!!
Anyone else in tears?! I am just typing this!!!!
Okay, that wraps up today’s post.
I started an ADOPTION FACEBOOK GROUP last January for anyone who has adopted/is interested in adoption and it has grown into a FANTASTIC group that is very supporting, loving and encouraging to all of us in the adoption community. If you would like to join, you just need to send in a request and answer the three questions. I am always so encouraged by these women in this group!
Don’t forget, on Wednesday Erika and I kick off this…
This month’s topic is LET’S LOOK AT THE COZIEST SPOT IN YOUR HOUSE!
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Happy Monday, friends! It’s so good to be back home with YOU!!!
AND PSSSSSST: If you really want to get to know our adoption stories (or take a peek back in time), you can see some other post adoption posts right here…
To see more about our journey to adopt Ashby, see below: