Today’s post is all about ASHBY’S 5TH GOTCHA DAY!!
On Saturday, January 4th, we celebrated five amazing years with this sweet girl…
…five is a big deal with Chinese adoptions because that signifies the end of China’s interest in our adoption. No more social worker, no more paperwork, no more annual visits/required documentation…we.are.done!
Oh gosh, where do I begin? Five years ago…
…they handed me the sweetest 2½ year old little girl dressed in brand new winter clothes and clutching a banana. She was crying, she was sad, she was confused, but it was love at first site for this mom. We had prayed for Ashby London, waited for her, talked about her, thought about, were so excited to finally meet her and she exceeded all of our expectations.
Part of me wishes I had that snuggly two year old back…but then a bigger part of me is so happy that now, I have this confident, vivacious, funny, silly, sweet seven year that feels so secure about her place in our family.
This was about an hour after we met her. Look at that sweet face!!!
This was about five days after we became a family. Friends, adoption changes everything.
Five years with Ashby London Shull.
All the personality. All the spunk. All the fun. All the strength.
We love you, Ashby!
I want to point out before I leave today that adoption is so beautiful but complicated too. On New Year’s Eve night, we were at our special dinner celebrating the end of 2019 when Ashby asked a question that ended with Andrew, Kensington, Smith, Ashby and me all sobbing at the table. (Madeley was too interested in buttering her bread to care about the crying.) I’m not going to go into details, but it was an innocent question that lead us into a conversation that just made us all cry. It was deep and complex and simple and beautiful and tragic all at the same time. It wasn’t little tears…it was sobs at our table, but they were okay because they pushed us, helped us grow and strengthened us a family that night. Most of the time, I forget about adoption over here. You know? We’re such a unit, a family, we don’t see each other as anything other than meant to be here that you forget about adoption (just like I forget about childbirth and pregnancy and don’t think about that every day either), but then it sneaks up on you and you have a really raw moment about the hurt and pain that involves adoption and yet it’s cleansing and healthy too. I just wanted you to know, if you’re in it now and it seems complicated, that sometimes, it’s complicated at our table too.
If you have thought about adoption, either domestic or international, let 2020 be the year that you act. Let this be the year you do something about it. There are MILLIONS of kids just like Ashby who have so much joy in their hearts, have so many giggles, have so many cuddles, have so much to offer the world if someone could just help them find a forever home. Let this be the year you take that first step and then maybe it will also be the year they get their family.
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